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DEAR HARRIETTE: My daughter likes to sing in the mornings, which I find to be really sweet. She is 12 years old, and as she is growing up, she remains a nice girl. Contrast her with my son, who is grumpy in the morning and who hates that his sister likes to sing. My 14-year-old young man wants everything to be quiet in the morning as he begrudgingly gets up and gets ready for school. I want to honor both of my children, but it seems impossible. How can I let each of them have personal space and somehow spark joy in them at the same time? -- Happy Vs. Grumpy, Denver

DEAR HAPPY VS. GRUMPY: Some people like quiet in the morning, while others enjoy sound. Your children are on opposite sides of this spectrum. Why not negotiate with them to swap out the noise factor on a daily basis? When it's your daughter's day, suggest that she sing with the bathroom door closed so that the sound doesn't travel as far. When it's your son's day, request that your daughter refrain from singing. Because children can be so literal, reinforce the rules by fully allowing each child his or her agreement -- provided they remain respectful to each other and the family.

 

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Uhhhh, if it's daughter's day, why does she still have to only sing behind the bathroom door. If you are going to swap out - swap out, don't put additional restrictions on one.

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Good point. The his/hers days seems like a reasonable compromise. And, yes if it is her day, belt it out!

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Is the son hung-over in the mornings?

(just a thought)

 



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I wonder how loud the daughter is singing. If she is belting it out every morning, I would suggest she sing quietly as she goes about her routine. Then she won't be disruptive to those around her. She will get to start her mornings with song, and he will will get a quiet start to his mornings. Sounds like a simple win-win.

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Is the son hung-over in the mornings?

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 Why would someone have to be hung over to not be a morning person? 



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Is it a shrill or singing?

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If she were my daughter I would stuff a sock in her mouth. but then again, I'm no a morning person.

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I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

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I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

 We would get along well.



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Is the son hung-over in the mornings?

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 WTH?  He's 14.  Why would you even think that?



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I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

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Lawyerlady wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

 

Is the son hung-over in the mornings?

(just a thought)

 

 WTH?  He's 14.  Why would you even think that?

   you really need to ask?

 

Sorry Ed! It's your birthday, no more sarcasm going your way today.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
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Is the son hung-over in the mornings?

(just a thought)

 

 WTH?  He's 14.  Why would you even think that?

I doubt he is, but teens do drink.

I would make sure that he's getting enough sleep, for one thing.

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I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

~tickles Trudy~

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flan327 wrote:
TrudyML wrote:

I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

~tickles Trudy~

flan 

 SLAPPING Flan

LL...DID YOU SEE THAT?!

evileye

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flan327 wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

 

Is the son hung-over in the mornings?

(just a thought)

 

 WTH?  He's 14.  Why would you even think that?

I doubt he is, but teens do drink.

I would make sure that he's getting enough sleep, for one thing.

flan 

 With an attentive mother on school nights?  I doubt it.  If your 14 year old is drinking nightly - you are a crappy parent, and this woman does not sound like a crappy parent.



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flan327 wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
flan327 wrote:
TrudyML wrote:

I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

~tickles Trudy~

flan 

 SLAPPING Flan

LL...DID YOU SEE THAT?!

evileye

flan 

 NOPE. 



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Noise cancelling headphones for the boy...problem solved.

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Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:
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flan327 wrote:
TrudyML wrote:

I am not, either. Don't speak to me.

~tickles Trudy~

flan 

 SLAPPING Flan

LL...DID YOU SEE THAT?!

evileye

flan 

 NOPE. 

Awesome!  LOL 



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

If she were my daughter I would stuff a sock in her mouth. but then again, I'm no a morning person.

 Well clearly you just need to stop drinking so much the night before! wink



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If she were my daughter I would stuff a sock in her mouth. but then again, I'm no a morning person.

 Well clearly you just need to stop drinking so much the night before! wink

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Noise cancelling headphones for the boy...problem solved.

 Great idea!



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I can't believe y'all are hating on morning people.

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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

   my brother would have done that to me!



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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

   my brother would have done that to me!

 Mine too!



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

   my brother would have done that to me!

Wake up you sleepyhead! Get up get out of bed! See how the sun is shiiiinninnng!

Stand up and move your toes, tell them it's time to go. We've got a lot to do today!!!! 



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DH takes FOREVER to wake up.

I just let him do his thing...

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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

   my brother would have done that to me!

Wake up you sleepyhead! Get up get out of bed! See how the sun is shiiiinninnng!

Stand up and move your toes, tell them it's time to go. We've got a lot to do today!!!! 

 And this is why O4 and I could never live together, she would sing and I would beat the crap out of her.



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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

   my brother would have done that to me!

Wake up you sleepyhead! Get up get out of bed! See how the sun is shiiiinninnng!

Stand up and move your toes, tell them it's time to go. We've got a lot to do today!!!! 

 PUNCH!



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Y'all are a bunch of grumpy people! pfft!

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Neither of my girls are morning people, but they both randomly sing. So while it wasnt a morning problem, one of them would be walking through the house singing to herself and drove the other crazy. DD23 likes to hum AND sing to herself - drives her sister crazy. I didnt ever step in on those fights, I let them sort it out themselves - they needed to learn to sort out their disagreements.

I am NOT a morning person. If I were the OP though, I don't know if I would change anything. I mean, how annoying is it? Why can't he just ignore her. Chances are she is doing it to irritate him now that she knows it bugs him. The less he makes of it, the better.

Of course, as long as she isn't belting it out at the top of her lungs. If she is just singing to herself, I think her big brother needs to get over himself.

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She is belting out Let it Go! Daily.

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Mellow Momma wrote:

Neither of my girls are morning people, but they both randomly sing. So while it wasnt a morning problem, one of them would be walking through the house singing to herself and drove the other crazy. DD23 likes to hum AND sing to herself - drives her sister crazy. I didnt ever step in on those fights, I let them sort it out themselves - they needed to learn to sort out their disagreements.

I am NOT a morning person. If I were the OP though, I don't know if I would change anything. I mean, how annoying is it? Why can't he just ignore her. Chances are she is doing it to irritate him now that she knows it bugs him. The less he makes of it, the better.

Of course, as long as she isn't belting it out at the top of her lungs. If she is just singing to herself, I think her big brother needs to get over himself.

Drives me crazy also to hear people sign and hum.  That's why headphones at work.  But if they both sign I do not know how one could complain about the other.



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Ohfour wrote:
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Morning people can be so annoying. My Dad was a morning person & he'd try to make conversation with us & we'd all try ignoring him or just sort of grunting out answers. I can't imagine someone singing. I'm surprised her brother hasn't beaten the crap out of her yet.

   my brother would have done that to me!

Wake up you sleepyhead! Get up get out of bed! See how the sun is shiiiinninnng!

Stand up and move your toes, tell them it's time to go. We've got a lot to do today!!!! 

 Each time you post those lyrics I get reminded of these:

 

Got a million ways to make my day
But daddy don't agree
'cause when I try to get away
He says he got plans for me
"Get your butt right out of bed"
Stop buggin' me
"Get up and move your sleepy head"
Don't shake my tree
He said "Mow the lawn" - who me?
"Walk the dog" - not my style, man!
"Take out the trash" - no way!
"Tidy your room" - c'mon get real!
Sorry dad, gotta disappear
Let's get the rock out of here



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Guilty as charged! I always hum...

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You are my sunshine....
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flan327 wrote:

Guilty as charged! I always hum...

flan

 DD's constant humming drove me nuts when she lived with us. Now that she is on her own, it's one of the things I miss the most. 

 

My mom used to say "only happy children sing". 



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Work days would definitely be better if they started at 11 and ended at 5.

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I have a child that is not a morning person. He has had to learn to deal.

I have a child that is a very up beat child in the morning. She has had to learn to tone it down.

Singing as you get ready to go is not a problem. Singing loud enough to be heard in other rooms is not necessary.

Kids have to learn to get along with those who are opposite of them.



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When I was a wee one I would run around the house waking everyone up yelling the sun is up!

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When I was a wee one I would run around the house waking everyone up yelling the sun is up!

 And your family still contacts you?

 Yessssss! I'm the cute one.



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Mom woke us up every morning calling from the kitchen, which was the room right beside our bedrooms. She would call out in a sing song voice "Time to get up, it's Friday. Only so many weeks until summer" and then go back to what ever she was making and the radio was usually on. AM local station. It was a mix of talk, news and music.



Dad woke me up on Sunday mornings with the Name Game song. And he still sings it to me from to time.

My kids say I am too chipper in the morning.

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Southern_Belle wrote:
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Southern_Belle wrote:

When I was a wee one I would run around the house waking everyone up yelling the sun is up!

 And your family still contacts you?

 Yessssss! I'm the cute one.

 I'm in the "Step away from that coffee machine and don't talk to me" crowd.  Don't even THINK of chattering inanely at me. furious



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