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What do you do when a facebook friend passes? I now have two facebook friends who have died. One was a few years ago and I have left him on my friends list. He was a neighbor and a friend's husband. His grown children still post on his wall saying they love and miss him, kind of depressing. The other one just died a day or so ago. He was just someone I friended from a game but we would exchange conversation from time to time. I just found out he died because people are writing on his wall. No clue what happened. He hadn't been sick, he was probably 40 ish. Do you guys delete someone when they are no longer with us or just leave them on your friends list?



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I don't "do" Facebook. Sorry.

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well if you did what would you do? I am curious about what happened to this guy because he had just resurfaced after a year and was posting about how he was newly single and "watch out ladies!"

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I guess, if I had been close to them, I might leave them for awhile? I'll ask DH tonight. He has FB.

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Luckily, I haven't had to deal with this much. A guy I went to high school with died from ALS a couple years ago. There isn't much activity, but once in a while, his friends will tag him in a picture from the old days or about ALS charity activity. They have a golf outing in his memory, so there were pictures of that a couple weeks ago. It's not all the time, so when it pops up, it's nice to remember him.

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I've kept the people on my fb. My dear friend died last year, an ex-boyfriend died 2 years ago today, and another dear friend who died Christmas day 2 years ago. All three of them are still on my facebook. Sometimes I just like to see their faces.

I don't have any 'acquaintances" on my fb. They're all really friends or family

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I think it depends on how close you are to the person, but if it was me I would lean toward deleting. It doesn't mean you don't care.

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I made sure I wasn't following them. Cause FB would still post things or bring their likes up and that got on my nerves. But the birthday reminder was the last straw.

I finally unfriended them.



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I will unfriend him in a few weeks. From what's been posted on his wall it looks like he committed suicide. So sad.

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I keep them on my friends list until/unless their page gets de-activated. I would hate to unintentionally offend or upset someone for unfriending their dead relative.

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How would somebody else know you unfriended their dead relative? Even if they were on the person's page, I'm pretty sure they would have more important things on their mind than the friend's list.

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I'm still Facebook friends with a young girl who went to school with my DD. She died in a car accident this last may.
I will keep her as a friend for as long as I have my Facebook.
It's nice seeing the things her family posts in her page and how her own DD is growing up.

If you want to unfriend these people I'm sure no on will notice, just do so.
One lady on geek table said it was tacky for anyone to post things on a dead person's Facebook page but I disagree. Her family has already expressed how nice it is for them to have that and to read it.



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VetteGirl wrote:

How would somebody else know you unfriended their dead relative? Even if they were on the person's page, I'm pretty sure they would have more important things on their mind than the friend's list.


 Depending on one's settings, the number of friends one has is displayed.

I have to do what feels right to me though and that is keeping the person as a friend until such event happens that would make me feel ok unfriending them.



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I have this problem occasionally. What's more - sometimes they pop up on Pinterest saying I should invite them. It's disturbing, but I can't bring myself to unfriend them.

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