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DEAR AMY: I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. Things are going well, except for one major issue: my friends and family don't take him seriously. My friends act like he's not "good enough" for me (they never have a reason why), and my family treats him like some high school fling (he and I are both 30). None of them has made any effort to get to know him. I've tried directly asking them to try building a better relationship, since this is someone I'm considering marrying, but they don't bother. If my friends or family were to bring serious concerns about my boyfriend to me, I would listen. They haven't. Instead, they just treat my relationship like a joke. I really want to find out what their objections are, or, better yet, to help them see how wonderful my boyfriend is. Do you have suggestions for me?

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DEAR TROUBLED: Some of the burden for proving how wonderful your boyfriend is should be borne by your boyfriend. Is he stepping up and engaging in these relationships? You should examine your own relationship history to see if you have conditioned people close to you not to take you seriously. If you are a 30-year-old adult on the road to marriage, then you will have to stiffen your spine. Pay attention to specific feedback, but also insist on tolerance and respect toward your partner

 



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I think she should put their attitude on "ignore".



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"You should examine your own relationship history to see if you have conditioned people close to you not to take you seriously."

I think the LW should examine her past relationships. The could be the issue. She may have a history of choosing SO's that have been losers. Perhaps her friends and family are tired of dealing with drama from her relationships. Perhaps this particular BF is a loser.

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A lot of time those around you can see things you dont.

Maybe she should take an objective look at things.

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Maybe the family is sick of getting attached to her boyfriends only to have her dump them and move on. They might not take him seriously because they don't think she is serious about him.

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She's a horrible person! We should burn her at the stake!  biggrin



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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

She's a horrible person! We should burn her at the stake!  biggrin

Please don't burn the steak!!!

 



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Maybe he's not good enough for her. Your friends and family don't usually have love blinders on.

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It could also be that her family are controlling snobs and don't want to see her as an adult . My Dad was like that. He would try and ignore any boyfriends' existance.He would have rather I never dated. I think it was a threat to his perceived control of me. Perceived being the key word.

Yeah he could be a loser or they could just kinda svck too. :)



-- Edited by Mary Zombie on Monday 27th of April 2015 08:50:43 PM

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