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Squeakers · Regular

RE: Thursday already!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Squeakers wrote:
Never mind. Sub forum. Found it.

Can't wait to see!

flan

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

So DH is coming home late tomorrow night or early Saturday. Yeah.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

yay!

Empyreal · Senior Member

Guess who's singing the national anthem in the 7th inning of the Giant's game!?! MY HONEY! Chris Isaak! Oh baby...
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Empyreal · Senior Member

Divine Geek · Guru

Anyone else ever feel like they want to make friends, but don't know how?

I must have been sick that day in kindergarten

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Sure DG. Just be yourself.

Divine Geek · Guru

Southern_Belle wrote:
Sure DG. Just be yourself.

But being myself is sitting alone with my nose in a book. Not very friendly....

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Divine Geek wrote:
Anyone else ever feel like they want to make friends, but don't know how?

I must have been sick that day in kindergarten

Yeah. I feel like that a lot.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

It's really hard these days. No one interacts anymore. We all either play with some type of device or stick our heads in a book.

Squeakers · Regular

Divine Geek wrote:
Southern_Belle wrote:
Sure DG. Just be yourself.
But being myself is sitting alone with my nose in a book. Not very friendly....

Try a class or club.

VoiceOfReason · Guru

Well I prefer you guys to both real life and imaginary so I'm no help at all.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

I'm lucky that I made several close friends at work.

flan

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

We are imaginary. I could be some fat dude in a wife beater tank top who is smoking cigarettes and drinking beer.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I've seen your picture. You're nice looking for a fat dude in a wife beater tank top who is smoking cigarettes and drinking beer.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I clean up well.

Divine Geek · Guru

I am fairly active in my church. But even then, I'm working on whatever I have to do, but I don't really know how to interact with people.

This is just me thinking out loud. I am slowly pushing myself out of my comfort zone

NAOW · Vette's SS

I just jumped in DG. I just told myself 'who cares if anyone thinks I'm weird' or whatever. I talk to people a lot now. Just put yourself out there, what I've realized is everyone else is feeling just as shy and unsure about starting up a conversation too. And most people agree that it's hard to meet new friends and would like to get a few. :)

Divine Geek · Guru

I don't think jumping in would be healthy. Last week, we didn't have service at our church, we were at another one in town for their anniversary celebration. It's a much bigger church then ours, I had to resist the urge to run out the door. And I gave myself a bruise from snapping the hair elastic on my wrist. I have some issues it would seem

NAOW · Vette's SS

Yea, maybe a little slower then. I hope you find what works for you.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Maybe you can start by just making sure to make eye contact with people and smile or say hello. Then it will help people approach you and might take the pressure off?

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

I'm still in the "actively avoid people" mode.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I alternate between wanting friends and actively avoiding people.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

NAOW wrote:
Yea, maybe a little slower then. I hope you find what works for you.

DH still keeps in contact (occasionally) with friends from college, high school and even grade school.

Those were my "invisible" years. College was something that I'd rather forget.

dg, there is NOTHING wrong with being a late bloomer. Nothing at all.

flan

Divine Geek · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I alternate between wanting friends and actively avoiding people.

Me too. It's like I like the IDEA of friends, but can't quite wrap my head around the actual process

VoiceOfReason · Guru

Honestly, I dont like the pressure of irl friendships. I find it's a responsibility and sometimes im not the most responsible person.

So, I'm good for hanging out with you here if you cant sleep but I'm not inclined to go shopping with you in real life.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Divine Geek wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I alternate between wanting friends and actively avoiding people.
Me too. It's like I like the IDEA of friends, but can't quite wrap my head around the actual process

You have just defined my feelings perfectly.

Divine Geek · Guru

flan327 wrote:
NAOW wrote:
Yea, maybe a little slower then. I hope you find what works for you.
DH still keeps in contact (occasionally) with friends from college, high school and even grade school.
Those were my "invisible" years. College was something that I'd rather forget.
dg, there is NOTHING wrong with being a late bloomer. Nothing at all.
flan

A friend I did make at church was talking about high school, we went to the same high school, but I'm 4 years older than him, so we were not there at the same time. I said it wouldn't have mattered, we wouldn't have been friends in high school. He didn't understand why. I said you were the beloved star basketball player and I was the girl no one noticed.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

VoiceOfReason wrote:
Honestly, I dont like the pressure of irl friendships. I find it's a responsibility and sometimes im not the most responsible person.

So, I'm good for hanging out with you here if you cant sleep but I'm not inclined to go shopping with you in real life.

I hate shopping, period. Even my DH and DD drive me nuts!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Divine Geek wrote:
flan327 wrote:
NAOW wrote:
Yea, maybe a little slower then. I hope you find what works for you.
DH still keeps in contact (occasionally) with friends from college, high school and even grade school.
Those were my "invisible" years. College was something that I'd rather forget.
dg, there is NOTHING wrong with being a late bloomer. Nothing at all.
flan
A friend I did make at church was talking about high school, we went to the same high school, but I'm 4 years older than him, so we were not there at the same time. I said it wouldn't have mattered, we wouldn't have been friends in high school. He didn't understand why. I said you were the beloved star basketball player and I was the girl no one noticed.

OMG

Once DH said that he wished he had met me earlier.

No, actually you don't. I had ZERO personality and even LESS self-esteem.

flan

Divine Geek · Guru

Lol Flan, totally! He kept insisting that we would have been friends because he was friends with all groups. I said nope, you would have come to me if you needed help with your homework, but that's it

Vette · Owl drink to that!

DG I know exactly how you feel. I have a hard time making friends, in fact I don't have one single IRL friend and I haven't for years. Sometimes I get really lonely and wish I had a girlfriend to hang out with.

Luckily I have you, you are the closest friend I have (and also the farthest)

chef · Guru

Divine Geek wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I alternate between wanting friends and actively avoiding people.
Me too. It's like I like the IDEA of friends, but can't quite wrap my head around the actual process

This is me too.

I have some friends but don't have and don't want a large circle. I'm still working on being comfortable with my friend count nearly doubling due to marriage and getting some Mommy friends. I've always been a loner. Sometimes, I think I'd like more friends then I realize that I really don't have the desire to put forth the effort in forging new friendships. I'm a person who is very loyal and will not spread rumors, gossip, or lies about you. I also don't tell secrets. Finding people who share those same qualities is difficult.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I had some people I thought were friends but now that they don't need me for help or to keep them company during lonely times they have vanished.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

VetteGirl wrote:
DG I know exactly how you feel. I have a hard time making friends, in fact I don't have one single IRL friend and I haven't for years. Sometimes I get really lonely and wish I had a girlfriend to hang out with.

Luckily I have you, you are the closest friend I have (and also the farthest)

I'd be your friend. I'm probably too boring for you though.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
DG I know exactly how you feel. I have a hard time making friends, in fact I don't have one single IRL friend and I haven't for years. Sometimes I get really lonely and wish I had a girlfriend to hang out with.

Luckily I have you, you are the closest friend I have (and also the farthest)
I'd be your friend. I'm probably too boring for you though.

When I met you NJN you were the opposite of boring!!!

Vette · Owl drink to that!

And you're one up on DG because I haven't met her yet!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Sigh. Only because my kid and DH got into an underwear discussion at the restaurant table.

NAOW · Vette's SS

VoiceOfReason wrote:
Honestly, I dont like the pressure of irl friendships. I find it's a responsibility and sometimes im not the most responsible person.

So, I'm good for hanging out with you here if you cant sleep but I'm not inclined to go shopping with you in real life.

Ok, this is me too.

But I've found that finding good friends (meaning people who mesh well with you) takes the pressure off, but they are hard to find. I've also let myself off the hook of maintaining every friendship that drains me. I've gotten really good at saying no and not feeling bad about it.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

VetteGirl wrote:
And you're one up on DG because I haven't met her yet!

Hey, I do have that going for me.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
And you're one up on DG because I haven't met her yet!
Hey, I do have that going for me.

Yeah, you never know, DG might really be a 50 year old virgin in his mom's basement

NAOW · Vette's SS

My 2 closest friends right now are almost 15 years older than me. Their kids and dd have been going to school together since preschool. There is no drama. No hurt feelings about stupid stuff. We get together and visit and have a good time and then go home. It's easy. Which I think is how it should be.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

VetteGirl wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
And you're one up on DG because I haven't met her yet!
Hey, I do have that going for me.
Yeah, you never know, DG might really be a 50 year old virgin in his mom's basement

I bet she/he is.

NAOW · Vette's SS

I would love to meet all of you! Just for lunch at first to make sure your not a bunch of weirdos wink

Renegade Time Lord · Am I A Good Man?

In regards to making friends, I find this difficult to do. For some reason, people seem to think I am really weird and strange and judge immediately before actually getting to know me. My interests are quite eclectic as well, so I am sure that does not help. I am quite the quirky, geeky, nerdy type, but no one would guess until I open my mouth!

I am for the most part, witty, respectful, and kind, with decent morals and values. And I am myself. What people see online is what they get in person. I would like to have more friends to visit with, instead of the few I visit with now. The negativity of the friends I currently have is getting old. Not one positive thing going on with them, only negative. All I hear is whining, bitching and moaning, "oh, woe is me", and it is difficult to have to listen to it all the time.

People at work for the most part tend to not talk to me. In an office of 40-45 people, only one greets me with a good morning (or a welcome back when I return from vacation). If I say Good Morning to someone else, they just look at me (oh, my, the weird dude is speaking to me!). It is a nice feeling to know that at least 1 person acknowledges my existence; that I am more than just a body in a cubicle farm.

While an introvert, I am very good with socializing if I have to. I can initiate chat with strangers without scaring them away, and people seem to enjoy chatting when we do.

I empathize with what others have posted above. And I am not a creepy-looking person, either, so I can possibly rule out my physical appearance as a barrier! biggrin But I have gotten along all this time on my own, so I will persist and carry on. I am ever hopeful that someone will find me a worthy friend, but if this does not happen, I will be okay anyway. smile

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

NAOW wrote:
I would love to meet all of you! Just for lunch at first to make sure your not a bunch of weirdos

I'm a weirdo. Sorry.

Divine Geek · Guru

VetteGirl wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
And you're one up on DG because I haven't met her yet!
Hey, I do have that going for me.
Yeah, you never know, DG might really be a 50 year old virgin in his mom's basement

Well, you might be a flat-wearing. 49ers fan!

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Aw renegade your post made me sad and happy at the same time. You are a good person.

Vette · Owl drink to that!

Divine Geek wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
VetteGirl wrote:
And you're one up on DG because I haven't met her yet!
Hey, I do have that going for me.
Yeah, you never know, DG might really be a 50 year old virgin in his mom's basement
Well, you might be a flat-wearing. 49ers fan!

WHOA whoa whoa whoa whoa! Below the belt missy!