It seems that men don’t take the “in sickness and in health” vow as seriously as women do. Husbands are more likely to dump their ailing wives, while women tend to stand by their men in sickness, according to a new study.
The research, published in the March issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, found that when wives contract a serious disease, the rate of divorce goes up by 6 percent.
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But when a man gets seriously ill, there is no impact on divorce rates, the researchers found. Amelia Karraker — lead author of the report and an assistant professor of human development and family studies at Iowa State — didn’t provide an explanation for the difference between men and women.
She said she became interested in studying the matter in light of the political uproar surrounding the divorces of former House Speaker Newt Gingrich and Sen. John Edwards, who both dumped their cancer-stricken wives.
Real men do not dump their ill wives, ever. Those that do, are losers IMHO. Selfish basTarDs.
My DH stood by me and was my rock when I endured cancer. The thought of leaving never entered his mind.
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I drink coffee so I don't kill you.
I quilt so I don't kill you.
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Faith isn't something that keeps bad things from happening. Faith is what helps us get through bad things when they do happen.
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
I wouldn't dump a husband or SO because they were sick. I wouldn't dump a BF if we had a committed relationship because he was sick. I might consider legal action if it made the financial future more secure but wouldn't emotionally dump them. If my husband was abusive and became sick I don't know what I would do, I can see why that would be the breaking point for a spouse, been verbally or physically abused for years and now are faced with having to take care of their abuser? Yeah I might dump and run.
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Sometimes you're the windshield, and sometimes you're the bug.
I know a very nice man who wasn't going to marry again. He'd been married many times and just figured he was bad at it. But, when his girlfriend of 15 years got cancer, he married her within 2 weeks of finding out so that she knew she had family that would care for her.
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I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Very confident Mr.VoR will never abandon me. He has vowed to make sure I'm comfortable and secure and he will be holding my hand (and my heart!) until I pass.
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I'm the Ginger Rogers of spelling...that means I'm smat.
Lesson learned in February: I don't have to keep up, I just have to keep moving!
Very confident Mr.VoR will never abandon me. He has vowed to make sure I'm comfortable and secure and he will be holding my hand (and my heart!) until I pass.
Mr.VoR sounds like a Gem. I'm sure he will be with you, come hell or high water!
I know Wayne would be the same for me, and I for him.
DH was in a committed relationship for 8 years. She woudn't/couldn't marry again because she would have lost her pension from her deceased husband. DH took care of her for 4 years, doing EVERYTHING! Laundry, cooking, cleaning, doctoring abcesses, giving insulin, until her doctor decided she HAD to be in a nursing home. He waited 3 years before dating again - with her full knowledge & approval.
Some men are just true to their word - real keepers! I'm lucky!
