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Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Tackiest Invite EVER!! Hands down...

karl271 · Guru

Whatever happened to people just saying NO to some of these things. Afraid it will hurt someone's feelings, etc. etc.??? Speak out or ignore the invite. If it is a situation where you cannot do that, suck it up and buy that gift card, etc.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

It's family, she can't ignore.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

You're busy that day. I remember the foot-long bow on the first little girl's head when she was an infant (same ones, right?)

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Oh I just ignore these invites at this point. She's gift grabby. I just don't play her game. We've helped fund the last two but we already decided we're not giving this time. Who PLANS kids they can't afford? The only time my SIL has any contact with us is when she wants something.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Honeys_Mom wrote:
You're busy that day. I remember the foot-long bow on the first little girl's head when she was an infant (same ones, right?)

That was the one. And yes, it's family. But we're still not going.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

So who is paying their tab at the shower?

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

How about an etiquette book? OMG send one anonymously!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

They'll cough up the tab for the shower but her mom will probably invite every woman in her church and give them a sob story so she'll get tons of stuff. I tried to explain to DH the amount of tacky in this one invitation but he just said, "The bitch wants free stuff."

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

She needs a manners book.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I'm going thrift shopping this weekend. I'll look for one. I would gladly send it.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I have her address! She'd have no idea where it came from!

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Wow. To admit you can't afford diapers and wipes...for the baby you PLANNED...yikes. So don't have a kid if you can't afford the basics like diapers and wipes!!! I would gladly return to the days of diapers and wipes, those were cheap compared to what kids want/need when they are older!

And that invite was tacky times a million. Yikes.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Yep. This wasn't a boo boo baby. They PLANNED it. And they can't afford it. And they want three more! WTF? If you can't afford the ones you have DO NOT have more. Yes, I'm judging. They can't afford food half the time. It's insane. And they're having another little girl. Theirs is three. They should have plenty. And I know for a fact she has tons of friends that have kids. She is my famous VSS SIL. Cheap and tacky.

Tangerine · Guru

Ugh. Do you have to talk to her? I wouldn't, unless I had to.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Tangerine wrote:
Ugh. Do you have to talk to her? I wouldn't, unless I had to.

The only time I talk to her is when I have to. At family occasions. I don't attend her little get togethers anymore. She only invites us places that require bringing gifts and then she'll call to remind you to bring a gift.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

And it's funny, she's the queen of thank you notes. She'll tell you what gift to bring and then write you a thank you note thanking you for bringing it!

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

The more kids she pops out the less people will help. They will get tired of supporting her bad decisions.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Southern_Belle wrote:
How about an etiquette book? OMG send one anonymously!

YES!!!!

But would she even get it, I wonder?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Southern_Belle wrote:
The more kids she pops out the less people will help. They will get tired of supporting her bad decisions.

At the second full on shower my MIL drug all her old cronies to the shower. People who didn't even know my SIL. She got a beautiful rocker and a crib and a bunch of designer baby clothes. She got two strollers and several car seats. This is why I don't get this stupid "sprinkle". I don't know who will come this time. I'm not going.

And no, she will not understand a manners book.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Wow. She takes the cake.

Momala · Great cook-happy wife-superb fisherman

NJN ~
Here's an idea . . .

If you HAVE to put in an appearance, bring a container of store-brand wipes, with this "recipe" card attached:

Affordable Baby Wipes
one empty baby wipes container one bottle store-brand baby wash one roll full size soft* paper towels

Cut the roll of paper towels in half (a bread knife works well). Put one half in the empty container. Mix two cups of hot tap water with two tablespoons of baby wash. Pour over the paper towels. Once cooled, the wipes are ready to use.

Cost? About 46 cents per roll - certainly affordable!

* soft = Viva, or Brawny, or Bounty

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

That's a good one momala!

Bonny22Pye · Guru

I wish people could get a clue.

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.

Thanks for the coffee up my nose, NJN. biggrin

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

NAOW wrote:
Wow. She takes the cake.

Hells bells, she takes the whole bakery!!!!!!!!!! biggrin

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Now I want cake!

flan

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Someone say cake?

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Southern_Belle wrote:
Someone say cake?

Carrot cake....

And I'll share!

flan

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

Lol, I don't care for carrot cake.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Southern_Belle wrote:
Lol, I don't care for carrot cake.

I couldn't remember.

German chocolate okay?

flan

Blankie · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.

LOL! biggrin That's the current trendy name for a mini-shower for a person who has already had a shower for a previous kid.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Blankie wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.
LOL! That's the current trendy name for a mini-shower for a person who has already had a shower for a previous kid.

Which is another example of trendy not always being smart or mannerly. Technically I already KNEW what Sprinkle meant but it just sounds stupid to the core and the person who thought it up should be shot. And let's tell the truth here. Sprinkle really means, I already have a kid and have what I need but I'm gift grabby and want more presents.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

And just out of curiosity? How many of you bring a gift to a new baby no matter what baby it is? I don't care if the baby is the first or tenth, after it is born I will bring the new baby something. If I know the person already has previous kids I usually make up my standard gift of two bags of diapers, a huge refill bag of wipes, powder, lotion, shampoo, and then I throw in some socks and a couple onsies. But I always bring something by. I hate it when people beg.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I'd bring a gift once baby was born. I'm sure she expects a shower gift AND a gift when baby arrives.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Southern_Belle wrote:
I'd bring a gift once baby was born. I'm sure she expects a shower gift AND a gift when baby arrives.

She will get nothing from us. Seriously. She has never bought our kids a gift on any occasion. I'm just through with her greediness.

Blankie · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Blankie wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.
LOL! That's the current trendy name for a mini-shower for a person who has already had a shower for a previous kid.
Which is another example of trendy not always being smart or mannerly. Technically I already KNEW what Sprinkle meant but it just sounds stupid to the core and the person who thought it up should be shot. And let's tell the truth here. Sprinkle really means, I already have a kid and have what I need but I'm gift grabby and want more presents.

Bingo!

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Blankie wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Blankie wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.
LOL! That's the current trendy name for a mini-shower for a person who has already had a shower for a previous kid.
Which is another example of trendy not always being smart or mannerly. Technically I already KNEW what Sprinkle meant but it just sounds stupid to the core and the person who thought it up should be shot. And let's tell the truth here. Sprinkle really means, I already have a kid and have what I need but I'm gift grabby and want more presents.
Bingo!

Right on!

I don't know anyone who had more than one baby shower. This trend boggles my mind.

And, having one for yourself? Beyond tacky, IMHO.

You are right to ignore it, NJN.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Blankie wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Blankie wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And who came up with the name Sprinkle? That sounds like a baby who's peeing on you.
LOL! That's the current trendy name for a mini-shower for a person who has already had a shower for a previous kid.
Which is another example of trendy not always being smart or mannerly. Technically I already KNEW what Sprinkle meant but it just sounds stupid to the core and the person who thought it up should be shot. And let's tell the truth here. Sprinkle really means, I already have a kid and have what I need but I'm gift grabby and want more presents.
Bingo!

And she asked for GIFT CARDS. To the stores she listed! OMG how tacky is that? Why didn't she just say Bring Cash! Really?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Tell me ONE LINE in that invite that doesn't reek of tacky. First she admits that the two older ones have plenty to share. So basically she doesn't NEED stuff. But they're throwing it to prove that everyone cares about them. We have to SHOW THEM we care! Bwwwwwwaaaahhh. Then she admits again that she has the stuff she needs but that they can't afford diapers and wipes. Guess what VSS SIL, NOT MY PROBLEM!

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I was once sent a wedding invitation for DH's cousin (the groom) and his fiancé. The invitation told us if we wanted a certain dessert at the wedding, we would have to bring it ourselves, but they would provide the table (it was a cultural tradition in DH's family, but the fiancé and her family didn't observe it so they put it on the invitation that if we wanted it, we needed to bring it!) and also not to bring gifts, as they were saving up for a Tempurpedic bed and preferred cash.

I was aghast when I got that invite. Luckily, it was on a date that DH had a game out of town, and DD was taking the ACT, so we couldn't drive in (it was out of town). Darn. I sent our regrets and a check.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

LOL That's so funny. What has happened to manners? I just don't get it. We've gone from please help us celebrate this wonderful milestone in our lives to please help us fund this wonderful milestone in our lives that we can't afford.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

My first baby, I was honored with two showers. My cousin gave me one for the family. And the wife of the doctor mom was working for gave one for me.

My second baby, mom's friends gave mom a shower for my baby. I was not invited.

Nothing for any one for my third.

Lindley · Guru

I had two showers with my first baby and one with my second only no gifts for the baby but a robe and gown for me.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I was embarrassed my work peeps insisted on giving me a shower for DD. I could afford anything needed and she was my second child. When she came early, they rallied around me an brought me things I needed right away. Given the horrible situation I was is, the gifts were not only welcomed but the rallying around me meant so much and helped me emotionally. Those friends are awesome.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
LOL That's so funny. What has happened to manners? I just don't get it. We've gone from please help us celebrate this wonderful milestone in our lives to please help us fund this wonderful milestone in our lives that we can't afford.

Right?! Now the dessert, they were unfamiliar with it so I understand to a point. But then the bride or her mother should just talk to the groom and his mother and say "hey if you want to have it, awesome. Your family will need to take care of it since we don't know about it" It should NOT have been on the invitation to all the guests to BYOD! Really tacky.

And dont get me started on the bed...asking for cash to purchase your marital bed?! I laughed about that for weeks. How crazy tacky! I understand wanting a nice bed or nice furniture or whatever. So save up for it. If you can't afford it, you might have to work towards it!! Shocking!! Lol The concept that newlyweds get every single thing they want and start out with every last thing they need is foreign to me. You register for some things so people know your colors and such. The rest of it you mignt have to buy yourself! It's called saving, planning , sacrifice! Yikes!!!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
I was embarrassed my work peeps insisted on giving me a shower for DD. I could afford anything needed and she was my second child. When she came early, they rallied around me an brought me things I needed right away. Given the horrible situation I was is, the gifts were not only welcomed but the rallying around me meant so much and helped me emotionally. Those friends are awesome.

This is a totally different situation and if I had a friend in this situation I would gladly be at their side giving and helping. But my SIL is NOT in a bad situation. The only suffering she does is by her own poor choices. If you can't afford the kids you have don't keep having more. And I'd be way more willing to help her if she weren't so damn greedy on any and every occasion she can be. And there's the difference between you and her. You are not gift grabby and selfish.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I think having a shower for a second child, or a third, is ok if the time between this and the first is far enough apart. Or if it is the other gender. That doesn't bother me at all.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

lilyofcourse wrote:
I think having a shower for a second child, or a third, is ok if the time between this and the first is far enough apart. Or if it is the other gender. That doesn't bother me at all.

I could get behind that. However, if you have a girl and are having a boy you shouldn't be asking for major things like pack and plays and stuff like that. You should only be getting boy stuff and things like diapers. There are people out there who use this as a way to ask for all new things. And yes, if there's ten years between your kids there's probably things you are going to need. Even new items that have come out on the market that would be nice.