TOTALLY GEEKED!

Move out and fend for yourself, then you get to make the rules. If mom asks fine, but she didn't.

I am not going to make this about me but I am going to use myself as an example.


Yes, I have paid rent and I still spend over $500 a month here for the running of this house hold. The house is paid off. this goes mostly to food but also to what ever else I see we need. No. I don't have very much left over but I live here, my kids live here and I do as much as I can.

Now. I know that we share this house. If I want to have company, I run it by my parents. Generally saying I have this happening this time and day. They do the same with me.

My brother is here a lot with his kids. I complain. But they are here with my parents' permission.

But my brother and his kids also know that I live here.

If I say don't do this or that then they don't. Tie up the dog, move the car, move your things. Don't just come in with out announcing it. They know to do these things I request. As well.

Why? Because I live here and I have the right to expect certain courtesies.

The same is true with the OP. She has the right to expect certain courtesies.

Now. Anyone can say what ever they want about it. But the fact that it is simply a knock on the door proves that this isn't an unreasonable person asking this.

It is a simple, courteous request that should be followed because it hurts no one to knock on a door.

huskerbb wrote:

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I don't see the issue. I don't knock on my mom's door, and my son doesn't knock on mine. He's also used his key when I've been gone.

Again, don't see the issue. If you can't trust your children--maybe you didn't raise them right.

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I trust my boys 100%, but I also taught them manners.

flan 

huskerbb wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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I don't see the issue. I don't knock on my mom's door, and my son doesn't knock on mine. He's also used his key when I've been gone.

Again, don't see the issue. If you can't trust your children--maybe you didn't raise them right.

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I trust my boys 100%, but I also taught them manners.

flan 

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 Peddle that clap trap somewhere else.  That has nothing to do with this. 

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husker is in da house!!!!

flan 

huskerbb wrote:

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My grandmother had trouble getting around when she was older. She didn't want to get up 10 times a day to answer the door. Doorbells were annoying for that reason. Plus, standing at her back door and knocking--you couldn't hear if she would say to "come in" from her chair.

Much better just to go in, and then when you got to the kitchen, hear the familiar voice say "who come"? And then see her smile when she recognized who it was.

I still miss that voice.

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 And that is COMPLETELY different than this situation where she has been ASKED to knock.

Lawyerlady wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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My grandmother had trouble getting around when she was older. She didn't want to get up 10 times a day to answer the door. Doorbells were annoying for that reason. Plus, standing at her back door and knocking--you couldn't hear if she would say to "come in" from her chair.

Much better just to go in, and then when you got to the kitchen, hear the familiar voice say "who come"? And then see her smile when she recognized who it was.

I still miss that voice.

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 And that is COMPLETELY different than this situation where she has been ASKED to knock.

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 It's mom's house--not the sister. If mom asks, that might be different. 

However, to this point, mom has not set that expectation and it has never been an issue until sis moved in. 

This is NOT a regular tenant/landlord situation.  She's living with her MOM. 

Abby is right--the ball is in mom's court.  If mom is fine with it--then sis needs to STFU.

huskerbb wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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My grandmother had trouble getting around when she was older. She didn't want to get up 10 times a day to answer the door. Doorbells were annoying for that reason. Plus, standing at her back door and knocking--you couldn't hear if she would say to "come in" from her chair.

Much better just to go in, and then when you got to the kitchen, hear the familiar voice say "who come"? And then see her smile when she recognized who it was.

I still miss that voice.

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 And that is COMPLETELY different than this situation where she has been ASKED to knock.

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 It's mom's house--not the sister. If mom asks, that might be different. 

However, to this point, mom has not set that expectation and it has never been an issue until sis moved in. 

This is NOT a regular tenant/landlord situation.  She's living with her MOM. 

Abby is right--the ball is in mom's court.  If mom is fine with it--then sis needs to STFU.

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 And this is where we disagree.  She pays rent - it is THEIR house. 

If she was not paying rent, I would agree. But since she does - she has rights, as well.

huskerbb wrote:

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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My grandmother had trouble getting around when she was older. She didn't want to get up 10 times a day to answer the door. Doorbells were annoying for that reason. Plus, standing at her back door and knocking--you couldn't hear if she would say to "come in" from her chair.

Much better just to go in, and then when you got to the kitchen, hear the familiar voice say "who come"? And then see her smile when she recognized who it was.

I still miss that voice.

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 And that is COMPLETELY different than this situation where she has been ASKED to knock.

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 It's mom's house--not the sister. If mom asks, that might be different. 

However, to this point, mom has not set that expectation and it has never been an issue until sis moved in. 

This is NOT a regular tenant/landlord situation.  She's living with her MOM. 

Abby is right--the ball is in mom's court.  If mom is fine with it--then sis needs to STFU.

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I AGREE WITH HUSKER!