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As some of you know my son has aspergers.  He's very high functioning but has his issues.  As this story will show.  My next door neighbor does carpentry.  He is excellent.  So my son has now decided he wants to build something.  Lo and behold someone at church is getting married.  He decided to build them a gift for their wedding.  He's out in the garage pounding away.  He pulls a muscle in his knee/leg.  He comes in and asks me what to do.  Being a nurse I tell him, put ice on it, elevate it, and take some Alleve.  But he's still whining and wants to go to the ER.  Now the ER will cost us $200.  I nix that idea really quickly because I already know what they will say.  Next he wants to go to the minor emergency.  I nix that as he just needs to rest his leg.

About a week later I come home and there's an ambulance outside my house.  Oh lord, what is going on...  I go in and he's called 911 because his knee "popped" and hurts.  They look at him and say nothing's wrong.  I nix the ride to the ER.  But my son keeps on about what pain he is in and blah blah blah.  Yes, he's a hypochondriac.  Definitely!

So I finally break down and tell him I'll take him to our family doctor but he's got to pay the four dollar copay.  No biggie.  I drag him all the way in there and she says, "Put ice on it, elevate it, and take Alleve.  You probably pulled something and it will take awhile to heal."  I ask him if he remembers what I told him.  Then he gets all coy and says no.  Good thing DH was gone.  He'd probably have killed him!



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I live on the other end of that problem. DS fell yesterday and his face landed on the top, front edge of a wooden chair.

Me: Oh my! DS are you ok.
DS: Sure mom, I'm fine.
Me: Are you sure, that was a hard fall?
DS: Mom!

Today, DS can't open his mouth without his jaw giving this loud crack and he keeps holding the side of his face. He doesn't want to call the dr because he doesn't want to miss any work. He takes 2 Alleve, I drop him off at work and then I call the dentist. They want to see him pronto. They suspect he has knocked his jaw out of alignment. DS's idea of pronto is tomorrow morning so he doesn't miss work.

He never notices pain until it would be off the charts for someone else. It's frustrating.



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My DD can be the same way. Everything is an emergency. She wasn't like that until she started hanging out with a certain female. They go to the ER vs. the doctor because they have no ins and don't pay their bills and the ER can't turn them away.

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But it's not about money with him. He's a freaking hypochondriac! I TOLD him what the doctor would say. There was no need in him even going. DH used to be a medic. But he never listens to us. It's so frustrating.

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DD thinks she needs to go to the emergency room for a cough or an ache. I could be bleeding out of my eyes and I'll try to wait it out.

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Oh yes. I know what you mean. And DS told me, "YOU went to the minor emergency when you fell and sprained your ankle." Well, yes. I did. My ankle was swollen about twice it's normal size. If not bigger. And the bruising immediately began and wrapped around my foot and up my leg. Oh, and let's not forget that I tore off a flap of skin we though might need a stitch or two to stay back in place. Completely different story than him. He had no swelling and no bruising. And they did do x-rays because I've had so many problems with that same knee. Two previous knee surgeries. But mostly I wanted pain killers. I was WAY past the Alleve point at that time.

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I'm glad he'll be ok :)

DE: I hope your son heals quickly :)

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I have a combination of the two. Between NJN and DE.

He will let the things I really need to know go and go on and on about the little things.

I have learned to watch.

At first I ask the series of questions. Where, how, what. Most of the time he cant really put it into words.

Then I make a decision.

If I decide to wait I give it a couple hours while watching him. What he is doing and acting.

Then I decide again.

If after 12-24 hours he is still complaining, we go to the doctor.

I felt really bad one time because I kept telling him he was ok when he kept telling me he was sick. I finally gave in and took him to the doctor cause I thought it would prove I was right. Well he was really sick and had to have two weeks of antibiotics.

I know it isn't the same as a visible injury. Just saying is all.


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