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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: 27 Yr old Hasn't learned to Drive Yet

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

27? Are you serious?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Not their monkey, not their circus. If mummy and daddy wanna drive his sorry arse around, that's their circus.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Not their monkey, not their circus. If mummy and daddy wanna drive his sorry arse around, that's their circus.

Agreed.

He may have an anxiety disorder that prevents him from driving and is embarrassed to tell the extended family. He may be taking medication for a disorder he doesnt want to disclose and the meds prevent him from driving. There are a lot of reasons actually and none of them are the OP's business.

My DD is almost 24 and has never learned to drive. But public transportation is great where she lives so it's a non issue. But if she ever moves, it will be an issue. She was never too keen to learn.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

There are so many cases such as this in my town. I think the kids have gotten so used to their parents manage them that they are afraid to drive. The kids are damaged due to the "protect the kids" campaign these past decades. I am glad I grew up when I did and not today when parents are really screwing their kids in the auspice of protecting them.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I read an article about how Millenials aren't driving because they are moving to urban areas. They aren't buying houses or driving cars.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Around here, it isn't unheard of for women to not learn to drive.

If in a city with transportation, I don't think it is a big deal.

I never wanted to need to depend on anyone to get me where I wanted to be.

I had to push C to get her license.

I think the aunt in the OP needs to butt out.

NAOW · Vette's SS

I can't relate. I was counting down the days until I could get my learners permit, restricted license, and then my real license.

But yes, OP needs to butt out. It's none of her business.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Mellow Momma wrote:
I read an article about how Millenials aren't driving because they are moving to urban areas. They aren't buying houses or driving cars.

So many of my friends have BF or such that have 30YO "kids" that don't drive. Has nothing to do with economics, has every thing to do with being scared and not wanting to get out there. These "kids" are ruined with the their parent's parenting.

voiceofreason · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Not their monkey, not their circus. If mummy and daddy wanna drive his sorry arse around, that's their circus.

biggrin

ed11563 · Guru

My FIL had been driving since he was 12, working in his uncle's parking garage.

He couldn't keep the car in a lane. I followed him once, it looked like someone who would have a BAC of .16 , the way he weaved around the road.

But he hadn't been drinking, he either couldn't see, or he didn't care.

MIL didn't drive.

So, since we expected that FIL would lose his license some time,

we paid for driving lessons for her. She refused ...

but then she changed her mind.

The prospect of being stranded at home, having to walk 10 blocks to the bus for a 2 hour ride to work, seemed to motivate her.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

It seems so foreign to me for an adult not to have a driver's license (or not even know how to drive!). Maybe it's a California thing - I've lived in very large cities and also small towns, and rarely have I met someone who doesn't drive.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Here the girls all want their license and most boys don't. It's weird. However, this OP needs to mind her own business.

voiceofreason · Guru

I didn't get my license until I was 20 but I drove anyway.

I read somewhere that when we were young a license meant access to friends, now, kids have 24/7 accss to friends thru their phones and computers so they don't care so much to drive.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

voiceofreason wrote:
I didn't get my license until I was 20 but I drove anyway.

I read somewhere that when we were young a license meant access to friends, now, kids have 24/7 accss to friends thru their phones and computers so they don't care so much to drive.

Yes. I read that as well. It used to be a way to connect with others, and also a status symbol. Remember those lucky bast@rds with fall birthdays? Now, your phone is your way to connect and your status symbol.

ed11563 · Guru

My kids learned to drive as soon as the law allowed.

But I tried (without success) to convince them that they should learn how to drive a stick shift.

chef · Guru

I had zero desire to learn to drive. I waited until I was 17.5 to get my learner's permit and only got it when I did because CA had an incredibly stupid law at the time that would've been a pain in the rear had I waited. If driving wasn't the most convenient way from A to B, I wouldn't do it. I hate dealing with idiots on the road, especially the ones who can't be arsed to signal.

DH didn't get his license until his mid-20s and didn't drive regularly until we got married. His dad was more than happy to keep his son in his nest. Frankly, his dad still isn't happy that I refuse to chauffeur DH around.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Here the girls all want their license and most boys don't. It's weird. However, this OP needs to mind her own business.

That's what I hear about the kids around here. It's so weird that the boys don't want a license.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

My son is 17 and doesnt' seem to care. My 19 yr old son was literally dragging me to the car every chance he got. I told my younger son that he WILL learn to drive this summer. I personally think it is a skill you need to learn unless you live in NYC or something. And, the longer you wait, then not doing it becomes engrained and some people develop a phobia about it. My MIL never learned to drive which I just find very odd. Why would you as a female NOT want to learn something that helps give you freedom in our society?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
voiceofreason wrote:
I didn't get my license until I was 20 but I drove anyway.

I read somewhere that when we were young a license meant access to friends, now, kids have 24/7 accss to friends thru their phones and computers so they don't care so much to drive.
Yes. I read that as well. It used to be a way to connect with others, and also a status symbol. Remember those lucky bast@rds with fall birthdays? Now, your phone is your way to connect and your status symbol.

That's true. Kids today are about social media and electronics.. The things that previous generations cared about , they don't. I don't think they are going to want huge McMansion type house with endless cleaning, yard work, etc. I see them more as apt dwellers happily twittering and tweeting their lives away.

Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

ed11563 wrote:
My kids learned to drive as soon as the law allowed.
But I tried (without success) to convince them that they should learn how to drive a stick shift.

Um, it is hands down the best way to drive. More contol, more fun. I love it . I hate driving automatics.

TrudyML · Guru

I don't drive! LOL But I'm in a city, everything is a block away. The bus drops me right at my front door here. And lets admit it? It gets me out of stuff I don't want to do.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

ed11563 wrote:
My kids learned to drive as soon as the law allowed.
But I tried (without success) to convince them that they should learn how to drive a stick shift.

I learned to drive in a truck with a stick on the column. Didn't know I had a choice.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I think all adults should know how to drive. What if there is an emergency and you are the only one conscious to drive? If you don't WANT to drive, fine - but learn how, anyway, then just don't get a car. It's an important life skill - like swimming.

TrudyML · Guru

Nothing funnier than my hungover brother teaching me to drive a stick. Man, he was green. I guess I should say I just don't own a car.

Scooby · Newbie

Lawyerlady wrote:
I think all adults should know how to drive. What if there is an emergency and you are the only one conscious to drive? If you don't WANT to drive, fine - but learn how, anyway, then just don't get a car. It's an important life skill - like swimming.

Totally agree!

Plus I think everyone should learn to drive a stick just because I had to. smile

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

I'm too old to learn how to drive a stick...

flan

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

What are you going to do if you are chased by a madman and the only available escape vehicle is a stick?

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Lawyerlady wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
My kids learned to drive as soon as the law allowed.
But I tried (without success) to convince them that they should learn how to drive a stick shift.
I learned to drive in a truck with a stick on the column. Didn't know I had a choice.

I learned to drive on a stick as well. I didn't have a choice either. I am glad I know how now. In high school, guys thought I was pretty cool because I could drive it.

TrudyML · Guru

She is going to throw pig dung at the madman.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

TrudyML wrote:
She is going to throw pig dung at the madman.

That's just going to make a smelly madman.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Lawyerlady wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
She is going to throw pig dung at the madman.
That's just going to make a smelly madman.

Smelly and madder. biggrin

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I learned to drive on a stick. I was never very good at it. I ate clutches but if a madman was chasing me I could lurch my way away from him.

My bff doesn't drive. She did have a license but after having 2 very unusual accidents she stopped driving.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Honeys_Mom wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
TrudyML wrote:
She is going to throw pig dung at the madman.
That's just going to make a smelly madman.
Smelly and madder.

Guess I'm doomed...

flan

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I learned on an automatic, it's was what we had at the time.

I learned to drive a stick later when we got one. It was an MGB, frog green convertible. Dad said if I learned to drive it, I could have it.

I did.

Then mom made him get rid of it. She said I would "drive under a truck in that thing".

My sliding in the driveway side ways and then saying it would fit didn't help matters.

Anyway. I can. I don't know if I am able now though. If I had to, I could probably get to help.

chef · Guru

I want to learn to drive a stick. I know the steps but have never done it.

NAOW · Vette's SS

I learned to drive stick on an old ford truck my husband used to drive. It was hard and I was always afraid of stalling. A few years later I drove my friend's little Hyundai. It was so much easier to drive.

cadiver · Senior Member

Lawyerlady wrote:
What are you going to do if you are chased by a madman and the only available escape vehicle is a stick?

Hide behind the chain saws:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AWv-dIUP9oc

voiceofreason · Guru

Yep, hide behind the chainsaws is a standard response between Mr.VoR and I.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

That commercial makes me laugh every time I see it.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

I laugh when I see that commercial as well.

Anyone here know how to use a choke? Yup, that's what I had to learn to drive. I am that ancient. I loved that '52 Chevy truck. The tractor not so much.

huskerbb · Guru

Stupid. Don't care if it's my business or not. If I had such a sack of **** for a nephew I would mercilessly make fun of him. Probably his parents, too.

huskerbb · Guru

Heck, my youngest nephew NOW can drive--and he's like 6.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

huskerbb wrote:
Heck, my youngest nephew NOW can drive--and he's like 6.

Awesome example...How can he even see over the steering wheel or reach the pedals?

flan

huskerbb · Guru

flan327 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Heck, my youngest nephew NOW can drive--and he's like 6.
Awesome example...How can he even see over the steering wheel or reach the pedals?
flan

Same way I did when that age. Sit on something and don't mess with the pedals.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Flan, it is quite common for farm kids to drive at a very early age. Yes 6 is common. By 12, I think, most have a farm license. They can drive into town or do other things locally as long as it is farm related.

At least that is what it is in Kansas, where some of my family are.

Have a cousin who was driving just about anything by 12.

I was driving at 13. But I kept it in the pastures.

voiceofreason · Guru

But don't you have to use the pedals to be actually driving?

huskerbb · Guru

voiceofreason wrote:
But don't you have to use the pedals to be actually driving?

Not necessarily. My first experience was when my uncle would start me down the line of bales and then jump out of the pickup to pick them up as I drove alongside. At the end, he'd get back in and turn it around.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

We were shown the brake. If you need to stop, stand on that.

ed11563 · Guru

just Czech wrote:
I laugh when I see that commercial as well.

Anyone here know how to use a choke? Yup, that's what I had to learn to drive. I am that ancient. I loved that '52 Chevy truck. The tractor not so much.

I haven't thought about chokes for years

I learned to drive in my parents' 1960 Mercury Comet, stick shift with a choke.

My first new car, a 1967 Ford Cortina, also had a choke.