My dogs gets treats from the store, and then I forget about them til they are old and stale, but my dogs are so excited to finally get treats they eat them anyway
NAOW I told you the other day you should be my dog in another life.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Try slicing bananas and freezing them. We lay them out on parchment paper and then put them in freezer bags once frozen. Layla loves them!
Shoot! I love those!
And grapes too. You ever have a frozen grape? Better than a popsicle.
I freeze a lot of things. I like things frozen. Fruit, cakes, candies.
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You know those little Debbie Christmas tree cakes? So good frozen.
Reece's cups, 3 musketeers', Milky Way, any thing really. Better frozen. To me anyway.
And the Pepperidge farm coconut cake? Sooooo good frozen.
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I want so badly out of this relationship but I love him so much! But he treats me so bad! Every chance he gets he will tell me all the things he hates about me and he's kicked me out of his house more than once and I've had to sleep in my car.
Why can't I just leave? I'm like a battered woman minus the battering. (Maybe emotional battering)
I need help. I am truly agonizing right now.
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Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
I want so badly out of this relationship but I love him so much! But he treats me so bad! Every chance he gets he will tell me all the things he hates about me and he's kicked me out of his house more than once and I've had to sleep in my car.
Why can't I just leave? I'm like a battered woman minus the battering. (Maybe emotional battering)
I need help. I am truly agonizing right now.
You have GOT to be kidding me! Why on Earth are you giving this man permission to treat you this way? Who is he that you have given him all this control over you? You are bigger than that! Better than that!
You have a back bone. Use it! Stand up for yourself.
You know I say these things cause I care. Not to make you feel bad. But hoping you will realize you are worth more than this. Your value as a human says you deserve more than this.
Leave him. No amount of companionship is worth losing your self respect over. None!
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I'm having a bad night. Actually, it's been a pretty hectic day. Just little stuff that doesn't quit, KWIM? I'm exhausted and just want some time to myself, but it seems my kids are alternating needing me. And then I feel like a bad mom.
I don't know what's wrong with me, I never wanted to be this person I just keep wishing things will change and he will turn into the man I used to love so much but I know it's not going to happen, it's just so hard to leave. I don't want to be alone!
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Was it a bad day?
Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
I'm having a bad night. Actually, it's been a pretty hectic day. Just little stuff that doesn't quit, KWIM? I'm exhausted and just want some time to myself, but it seems my kids are alternating needing me. And then I feel like a bad mom.
I think all moms have nights like that, don't beat yourself up. Just play the sick card
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Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
Alright. I am here to the rescue. One, Vette, you deserve better. Stay strong and get out! You do not need that. I've been with men like that. You never felt good enough. All my friends settled and got married and I felt so lonely and left behind. I hated going to weddings because I hadn't met the right person. I waited 17 years and then god sent him to me. Now I have a husband who treats me like a queen. Sure we have rough spots and fights. But we always make up and we always continue to love and cherish each other. DO NOT STAY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP. There is someone out there who will love and cherish you for who you are. Even with all your quirks, shortcomings, and yes oddities.
NAOW, it's NORMAL to feel that way sometimes. Do what you need to do to get through the night and don't feel guilty about it. Every day is a new day. Some days we just suck and others we shine. Just remember that there have been days you are shining way above your imagination! And don't forget, your kids are not going to remember one off day. Unless you're beating them with an electrical cord or something. Which I doubt. What they will remember is Mommy is a loving good mommy who occasionally gets cranky. And they will be embarrassed. Because their mom is so freaking NORMAL. So go forth and have your bad day and feel better tomorrow.
Anything else I can help with? Anyone want a dog biscuit?
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
DH just called. He's on his way home. I get to keep him till at least Monday. Maybe longer.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
I want so badly out of this relationship but I love him so much! But he treats me so bad! Every chance he gets he will tell me all the things he hates about me and he's kicked me out of his house more than once and I've had to sleep in my car.
Why can't I just leave? I'm like a battered woman minus the battering. (Maybe emotional battering)
I need help. I am truly agonizing right now.
Oooooh this pisses me off so MUCH! NO ONE should treat you like that, ever!
Love is a wonderful feeling, but contrary to popular belief, it is not the only important thing in a relationship. Respect, compassion, shared values, etc, they all need to be there as well, and hon, your relationship has none of the above.
You can love him with all your heart, but you need to leave, now. He does NOT get to treat you like that!
Makes me want to fly across the country and give this jerk a piece of my mind! And kick his behind!
Leave, leave leave leave! NOW! It will get better, I promise, and after a week or two you won't understand how you ever thought it was a good idea to stay.
Vette, get out now. Do not worry about being alone. Being alone is a hack of a lot better than being put down and feeling badly about yourself all the time.
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Vette, let's look at this logically. This is not the only man you have ever fallen in love with. It will not be the last. You have a choice right now - rip off the band-aid quick, sting for a little bit, and get on with your life, or do the slow pull, where he will continue to treat you like ****, and it will go on for a while, and then it will just sting later and longer.
You have a choice, break it off now and be miserable for a little bit, or let this drag out and continue to be miserable for a long time. Your head knows that this relationship is NOT going to last - so why drag it out?
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Thank you for all the support and I'm sorry for being a baby. Last night his ex wife did something to upset me and I asked him to talk to her about it and he said absolutely not, he said I'm being irrational and I'm the one with issues and then he slammed adoor in my face.
He's never going to have my back, time and time again he puts his ex and kid first and I'm always the one to blame. I just can't take it anymore! I know there are many guys out there who will treat me with more respect.
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Was it a bad day?
Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?
Thank you for all the support and I'm sorry for being a baby. Last night his ex wife did something to upset me and I asked him to talk to her about it and he said absolutely not, he said I'm being irrational and I'm the one with issues and then he slammed adoor in my face.
He's never going to have my back, time and time again he puts his ex and kid first and I'm always the one to blame. I just can't take it anymore! I know there are many guys out there who will treat me with more respect.
I'm sorry your going through this, Vette. It's time to cut you losses and move on.
Vette, he doesn't deserve you. He knows no matter how bad he treats you, you will stay. So show him he's wrong and leave and live a better life without him.
Vette. Why are you so worried about being alone? Just because you are not with a man it doesn't mean you are alone or even lonely. Perhaps a little time on your own, being your own best friend is exactly what you need. Stop letting this man treat you badly. Stand up for yourself. Even if that means no man right now.
NAOW, it is ok to feel overwhelmed and need to me time. Me time is how we recharge our batteries and be better at who we are. Can your hubs take the kids for a day? go get your nails done, see a movie or just take a long nap. I can remember the best thing in the world when the kids were little was a long nap. I will tell you a secret. When the kids were little and I was working and basically spreading myself so thin I couldn't even keep a coherent thought in my head, I got to the point were I thought I was going to lose it. So I actually lied and said I had to work and I went and rented a room and slept for hours. No one knows I did that. But it was either get some rest or go insane.
FWM, I eat the frozen grapes. Monster eats them too. They don't hurt him. Never have. No, he doesn't get a pile of them. But a little bit of the end of one now and then.
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Thank you for all the support and I'm sorry for being a baby. Last night his ex wife did something to upset me and I asked him to talk to her about it and he said absolutely not, he said I'm being irrational and I'm the one with issues and then he slammed adoor in my face.
He's never going to have my back, time and time again he puts his ex and kid first and I'm always the one to blame. I just can't take it anymore! I know there are many guys out there who will treat me with more respect.
Get out now. Go solo for awhile and make a good life for yourself; maybe date. You're intelligent, talented, you have a good sense of humor, and you don't need a man in order to be happy.
Vette. Why are you so worried about being alone? Just because you are not with a man it doesn't mean you are alone or even lonely. Perhaps a little time on your own, being your own best friend is exactly what you need. Stop letting this man treat you badly. Stand up for yourself. Even if that means no man right now.
NAOW, it is ok to feel overwhelmed and need to me time. Me time is how we recharge our batteries and be better at who we are. Can your hubs take the kids for a day? go get your nails done, see a movie or just take a long nap. I can remember the best thing in the world when the kids were little was a long nap. I will tell you a secret. When the kids were little and I was working and basically spreading myself so thin I couldn't even keep a coherent thought in my head, I got to the point were I thought I was going to lose it. So I actually lied and said I had to work and I went and rented a room and slept for hours. No one knows I did that. But it was either get some rest or go insane.
FWM, I eat the frozen grapes. Monster eats them too. They don't hurt him. Never have. No, he doesn't get a pile of them. But a little bit of the end of one now and then.
Thank you lily. I've been doing pretty good, but yes, I do need time just for myself sometimes. DH has been really busy too, and he does let me sleep in when he's home, but he hasn't had a day where he could take them for me. Plus, last week we had a date night and my mom said Baby A refused a bottle. We will keep trying but if she wont take it, then I can't leave her with anyone.
Thank you both, every day I get closer to leaving, but it's like LL said, I just need to rip off the bandaid
Believe it or not, Vette. You will be happiest when you learn to love just being with yourself. And when you do that, you attract a better kind of guy.
This is experience talking.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Vette. Why are you so worried about being alone? Just because you are not with a man it doesn't mean you are alone or even lonely. Perhaps a little time on your own, being your own best friend is exactly what you need. Stop letting this man treat you badly. Stand up for yourself. Even if that means no man right now.
NAOW, it is ok to feel overwhelmed and need to me time. Me time is how we recharge our batteries and be better at who we are. Can your hubs take the kids for a day? go get your nails done, see a movie or just take a long nap. I can remember the best thing in the world when the kids were little was a long nap. I will tell you a secret. When the kids were little and I was working and basically spreading myself so thin I couldn't even keep a coherent thought in my head, I got to the point were I thought I was going to lose it. So I actually lied and said I had to work and I went and rented a room and slept for hours. No one knows I did that. But it was either get some rest or go insane.
FWM, I eat the frozen grapes. Monster eats them too. They don't hurt him. Never have. No, he doesn't get a pile of them. But a little bit of the end of one now and then.
Thank you lily. I've been doing pretty good, but yes, I do need time just for myself sometimes. DH has been really busy too, and he does let me sleep in when he's home, but he hasn't had a day where he could take them for me. Plus, last week we had a date night and my mom said Baby A refused a bottle. We will keep trying but if she wont take it, then I can't leave her with anyone.
Children do not starve themselves to death. If a child can decide to pass up a bottle, s/he will resume eating before the next day.
A child refusing food is a situation that should just be ignored. It's bad to make a fuss over it, and it's bad to let the kid control you by doing that.
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Thank you both, every day I get closer to leaving, but it's like LL said, I just need to rip off the bandaid
Believe it or not, Vette. You will be happiest when you learn to love just being with yourself. And when you do that, you attract a better kind of guy.