TOTALLY GEEKED!

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

RE: Disinheriting children

FNW · Guru

MM, I have been hearing about these "bank accounts" SIL has set up for the boys, but have never seen evidence. And FIL set up an account, and the amount of each yearly deposit seems to be based on the amount of times his wife is permitted to torture my boys. At most, they receive $50.00 a year, even if their arses are kissed. It's ridiculous. Those people have been holding these accounts over our heads since the boys were born 6 years ago. What they don't know is that we put out $300 for each child, every month, into a 529 plan. They should be ashamed of their conditional pittance. I would be surprised if they ever see a dime, particularly when the wills state otherwise.

TrudyML · Guru

Oh, FNW. They just need to be cut, blocked, hung up on. Ugh!

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

FNW wrote:
MM, I have been hearing about these "bank accounts" SIL has set up for the boys, but have never seen evidence. And FIL set up an account, and the amount of each yearly deposit seems to be based on the amount of times his wife is permitted to torture my boys. At most, they receive $50.00 a year, even if their arses are kissed. It's ridiculous. Those people have been holding these accounts over our heads since the boys were born 6 years ago. What they don't know is that we put out $300 for each child, every month, into a 529 plan. They should be ashamed of their conditional pittance. I would be surprised if they ever see a dime, particularly when the wills state otherwise.

No amount of money would have been worth the crap we put up with from that woman. I totally understand where you are coming from. They should be ashamed of themselves.

FNW · Guru

It's kind of funny, really. We never asked for a dime from them and yet they make this big production out of opening these accounts and write a note in their annual cards how much they deposited...great, that's nice, thank you. But that doesn't you can pay for admission into their lives and treat them like crap.

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

After the six stepchildren's egregious behavior following DH's death, my attorney (God bless him!) devised a way to disinherit the brats without specifically naming them! "Momala and DH were married on xx/yy/zz, and there were no children born to or adopted in this marriage." I "inherited" the six the day I married their Dad, but we saw no need to go through the expense of my adopting them; their names wouldn't change, yet I would still be legally responsible for them. My will provides for new DH to use my home and land as long as he wishes to to so; after that, it will be sold and divided between my Church, the local Community Association, and my Eastern Star chapter. Two of the six live nearby - they appropriated the original of DH's will, just to make it harder for me to probate it. They also took the original of my old will - they don't know its been updated. :)

In additon to my formal will, I have a "letter of instructions" that I've given to my executrix(s). It includes my obituary, directions for my funeral, disposition of any pets, and what I have/have not promised to anyone, in the way of specific possessions. They are the ones who will help DH the most if I go before he does.