TOTALLY GEEKED!

We weren't allowed to wear black nail polish to church, lol.

I still take all electronics at 9 pm on school nights. 10 on weekends or when they get home. Curfew is midnight Friday and Saturday nights.

They don't have their own lap tops. But they can use the PCB in the kitchen.

Language is to be controlled.

Dress like you care about yourself.

I will ask where you are going. Before you have permission to go I will know who all is going, who is driving, if there will be chaperones at parties, will there be alcohol for any one, adults included. And you will be home by curfew no matter what is going on. If you can not answer my questions satisfactorily then you don't go. Period.

And yes, certain music is prohibited. Period.

Around here, it doesn't matter what year it is or what is happening or cool or societal norm. There are rules. They will be followed.

1, 2 and 4 are not from the eighties. Kids didn't have cell phones in the 80's; smartphones and laptops did not exist.

This list is NOT from the eighties. Someone who wasn't around then made this up.

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This list is NOT from the eighties. Someone who wasn't around then made this up.

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 Yeah, I was confused about this list. My kids were both born in the 80s. There were no cell phones or laptops then. We didn't even have a computer or e-mail until DD was a teenager. 

Thank goodness. I lucked out as a parent. Didn't have to deal with all that. It all came in just as my kids were becoming adults.

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The list doesn't say it is from the 80s.

This is a link to another list on the same site, not the title:

More From The Stir: 15 Things Every '80s Kid Grew Up With, But Our Kids Can't Identify

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The title says these are rules 80's kids grew up with.

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I must be missing it. Where is it at?

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Lawyerlady wrote:

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DemoniaD wrote:

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The list doesn't say it is from the 80s.

This is a link to another list on the same site, not the title:

More From The Stir: 15 Things Every '80s Kid Grew Up With, But Our Kids Can't Identify

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The title says these are rules 80's kids grew up with.

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This:

 

More From The Stir: 15 Things Every '80s Kid Grew Up With, But Our Kids Can't Identify

 

is not the title.

That links to another slide show that the first items were cassette walkman and floppy disks.

The title of the above article is:

18 Rules for Teenagers From America's 'Strictest' Parents ...

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 Ahhhhh, that would be one of those excess links.  Those can lead to confusion.

No sweats, gym clothes, skinny jeans, stretch pants, short shorts, mini-skirts, pajama pants, and sleeveless shirts have to pass the three-finger-test.

? Kids can't wear sweats, gym clothes, or pajama pants? The rest I understand, even if I don't completely agree,  but whats wrong with sweats?

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No sweats, gym clothes, skinny jeans, stretch pants, short shorts, mini-skirts, pajama pants, and sleeveless shirts have to pass the three-finger-test.

? Kids can't wear sweats, gym clothes, or pajama pants? The rest I understand, even if I don't completely agree,  but whats wrong with sweats?

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 I had an English teacher Senior year that would not allow sweats in her class room.  It wasn't against school policy but she didn't care.  We were all afraid of her so nobody took the challenge until I sat in poison ivy right before the final exam.  I had missed a few days before because it was so bad & just showed up in cut off sweats.  She gave me an evil glare but let me take the final.

I can understand sweats now and then but I don't see why it's so hard to just put pants on.

Yoga pants are on the fence for me. Depends on when or where.

And pajama pants? Are you 2 and sick? Sorry pajama pants are not for public. Keep them at home.

Why are pants so hard for people?

When we first moved into the new house (in 1977) we weren't even allowed to snack outside the kitchen. Eventually that rule became obsolete.

Well. Maybe pajama pants are for sleeping and not for anything else.

I don't think these are bad rules. They are not mine but they are not bad.

My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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 It would not occur to me to eat in my bedroom. I sleep there.

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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 Nobody in my house has food or drink in their bedrooms. It started as a rule for the kids, and DH and I followed suit so we wouldn't be hypocritical. And it just stuck. There's no reason to bring it into the bedrooms. Just inviting spills. And we really hate crumbs in bed, so we just don't do it.

It's also a heck of a lot easier to find glasses and dishes when you don't have to go looking in so many rooms for them.

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 My mom let us take all kinds of drinks in our rooms when we were little.  Sometimes snacks.  Inevitably she would have to come hunt down moldy glasses of milk and stuff.

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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 It would not occur to me to eat in my bedroom. I sleep there.

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 I would always have a snack in my room while doing homework or drink tea while reading a book.  I just don't get why it wouldn't be ok with teenagers.  

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Ohfour wrote:

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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 It would not occur to me to eat in my bedroom. I sleep there.

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 I would always have a snack in my room while doing homework or drink tea while reading a book.  I just don't get why it wouldn't be ok with teenagers.  

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There is no reason you (general) can't have a snack in the kitchen.  Crumbs and spilled drinks cause all kids of problems.   

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 I can see your POV.  But I loved drinking tea in bed with a good book.  

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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I can see keeping it out of the bedrooms to a certain extent--but again, no popcorn while watching a movie or snacking in front of the TV?  I don't see it.   

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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 It would not occur to me to eat in my bedroom. I sleep there.

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  But now kids have TV in their rooms and that's where they spend the majority of their time. Not like when I was young and there was just one TV in the house. Our kids spend the majority of their time in their rooms doing homework or watching TV. Sorry, I bought the TV in the living room and I get to pick what we watch. Sometimes it's their shows, but sometimes it's mine. Plus, most kids have their game system or computer in their room. Bedrooms for teens aren't for sleeping. It's a mini living room almost. 

Basically it comes down to my house my rules.

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Ohfour wrote:

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My kids were never allowed to have any food or drink in their rooms. They could eat in the den if it was pizza/movie night, but nothing in their rooms. But I held/hold myself to the same standard. No food or drink in the bedroom.

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 It would not occur to me to eat in my bedroom. I sleep there.

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  But now kids have TV in their rooms and that's where they spend the majority of their time. Not like when I was young and there was just one TV in the house. Our kids spend the majority of their time in their rooms doing homework or watching TV. Sorry, I bought the TV in the living room and I get to pick what we watch. Sometimes it's their shows, but sometimes it's mine. Plus, most kids have their game system or computer in their room. Bedrooms for teens aren't for sleeping. It's a mini living room almost. 

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 Our kids did not get tv's in their rooms until they were about 14.  Yes, we're horrible parents.  Even then they weren't hooked up to cable.  We have one gaming system.  It's in the living room.  My kids also were not allowed to have computers in their rooms until they became high school age and saved enough money to buy their own laptop.  Yes, again, we're horrible parents.  Our kids rooms were not havens of luxury.

SS has a 64 inch tv in his bedroom at home.  He's ten.  He has two gaming systems.  And a computer.  Guess what?  He was failing school until his mother took all that crap out.  He's now on the A-B honor roll.

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But that still doesn't answer the question of why? What purpose does it serve? Keep down a few crumbs?

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 Because food left where it shouldn't attracts bugs and mice and kids are not exactly known as the cleanest people in the world.  And for mom to have to worry about cleaning it in there causes more work for mom. 

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Last time I checked it was 2015 and we still don't allow our kids to have food OR drinks anywhere but in the kitchen.

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I never have understood the rationale for that one.

 

No popcorn when watching a movie?  No soda or beer (no beer for kids, I understand, but adults?) while watching sports? 

 

No snacks while watching TV or playing video games?

 

Just seems like an unnecessary rule that serves little purpose.   I can see when kids are small and are likely to spill everything they get their hands on.  I can also se the rule in regards to eating meals at the table with family rather than in front of the TV--but all the time?  Why? 

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 In my case my DD wasn't allowed to eat or drink in her bedroom except for a glass of water at night. When she was little it was the spilling and getting food and stains on the bed but when she was older it was because she always seemed to forget to bring the dishes out when she was done and they'd stay there until I went and collected them all. So while the rule may seem unnecessary to you it doesn't mean it's unnecessary to me. I also can't imagine my husband drinking beer in bed when he could be watching the game in the livingroom. Who does that?

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That still doesn't answer the question. A rule with no purpose? Why have it? Just because you can?

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 Like I tell my kids, it doesn't matter if you think it has a purpose, value, reason or what you think or feel about it. It is my rule and it will be followed. The only time you can not follow my rules is when it will cause you physical harm or you move out and are in your own house. 

 

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 You don't care about your kids feelings?  You are not willing to discuss a rule with them so that they understand it?  You just demand blind obedience?