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Family Plays Politics With Child's Birthday Party

Oct 08, 2018      

 

DEAR ABBY: I recently received an invitation to a dear friend's grandson's 5th birthday party. In lieu of gifts, donations were requested to a choice of politically affiliated "charitable" organizations. I cannot, in good conscience, support any of them.

What's the appropriate course of action here? Must I give the child a gift anyway, or just stay away from the party? I really don't want to get into any political discussions with either the parents or the grandparents, and I think there would be hurt feelings if I don't show up. -- IN A BIND

DEAR IN A BIND: What a shame that a child's party was used as an excuse for a political fundraiser. I can't imagine any 5-year-old being "thrilled" to receive a political donation as a birthday gift.

However, because the child is the grandson of a "dear" friend, I do think a gift is in order. Make it something a 5-year-old will enjoy, have it delivered, and find an excuse not to attend if you feel it will devolve into something you prefer to avoid. Hurt feelings or not, you are not obligated to go to the party.



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Some people really have lost their minds.

How stupid!

I feel sorry for that 5 year old.cry



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At that age it's all about gifts and quantity over quality. He will be very disappointed if he doesn't receive something tangible. Those parents should be ashamed of themselves.

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I would just go ahead and bring a gift for the child, I'm sure the child will greatly appreciate it. My granddaughters 6th birthday party my dd requested no gifts, but the kids brought gifts anyway.

The reason for no gifts is they thought she had way to many toys. My sil lived two years in Calcutta so I think he didn't want them to focus on material things especially since their grandparents lavish gifts on them

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I would not be worried about a friend's grandchild's party.

I'd have other plans.

Send the kid a coloring book.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

I would not be worried about a friend's grandchild's party.

I'd have other plans.

Send the kid a coloring book.

 

I'm just not that into kids lol, the thought of having to go to one's party makes me shudder



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a while back, received a wedding invitation from a couple that were marrying in the springtime--have known the groom since childhood, the bride have never met--in lieu of gifts, were asked to make a donation to one of several radical organizations--frankly, couldn't believe it--the groom and myself worked for a conservative organization in our college days, have been conservatives all of our lives so had to conclude that this was the bride's idea--in any case, besides the gesture being incredibly rude(in my estimation) would not give a red cent to those organizations for any reason--my lady suggested that we just not reply at all--decided to call the groom myself and explain why we would not be attending or contributing to anyone's pet " charities " but would instead be sending a bottle of 75-year old scotch for their nuptials--he laughed and then said " she was hell-bent on doing the invitations that way. would like to see y'all but thanks for the scotch just the same. "

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If the child asked for donations to be made to the organization, I'd be ok with doing so in the child's name. If the request is because that's what the parents want, nope. It's the kid's birthday. My gift will be something the child wants. The parents can request a gift on their birthday.

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chef wrote:

If the child asked for donations to be made to the organization, I'd be ok with doing so in the child's name. If the request is because that's what the parents want, nope. It's the kid's birthday. My gift will be something the child wants. The parents can request a gift on their birthday.

  I agree.  Especially  if  their request  are for something  I wouldn't  support  like plan parenthood  or political  causes I don't  support  



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I see kids here ask for donations to the animal shelter. That's sweet.

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Southern_Belle wrote:

I see kids here ask for donations to the animal shelter. That's sweet.

 I love when kids ask for support to charities like this.  As Lindley said, if the invite asks for political organization donations I call BS on this being a kid's request.



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Buy the kid a slime kit! Bwwaaaahaaahaaaaaa!

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Wow.
I would send the noisiest toy I could find. A drum kit or a fart machine.

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Or finger paints !



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I really hate that sort of thing. Ugh.

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We did a Secret Santa one year and one of the guys was like, oh just make a donation to the Red Cross in my name. I mean, it was like a $10 limit or something. That's just obnoxious, sorry. This was just supposed to be a fun thing and we don't need to constantly drown some frivolous fun things in life with political or serious overtones. Sheesh.

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Send bouncy balls. Those really heavy ones that can put a window out.

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Play dough

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Lindley wrote:

Play dough

You took the words right out of my mouth!!!!! biggrin 



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Ohfour wrote:
Lindley wrote:

Play dough

You took the words right out of my mouth!!!!! biggrin 

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I just ignore it when people do stuff like this with the "donate to this instead" blah blah.

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I do, too.

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