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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Moody Husband

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Kick his arse to the curb ASAP!

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Women who marry men without jobs and then work2 jobs themselves...that just astounds me. I cannot comprehend this. He can't support himself - what was the attraction?!

Of course he proposed often and early - he saw a gravy train!

She needs to get herself together and figure out what made her such an easy mark for this guy.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yeah really. He would either get off his arse and at least go work at Burger King or I would be out of there asap.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Soooo, funding his marijuana habit? Hell no. As for depression, it rarely gets better staying at home doing nothing all day. Amazing how when you start engaging in life, you seem to do better.

TrudyML · Guru

Oh, yeah! You are right! Who is buying the pot!

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
Women who marry men without jobs and then work2 jobs themselves...that just astounds me. I cannot comprehend this. He can't support himself - what was the attraction?!

Of course he proposed often and early - he saw a gravy train!

She needs to get herself together and figure out what made her such an easy mark for this guy.

No kidding. She says she never intended to marry again--but then did so after 8 months of a long distance relationship. Desperate much?

FNW · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
Women who marry men without jobs and then work2 jobs themselves...that just astounds me. I cannot comprehend this. He can't support himself - what was the attraction?!

Of course he proposed often and early - he saw a gravy train!

She needs to get herself together and figure out what made her such an easy mark for this guy.

This exactly.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

I don't smoke pot, but will someone buy me wine???

flan

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

flan327 wrote:
I don't smoke pot, but will someone buy me wine???

flan

Sure. Marry me? I mean, we have never met, but I feel so connected to you! Lol

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Mellow Momma wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I don't smoke pot, but will someone buy me wine???

flan
Sure. Marry me? I mean, we have never met, but I feel so connected to you! Lol

Let me check with DH... evileye

flan

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

flan327 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I don't smoke pot, but will someone buy me wine???

flan
Sure. Marry me? I mean, we have never met, but I feel so connected to you! Lol
Let me check with DH...
flan

Marry me now!! And I don't approve of you talking to other family members. i don't have a job, is that a problem?

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Mellow Momma wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I don't smoke pot, but will someone buy me wine???

flan
Sure. Marry me? I mean, we have never met, but I feel so connected to you! Lol
Let me check with DH...
flan
Marry me now!! And I don't approve of you talking to other family members. i don't have a job, is that a problem?

But you're LOOKING for a job right? What if I get pregnant?

flan

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

It doesn't say whether he was employed in the state he lived in or not. I'd like to know that before I judge him. If he was employed and he couldn't find a job in his new state for whatever reason (completely plausible) he might have legitimate reason to be depressed. However, the pot smoking needs to stop because that's only contributing to the depression. And WTH? I sure as hell wouldn't be buying him pot if he wasn't working.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

flan327 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
flan327 wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
flan327 wrote:
I don't smoke pot, but will someone buy me wine???

flan
Sure. Marry me? I mean, we have never met, but I feel so connected to you! Lol
Let me check with DH...
flan
Marry me now!! And I don't approve of you talking to other family members. i don't have a job, is that a problem?
But you're LOOKING for a job right? What if I get pregnant?
flan

Define job...

In the meantime, can I borrow some money for some pot?

huskerbb · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
It doesn't say whether he was employed in the state he lived in or not. I'd like to know that before I judge him. If he was employed and he couldn't find a job in his new state for whatever reason (completely plausible) he might have legitimate reason to be depressed. However, the pot smoking needs to stop because that's only contributing to the depression. And WTH? I sure as hell wouldn't be buying him pot if he wasn't working.

Not that plausible. Texas has a fairly low unemployment rate.

Finding a job is much harder when you aren't looking.

He sounds like a doped up loser.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Every warning sign except the sleep deprivation exactly describes my ex (in hindsight, of course). I am so glad to be away from that person.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Honeys_Mom wrote:
Every warning sign except the sleep deprivation exactly describes my ex (in hindsight, of course). I am so glad to be away from that person.

You learned a hard lesson, dear friend.

flan

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

If he's smoking pot how will he pass a drug test if a job prospect shows up?

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
It doesn't say whether he was employed in the state he lived in or not. I'd like to know that before I judge him. If he was employed and he couldn't find a job in his new state for whatever reason (completely plausible) he might have legitimate reason to be depressed. However, the pot smoking needs to stop because that's only contributing to the depression. And WTH? I sure as hell wouldn't be buying him pot if he wasn't working.

*whiny child voice*

but it's medicaaaaaallllllll......

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I live in TX. And yes, unemployment is low. But that doesn't mean good paying jobs are everywhere or that he find something in his field. Should he take a lower paying job if that is the case? Yes. I mean, he does sound like a pot head. I agree with that, but I just would like to hear IF he had a job before and what the job was.

Totally her fault for buying the pot though. Even if it's medical Tig!

Divine Geek · Guru

Honeys_Mom wrote:
Every warning sign except the sleep deprivation exactly describes my ex (in hindsight, of course). I am so glad to be away from that person.

Mine too

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Southern_Belle wrote:
If he's smoking pot how will he pass a drug test if a job prospect shows up?

Most people in his situation eff up the interview on purpose so it doesn't get to the stage where they drug test. I have seen plenty of those in my day. They say anything and everything offensive they can think of in the interview to NOT get hired.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Good point.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Why show up for the interview at all?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?

So you can tell your wife/parent/whoever is supporting you at the current time that you are TRYING to find a job and that you've been on interview after interview after interview and they're just not hiring! You don't understand what's going wrong. You're trying SO HARD.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Exactly! But BABY I am really, really trying!! Those mean old people just won't hire me!

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

So today I will try to hook up with my "guy" and buy pot.

How much should I buy?

flan

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
So you can tell your wife/parent/whoever is supporting you at the current time that you are TRYING to find a job and that you've been on interview after interview after interview and they're just not hiring! You don't understand what's going wrong. You're trying SO HARD.

You can do this without actually sitting through the whole interview!

huskerbb · Guru

Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?

If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.

When I worked for Indy, they just had to list 3 places where they "filled out an application."

flan

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.
When I worked for Indy, they just had to list 3 places where they "filled out an application."
flan

Yeah, maybe that's it--but I suppose at least some of them get and go to interviews. My wife has people who get hired all the time (probably at least a half dozen times a year) and then don't show up for the first day of work--AFTER her employer has paid for their drug testing, done all the paperwork, etc...

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.
When I worked for Indy, they just had to list 3 places where they "filled out an application."
flan
Yeah, maybe that's it--but I suppose at least some of them get and go to interviews. My wife has people who get hired all the time (probably at least a half dozen times a year) and then don't show up for the first day of work--AFTER her employer has paid for their drug testing, done all the paperwork, etc...

Let me just add that we lost a LOT of phone books because that's all they did was look up an address & phone number.

flan

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.
When I worked for Indy, they just had to list 3 places where they "filled out an application."
flan
Yeah, maybe that's it--but I suppose at least some of them get and go to interviews. My wife has people who get hired all the time (probably at least a half dozen times a year) and then don't show up for the first day of work--AFTER her employer has paid for their drug testing, done all the paperwork, etc...

We had a ton of these as well.

Some people's rehab sponsor, mother, spouse, friend drops them off at the interview - so they go in and sabotage it. That's why they sit through it. Some place also actually check up to see if someone showed. I had a call or two in my time to check on someone.

We also had people who worked just long enough for their welfare benefits to start up again and they quit the very next day. I think they had to work 90 days in a year or something. Lots of good people I really thought had potential - never showed up after day 90.

TrudyML · Guru

Ugh, I had people call and ask if we had job openings. I'd say no. Then they'd ask if they could come in and could I sign off that they called here? That got nipped real quick.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

TrudyML wrote:
Ugh, I had people call and ask if we had job openings. I'd say no. Then they'd ask if they could come in and could I sign off that they called here? That got nipped real quick.

Our policy was they had to fill out an application even if we weren't hiring - this way we had a paper trail. And we kept apps on file for 90 days so if something did open up, we would have their application on file. About 99% of the people we told that to went elsewhere without even filling out an application.

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

Mellow Momma wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.
When I worked for Indy, they just had to list 3 places where they "filled out an application."
flan
Yeah, maybe that's it--but I suppose at least some of them get and go to interviews. My wife has people who get hired all the time (probably at least a half dozen times a year) and then don't show up for the first day of work--AFTER her employer has paid for their drug testing, done all the paperwork, etc...
We had a ton of these as well.
Some people's rehab sponsor, mother, spouse, friend drops them off at the interview - so they go in and sabotage it. That's why they sit through it. Some place also actually check up to see if someone showed. I had a call or two in my time to check on someone.
We also had people who worked just long enough for their welfare benefits to start up again and they quit the very next day. I think they had to work 90 days in a year or something. Lots of good people I really thought had potential - never showed up after day 90.

This is why I like the system here - you can't get EI or welfare if you quit a job or get fired with cause. You can only collect if you are laid off or if your disability runs out.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

When my friend was living with us one of the conditions was that she get a job. She knew that when she started out. I can't count the number of times she sabotaged her own interviews. So much so she never got a job. And all she was looking for was a fast food/cashier type job. She could have gotten one in a heart beat. But she would definitely have failed the drug test.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Tignanello wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tignanello wrote:
Why show up for the interview at all?
If they are on unemployment, they have to go to so many interviews during such and such a period to be able to continue to draw it.
When I worked for Indy, they just had to list 3 places where they "filled out an application."
flan
Yeah, maybe that's it--but I suppose at least some of them get and go to interviews. My wife has people who get hired all the time (probably at least a half dozen times a year) and then don't show up for the first day of work--AFTER her employer has paid for their drug testing, done all the paperwork, etc...
We had a ton of these as well.
Some people's rehab sponsor, mother, spouse, friend drops them off at the interview - so they go in and sabotage it. That's why they sit through it. Some place also actually check up to see if someone showed. I had a call or two in my time to check on someone.
We also had people who worked just long enough for their welfare benefits to start up again and they quit the very next day. I think they had to work 90 days in a year or something. Lots of good people I really thought had potential - never showed up after day 90.
This is why I like the system here - you can't get EI or welfare if you quit a job or get fired with cause. You can only collect if you are laid off or if your disability runs out.

Well that's the case for unemployment compensation. But for regular welfare benefits, TANF etc, there are different rules.