TOTALLY GEEKED!

ed11563 · Guru

DEAR ABBY: It happened to me again

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

And the other woman should have said "she was here first" and not gone ahead of her.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Oh brother....

Tinydancer · Guru

Rudeness just seems to be a fact of life lately. Maybe it's the fast paced non stop world we live in but I miss civility sooo much.

ed11563 · Guru

Going with the scenario presented, should the person who was overlooked have demanded a discount for the inconvenience, and because the clerk was inattentive and allowed the bully to push ahead of her place in line?

Would you consider the one who pushed ahead of her or his place a bully?

What would or did you say when it happened to you?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

No one was a bully. Goodness.

The cashier walked up and started ringing some one up. Probably had no clue who was there first.

It was one item each apparently. Not like it was a couple 100 and WIC and coupons and crap.

Seems like a minor thing. Don't understand the problem really.

But I will say, if this is a constant thing that keeps happening to this chick, she needs to learn to be more assertive.

karl271 · Guru

Seems to me that some people just seem to be invisible. I do not know why, they just are... Kind of fade into the background.
But I do think the other customer should have spoken up and said "She was here first" - that is, if she could see her....

Renegade Time Lord · Am I A Good Man?

Lawyerlady wrote:
And the other woman should have said "she was here first" and not gone ahead of her.

I agree. I have been in many situations where an employee will start to service me, and if there was someone else ahead of me, I will point them out and say "He/She was here first". Not an issue with me. Especially if there is no line and people milling about, it is the mannerly thing to do. The people waiting for service usually know who got there after them. Most of the time, people here are polite, and all it takes is eye contact, and they will motion for the other person to go first. And even if someone is serviced before me who came after me, I will just let it go because most of the time I am not in a rush and the survival of Earthian civilization is not hanging in the balance.

I have, however, been refused service when visiting other states. To share just one experience, when I was visiting Las Vegas, I was in a gift shop at one of the hotels. I was standing in line at the cashier to purchase my items. There was one woman in front of me and two in back of me. The woman in front of me finished making her purchase and started to leave, whereupon the cashier looked at the woman in back of me and said "Next!" I was standing right in front of her, and I told her that I was next in line, yet she refused to make eye contact, and waved at the woman behind me, who did not say anything, just went forward to the register.

Not wanting to cause a scene, and because I don't let things like that get to me, I looked around the shop and saw another cashier way in the back who did not have any customers, so I went to her. She was very pleasant and rang me up immediately. I asked if there was a manager present whom I could speak to. She told me the manager was not in the store, but she could take a note for him. I let her know about her co-worker, and she got this look on her face which told me that she was not fond of her either. She apologized for the rude service on behalf of her co-worker, and we had a nice chat about my visit there. She, unlike her co-worker, was genuinely friendly. smile

Lindley · Guru

My husband teases me about having the word "ignore me" stamped on my forehead. Hasn't happened in a long time but I use to get ignored in a restaurant.

One time when me and my family was out to dinner with my parents the waitress always took their orders but walked off when it was my turn to order. Dinner I had to flag her down, coffee yes I had to remind her Ineeded a refill. She took alltheir orders for dessert and walked off when it was my turn to order. I was real torched. Didn't help when my husband was laughing about it.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Sometimes people are rude. I know at the pharmacy people will cut in line all the time. If we have nothing going on we might over look it. It also depends on the attitude of the person. But really people need to learn to stand up for themselves. A simple, "I was here first." would have sufficed. The clerk is not a mind reader. She may have been right in the middle of something and got called to the register and just forgot to ask who was there first. Not everything is a personal slight.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

The other woman may not even realized she was there or waiting in line as well. Not everything is rudeness. She might have been standing there looking at her phone or something and thought she wasn't in line. Who knows? Sometimes we do attribute rudeness when it isn't necessarily the case. Like if someone pulls out in front of you in traffic, you assume they "cut you off" and you get the road rage thing. When in reality, maybe it is an elderly person who really didn't see you or whatever. It isn't always intentional rudeness.
But, yeah, when waiting in line you have to do the dance. Where you move closer and closer and step up into the open gap, yada yada because you know someone will try to cut in! lol

JPT · Senior Member

Lawyerlady wrote:
And the other woman should have said "she was here first" and not gone ahead of her.

This. I ALWAYS say that if the clerk isn't sure. And most of the people here do the same.

It rarely happens to me, but it did happen recently when we had reservations at a new restaurant, and we checked in, and were told our table wasn't ready yet, it would be a few minutes. Then another party (same size) came in with a reservation at the same time, and they were seated right away. We ended up waiting 20 minutes.

I did note it in my review on Trip Advisor (and I am a frequent reviewer, over 130, so people know I'm don't have an agenda)

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

At most groceries, when a cashier opens a lane, they say, "I can take the next person in line." That usually works well.

Yes, I think we all have dealt with rude people who cut the line.

This happened several years ago at a bank. I was first in line & it was busy. When another teller opened her window, the woman behind me walked in front of me, then looked at me. I said, "No, you go right ahead. You're obviously more important than me."

flan

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

I don't think I've ever had this happen. Generally people around here acknowledge who was first in line. And when it is my turn I step right up.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
The other woman may not even realized she was there or waiting in line as well. Not everything is rudeness. She might have been standing there looking at her phone or something and thought she wasn't in line. Who knows? Sometimes we do attribute rudeness when it isn't necessarily the case. Like if someone pulls out in front of you in traffic, you assume they "cut you off" and you get the road rage thing. When in reality, maybe it is an elderly person who really didn't see you or whatever. It isn't always intentional rudeness.
But, yeah, when waiting in line you have to do the dance. Where you move closer and closer and step up into the open gap, yada yada because you know someone will try to cut in! lol

Ummm, yes, if she cut in front of someone, even inadvertantly, it is rude. Pay attention.

FNW · Guru

Geez.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
The other woman may not even realized she was there or waiting in line as well. Not everything is rudeness. She might have been standing there looking at her phone or something and thought she wasn't in line. Who knows? Sometimes we do attribute rudeness when it isn't necessarily the case. Like if someone pulls out in front of you in traffic, you assume they "cut you off" and you get the road rage thing. When in reality, maybe it is an elderly person who really didn't see you or whatever. It isn't always intentional rudeness.
But, yeah, when waiting in line you have to do the dance. Where you move closer and closer and step up into the open gap, yada yada because you know someone will try to cut in! lol
Ummm, yes, if she cut in front of someone, even inadvertantly, it is rude. Pay attention.

My point is that every perceived slight is not intentional. And, if you want to go about with your panties in wad thinking people are "dissing" you when they really are oblivious then be my guest.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

If someone cuts in front of me because they can't pay attention around themselves because their nose is buried in their phone - they are being rude.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Fine. Then stand around being pissed off while the other person doesn't care! lol

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Fine. Then stand around being pissed off while the other person doesn't care! lol

Oh, this would not have happened to me. I can speak up for myself BEFORE the person starts to get rung up.