TOTALLY GEEKED!

Empyreal · Senior Member

RE: Monday

Lindley · Guru

Maybe you can send her a card with a note to let her know you are there when she needs you and will be visiting her soon. Bring her and her husband a meal and give her a hug and let her talk.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Yay! I have Internet! Haven't had it since yesterday morning! I'll be reading posts forever. Fried to a crisp. On the east coast of Florida now. Miss y'all.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Dona that is so sad. I would visit but not spend too much time, perhaps take her out for a meal or bring takeout. As Lily said, do recognize the baby and talk about him/her and how sorry you are. Bring her a plant, maybe something she can plant in her yard as a memorial.

Czech I HATE beets. Good to know G likes them, if someone ever gives me any from their garden I will know who to mail them too.

FWM, that dinner sounds fun!

Squeaks, take care of yourself.

SB, I don't want to hear you are on the internet the whole time on vaca.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Nope I won't. Dad, brother, and DD are picking up Chinese. I'm sitting here listening to the wild parrots squawking. They have a colony (nest) at the top of a tall palm tree across the street.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Empyreal wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
A friend of mine just had a stillborn baby.
We (parents, sister, myself) are trying t feel out if it would be a good idea to visit or not. She is very quiet, and hates a fuss. She lives three hours away. It was their first baby. We made a trip up abut a month ago with a bunch of baby things. They were so happy and excited.

Aww.. that made me tear up. How sad.

Take her a lavender diffuser and really cute pajamas. Maybe there is a book that could help her navigate her grief?
These things are so hard to know what to do.

This is a wonderful idea. Everyone here has given great advice. But mostly I think not pretending like she didn't have a baby is good. Let her talk if she wants. If not then tell her you can just sit with her.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Oh Dona - I'm sorry to hear that. Lots of times people experiencing loss don't know what they want or need. they might need you to tell them .... tell them you're coming for a couple hours. Be prepared to help catch up on housework, cook, listen, entertain ... whatever the situation calls for when you get there.

aergia · Regular

bless you all for your compassion

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Head feels like a 50 pound weight. Stuffed with cotton. Eyes itchy and watering. Nose itchy and sneezy. Cough that rattles the bones. Achy and worn slap out.

Yep. That is me.

I just want to curl up in the bed and sleep.

Goodnight everyone. Pleasant dreams.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I had a really really bad premade casserole for dinner tonight. I barely ate it. I'm still hungry. This justifies having ice cream. Right?

Bonny22Pye · Guru

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
A friend of mine just had a stillborn baby.
We (parents, sister, myself) are trying t feel out if it would be a good idea to visit or not. She is very quiet, and hates a fuss. She lives three hours away. It was their first baby. We made a trip up abut a month ago with a bunch of baby things. They were so happy and excited.

I'm so sorry. Be there for her. Be present in her mourning.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I had a really really bad premade casserole for dinner tonight. I barely ate it. I'm still hungry. This justifies having ice cream. Right?

Yup! Just like I get to have corn chips and cheese (maybe made into nachos, maybe not) for late night snack because I didn't go back to Wendy's for a second round....

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Tignanello wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I had a really really bad premade casserole for dinner tonight. I barely ate it. I'm still hungry. This justifies having ice cream. Right?
Yup! Just like I get to have corn chips and cheese (maybe made into nachos, maybe not) for late night snack because I didn't go back to Wendy's for a second round....

Yeah! I got some peppermint today.