TOTALLY GEEKED!

This is ridiculous advice. Spouses sign for their partners all the time. No big deal.

The bigger issue is why does the darn form need signed by BOTH parents anyway? What if they are estranged? What if one of the parties was physically abusive - is the parent supposed to put their safety in jeopardy? An antiquated policy.

I have filled out tons of forms, medical permission forms, travel permission forms, etc. Both parents signatures are sometimes requested, but you don't actually need to get both to sign it. One parent signs one line and turns it in. Done.

She can give her husband permission to sign her name. It's very simple. Signing someone's name with their consent is not forgery.

I sure hope tax auditors do not read this thread.

Guilty of all charges here.

Now I have to correct myself since we now file electronically.

I would have just signed it dry. In preschool to sign DD up and to go on field trips they required both signatures. It was stupid.

I'm a true rebel...
I open DH's mail too.

NAOW wrote:

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I would have just signed it dry. In preschool to sign DD up and to go on field trips they required both signatures. It was stupid.

I'm a true rebel...
I open DH's mail too.

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Yeah, I just don't get it.  It's not like a legal document signing an estate away.  It's a freaking school program.  Does he not talk to his wife? 

And NAOW, I ANSWER DH's mail...

Tell the spouse what they are doing and sign the document. Sheesh.

I got tired of signing all the crap the school sends home.

I told the kids if it involved leaving the school or someone coming to my house I sign it.

Anything else, they can sign it.

I don't see the big deal about signing the name of a spouse.

If this were to take the kid out of town or something like that, then yeah I guess I could see it.

But to get signed up for school? Just sign it already.

I read this to DH and he asked if the wife took his balls out of the country with her... Ah, I have the most subtle DH in the world.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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FNW wrote:

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Tell the spouse what they are doing and sign the document. Sheesh.

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 Yeah, I don't get the big deal.  I sign stuff for SS's all the time.  I just tell DH and he's fine with it.  But also the school gives me a lot of leeway.  They know who I am and I'm the only parent that's really ever up there.  His mom has never even met the teacher.  DH and I conferenced with her.  I do all the picking up and dropping off.  So they don't say much to me.  But even our bank knows DH goes away for long periods of time and cuts us some slack.  This seems like a mountain out of a molehill.

I've even taken SS to the ER.  I call both DH and his mom and just inform them what I am doing and why.  Never had an issue.

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 But it is a big deal.  The schools are held hard to the line to make sure each parent is aware and agrees to situations.  They are held accountable.

The ER cares about payment. but you live in a state that hasn't kept up to the rest of us, you are lucky. I can't do anything surgically without the ex's permission. i can't even get her a passport and he refuses to sign for one.

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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FNW wrote:

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Tell the spouse what they are doing and sign the document. Sheesh.

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 Yeah, I don't get the big deal.  I sign stuff for SS's all the time.  I just tell DH and he's fine with it.  But also the school gives me a lot of leeway.  They know who I am and I'm the only parent that's really ever up there.  His mom has never even met the teacher.  DH and I conferenced with her.  I do all the picking up and dropping off.  So they don't say much to me.  But even our bank knows DH goes away for long periods of time and cuts us some slack.  This seems like a mountain out of a molehill.

I've even taken SS to the ER.  I call both DH and his mom and just inform them what I am doing and why.  Never had an issue.

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 But it is a big deal.  The schools are held hard to the line to make sure each parent is aware and agrees to situations.  They are held accountable.

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That is really for cases of divorce or not married parents.  If both bio-parents are married to each other, the necessity of that really isn't there.  The school may still want it because they don't really understand the legal difference, but it's not necessary.   

I think a lot of this stuff came about because parents couldn't get along. Whether divorced or never married there are parents who would do stuff they shouldn't. That's why they have rules. But if both parents are on the same page it's not a big deal. SS has a doctors appointment early Wednesday morning and DH called his ex and asked her if he could keep him out of school all day. She said Sure, no big deal. We were supposed to have him for Christmas this year according to the divorce papers but we had him for Thanksgiving instead. He's going to his mom's for the 23rd, 24th, and 25th. We will have him the rest of Christmas break even though we had him all of Thanksgiving break. DH has standard visitation but we don't follow it. As long as everyone is fine with it we do whatever. I've even kept him on my own when DH was at work. It really should be about what is best for the kid.

Lawyerlady wrote:

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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FNW wrote:

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Tell the spouse what they are doing and sign the document. Sheesh.

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 Yeah, I don't get the big deal.  I sign stuff for SS's all the time.  I just tell DH and he's fine with it.  But also the school gives me a lot of leeway.  They know who I am and I'm the only parent that's really ever up there.  His mom has never even met the teacher.  DH and I conferenced with her.  I do all the picking up and dropping off.  So they don't say much to me.  But even our bank knows DH goes away for long periods of time and cuts us some slack.  This seems like a mountain out of a molehill.

I've even taken SS to the ER.  I call both DH and his mom and just inform them what I am doing and why.  Never had an issue.

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 But it is a big deal.  The schools are held hard to the line to make sure each parent is aware and agrees to situations.  They are held accountable.

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 Our school only requires one parent signature on anything.

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 As does DD's school. But the OP stated both signatures are required.  

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That just seems like a pain for the school to deal with. There are so many kids with only one parent, or with a parent that has legal custody and can sign everything. Seems like a lot of explaining needs to happen every time only one parent signs.

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 I agree.  The schools shouldn't have to be involved is custody disputes and all the legalities that go with that.  Schools and teachers are using the school districts more and more these days and both parents can access most information themselves including communicating with the teacher.  Too much is put on the school systems.

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Why do I have to fill out endless contact information forms? Why can't you fill one out with ALL your info for the School Records and be done ? And, then that info applies to field trips and everything else. Yeah, sign permission for each event but why do I have rewrite all the medical info, etc over and over and over?

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 I suggested to the school that they do that on line, no paper, less cost.