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Q. My Sister’s Parenting: My sister has this idea that she shouldn’t confine her son to traditional gender stereotypes. Recently she started dressing him in feminine clothing. He is 4 years old and gets teased at his day care and has expressed many times how much he hates his dresses and pink tutus. She keeps telling him the other children are wrong to tease him and he should be proud of dressing that way. What can I say to her without insulting her parenting skills?

A: Your sister’s behavior will not have your son embrace her ideals of gender fluidity, it will make her boy turn against her and forever scar their relationship. My daughter was a decidedly un-princessy little girl. If at 4 years old I had insisted she go to school in a tutu, she would have ripped it off and refused to leave the house. (Even in nursery school she picked her own outfits and one of my favorites was the Tyrannosaurus rex sweatshirt and pearls.) If your nephew insisted on wearing a pink tutu and was teased because of it, that would be an understandably difficult situation, but one that everyone could work on together to make her boy feel happy and secure. But what you are describing is a deranged attempt by your sister to impose her views—or even work out her issues—literally on the back of a small child. I hope you have some influence with your sister and can tell her that her ideals are lovely, but children need to have their own identities and it’s painful to see your nephew so miserable because he can’t wear the normal boy clothes he desires. If she won’t see reason, then it is reasonable for you to privately contact the head of the day care center and ask her to try to intervene with your sister, explaining her son’s misery over his clothing is stunting his social development.

 



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What a way to set this poor kid up for being picked on. Sister is a whackaloon!

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She needs a beat down.

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Oh good grief, nothing like scarring a child for life. She's a nut case. And I'm not sure, but this may classify as emotional abuse of the child.
Call CPS if she doesn't back off.

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How stupid. What kind of mother would purposefully hurt their child like that?

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She's an idiot.

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The poor kid already does not want to be dress that way, it's down right cruel to do it and send him to an enviornment to be picked on. And then saying he should be proud? Why the hell would he be? He alreasy is unhappy about wearing them period. I don't know one kid that is proud to wear something they hate in front of people they want to be friends with. And for what purpose? Is the mother's agenda really more important than her child's happiness? I bet her next letter is about how her child resents her but she doesn't know why. She's just the coolest, most open-minded mom ever!

Whackadoodle for sure.

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TrudyML wrote:

She needs a beat down.

 CAN I HELP?????

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Somebody should force her to wear a straight jacket. And she should be proud!

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Exactly empy, I'm pretty sure this mom doesn't wear pink tutu's to work.

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VetteGirl wrote:

Exactly empy, I'm pretty sure this mom doesn't wear pink tutu's to work.

Mom should be forced to wear a jack-asS suit to work. It would be quite fitting. 



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Crazy!! I had a neighbor who introduced her baby as her daughter when we first met. Turns out she was a nut job and baby was a boy.

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My great grandmother called every baby a he until the baby was at least a year old. I don't know why she just did.



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She can tell her sister.  Not sure she will listen.



-- Edited by Lady Gaga Snerd on Tuesday 21st of October 2014 08:44:38 PM

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lilyofcourse wrote:

How stupid. What kind of mother would purposefully hurt their child like that?

I know people who hurt their child MUCH WORSE than this, people who've sexually abused and battered kids his age and younger.

What kind of mother would do this? A lunatic. Someone who should be kept far away from small people. This is child abuse, and the nursery school people should call Child Protective Services.

 



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