The part that was the hardest for me was the homesickness and having to adjust to a totally different climate and small town culture from where I was from.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I still hear people say that marriage is 50/50%. No, divorce is 50/50 (or whatever was set up). Marriage is 100/100%. Both sides have to make it want to work. While there is effort that is put into my marriage, I would not call it hard. Mostly, it is about respecting and trusting each other. If you don't have that, it is difficult to make it work. It helps to also love each other but that is not always necessary.
The part that was the hardest for me was the homesickness and having to adjust to a totally different climate and small town culture from where I was from.
Wayne and I got married in 1981.
He got offered a big promotion, in 1996.
I worried, a little, about moving from Northeast Ohio, to Fort Worth ,Texas .
But, it really looked like a good move, for our family.
I was a little homesick, too, Lindley.
There were some adjustments to be made, for sure.
But, we made it. No big problems.
I guess I just wonder, why do some couples make it, and some don't?
FWM, two divorces later I am not one to base the answer on. However, I was all for a team effort. The other's were not. I would have moved anywhere if needed. i was just stupid in my decision in my husbands. They were not on board for the commit I was willing to make.
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Even when both are "on the same page" or "of the same mind" you are still making your work because you are both in working toward the same end.
Therefore, you do work on your marriage.
Anytime you both discuss something, that's working on your marrige.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
FWM, two divorces later I am not one to base the answer on. However, I was all for a team effort. The other's were not. I would have moved anywhere if needed. i was just stupid in my decision in my husbands. They were not on board for the commit I was willing to make.
Me too but one 16 year marriage and one 7 year LTR. I tried. They didn't. As the song says.. can't find love on a one way street.
I've been married twice. First DH died
after 36 wonderful years.
Four years later, I met DH2, and we
married a year later. We both understood
that we had a past (wonderful) relationship.
The "work" that is involved is making sure
that your spouse has your full support and
interest. I had hardly ever been fishing,
but DH2 was an avid fisherman. Guess
what? I found out that I really enjoyed
fishing. And he found out that he really
enjoyed trying out new foods/recipes.
FWM, two divorces later I am not one to base the answer on. However, I was all for a team effort. The other's were not. I would have moved anywhere if needed. i was just stupid in my decision in my husbands. They were not on board for the commit I was willing to make.
Me too but one 16 year marriage and one 7 year LTR. I tried. They didn't. As the song says.. can't find love on a one way street.
It's hard when the other one refuses to give 100%, no almost impossible, one can't do it alone.
FWM, two divorces later I am not one to base the answer on. However, I was all for a team effort. The other's were not. I would have moved anywhere if needed. i was just stupid in my decision in my husbands. They were not on board for the commit I was willing to make.
Me too but one 16 year marriage and one 7 year LTR. I tried. They didn't. As the song says.. can't find love on a one way street.
It's hard when the other one refuses to give 100%, no almost impossible, one can't do it alone.
All of this.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
First marriage, I gave everything, even gave up myself to please him. Still wasn't enough.
With G, no...we don't have to work on it. We just are. We take care of each other, we don't divvy out chores. We do what needs to be done. We laugh. A LOT. We hold hands...we have our own language. We are perfect for each other. We've had about 5 good fights in our 14 year marriage. We're just happy and appreciative of the relationship we have...
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America guarantees equal opportunity, not equal outcome...
I have to work on myself - patience, reason, temper, etc, but that's the work involved in becoming a better person all around and that benefits all relationships. That is the work that it takes. My marriage itself doesn't take work.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
well, we're together 25 years come january--married for over twenty of those--have been head over heels since the moment we met--at times, just can't believe it's been that long--seems like maybe four or five years
her happiness and well-being are more important to me than anything else in this world--sharing her life has been a privilege and the supreme honour of my own life--we've never had to " work " on our relationship--it flows naturally, easily like sunlight
we found each other and everything else has just fallen into place--one of the very few miracles have personally experienced in this life
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