TOTALLY GEEKED!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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Adults don't get to tell other adults how to live their lives. Period.

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Yep.  And the daughter can't tell her parents how to live theirs either.

Ohfour wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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I want to know who believes that, after years of living together, an adult would suddenly stop because Mommy & Daddy don't approve.

flan

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The daughter in the OP hasn't been living with her BF for years.   

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 So what?  Regardless of the time in involved they aren't going to stop.

Plus, those of you who have been saying that living together is some sort of sin are wrong, anyway.  Living with someone is not a sin.  You can have a roommate of the opposite sex.  

Of course you are going to say that they aren't just roommates.  Duh.  It's the sex outside of marriage that is the sin.  They will be doing that regardless of their respective address.

huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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Adults don't get to tell other adults how to live their lives. Period.

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Yep.  And the daughter can't tell her parents how to live theirs either.

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 She's not trying to.

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Sure she is.  She's mad that they won't come to her party.  That's controlling.... 

Ohfour wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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Adults don't get to tell other adults how to live their lives. Period.

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Yep.  And the daughter can't tell her parents how to live theirs either.

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 She's not trying to.

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Sure she is.  She's mad that they won't come to her party.  That's controlling.... 

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 Whether she is mad or hurt, she has a right to her emotions.

flan

Ohfour wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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I want to know who believes that, after years of living together, an adult would suddenly stop because Mommy & Daddy don't approve.

flan

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The daughter in the OP hasn't been living with her BF for years.   

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 So what?  Regardless of the time in involved they aren't going to stop.

 

Plus, those of you who have been saying that living together is some sort of sin are wrong, anyway.  Living with someone is not a sin.  You can have a roommate of the opposite sex.  

 

Of course you are going to say that they aren't just roommates.  Duh.  It's the sex outside of marriage that is the sin.  They will be doing that regardless of their respective address.

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 And a lot of people would disagree with this.  Take Lifeway Christian Resources for example.  If you have a roommate of the opposite sex, you will not be hired.  And trust me, they know if you are lying or not...

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 They can disagree all they want.  They are wrong.  It's the sex that is the sin, not the address.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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1 Thessalonians 5:22King James Version (KJV)

22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

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 thanks for posting a bible verse that has nothing to do with anything. 

Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 That is absolutely ludicrous.  Can't trust yourself?

huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 That is absolutely ludicrous.  Can't trust yourself?

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Nope.  I would never cheat on my husband. I would never give the impression of impropriety.  It's not unusual.  I don't know a whole lot of people that would.  Here are work, we NEVER go out with just one man and woman.  No one does that.  It's improper. 

huskerbb wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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1 Thessalonians 5:22King James Version (KJV)

22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

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 thanks for posting a bible verse that has nothing to do with anything. 

 

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 Of course it applies.

You said there was nothing wrong with cohabitation. 

But what if that cohabitation causes another to stumble?

You like to claim to be knowledgable of the Bible but you always seem to forget what it says.

lilyofcourse wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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1 Thessalonians 5:22King James Version (KJV)

22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

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 thanks for posting a bible verse that has nothing to do with anything. 

 

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 Of course it applies.

You said there was nothing wrong with cohabitation. 

But what if that cohabitation causes another to stumble?

You like to claim to be knowledgable of the Bible but you always seem to forget what it says.

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 Stumble to what?  The WHAT is the sin.

Ohfour wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 That is absolutely ludicrous.  Can't trust yourself?

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Nope.  I would never cheat on my husband. I would never give the impression of impropriety.  It's not unusual.  I don't know a whole lot of people that would.  Here are work, we NEVER go out with just one man and woman.  No one does that.  It's improper. 

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 WTF are you babbling about?  How do you even function?  That is just mentally deranged.  When I got my job, I was interviewed by a woman.  I have to travel to some work functions with women.  No one thinks any thing of it because it is completely NORMAL.  

It doesn't give the appearance of cheating unless you would actually consider doing so.  I couldn't respect my wife if I couldn't trust her to be around other men--and vice-versa.

Lexxy wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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lilyofcourse wrote:

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1 Thessalonians 5:22King James Version (KJV)

22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

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 thanks for posting a bible verse that has nothing to do with anything. 

 

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You are wrong.  That has everything to do with your "argument".  You said co-ed roommates aren't a sin.  I think while maybe not a sin, it's definitely inappropriate.  Most churches here and most Christian employers agree. 

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 Really?  I've had many male roommates.  They make great roommates.  They never borrow my clothes & they do the heavy lifting.  Some were like family & we shared communal meals others preferred to do their own thing.  I even had one who was my wing man.  I never slept with or lusted after any of them.  One thing though, I never shared a bathroom with any of them.  That would have been awkward to me.

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 unless you are a rutting hog--it's not a problem.  Some of us can actually see members of the opposite gender in terms other than those used in the bedroom.

huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 That is absolutely ludicrous.  Can't trust yourself?

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Nope.  I would never cheat on my husband. I would never give the impression of impropriety.  It's not unusual.  I don't know a whole lot of people that would.  Here are work, we NEVER go out with just one man and woman.  No one does that.  It's improper. 

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 WTF are you babbling about?  How do you even function?  That is just mentally deranged.  When I got my job, I was interviewed by a woman.  I have to travel to some work functions with women.  No one thinks any thing of it because it is completely NORMAL.  

It doesn't give the appearance of cheating unless you would actually consider doing so.  I couldn't respect my wife if I couldn't trust her to be around other men--and vice-versa.

 

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That's your world.  And one that (if real, which I have my doubts), is not one that I would want to be in.  It has nothing at all to do with trust.  It has everything to do with appearance.  I trust my pastor, my employer, and Billy Graham's opinion on this matter much more than yours. You're not all you think you are. 

huskerbb wrote:

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Some of my co-workers are attractive young ladies--but I certainly don't think of them as potential sex partners. I guess I have the ability to see them as, you know, other human beings, competent co-workers, friends. I thought most people probably had that ability--but maybe not.

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God, you are exceptionally dense today...

It's not about ME.  It's about appearances.  I would never want to give the appearance of something improper.   

Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 Wow. 

So at work if you need to have a private conversation with the HR manager who is a man, you would bring someone else into the room? That's ludicrous. 

The only situation I would agree with you is in the case of underage children. DH will not be alone behind closed doors with any of his female players. He always has a second adult present. 

Mellow Momma wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 Wow. 

So at work if you need to have a private conversation with the HR manager who is a man, you would bring someone else into the room? That's ludicrous. 

The only situation I would agree with you is in the case of underage children. DH will not be alone behind closed doors with any of his female players. He always has a second adult present. 

 

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We have a male HR director and 2 females.  They deal accordingly.  

Ohfour wrote:

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Mellow Momma wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 Wow. 

So at work if you need to have a private conversation with the HR manager who is a man, you would bring someone else into the room? That's ludicrous. 

The only situation I would agree with you is in the case of underage children. DH will not be alone behind closed doors with any of his female players. He always has a second adult present. 

 

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We have a male HR director and 2 females.  They deal accordingly.  

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 What if the other 2 are out sick and he is the only one there the day you have a serious HR problem?

Mellow Momma wrote:

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I don't know a single person who would think "wow. That's improper" if you were alone with a man. What's improper is having sex with him, not being alone with him. Two coworkers can have a comfidential work conversation without it being improper.

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It's a Christian environment.  All of the Christian companies have the same policy.  Nashville is the Christian company capital of the world.  We have over 100 Christian employers here.   It's just they way it is...

Mellow Momma wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Mellow Momma wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Just like Billy Graham refused to be alone with a woman that wasn't his wife. It's the appearance. I won't be alone with a man besides my husband. I think it's disrespectful...

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 Wow. 

So at work if you need to have a private conversation with the HR manager who is a man, you would bring someone else into the room? That's ludicrous. 

The only situation I would agree with you is in the case of underage children. DH will not be alone behind closed doors with any of his female players. He always has a second adult present. 

 

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We have a male HR director and 2 females.  They deal accordingly.  

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 What if the other 2 are out sick and he is the only one there the day you have a serious HR problem?

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I don't know, it's never come up that I'm aware of... 

huskerbb wrote:

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Ohfour wrote:

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Mellow Momma wrote:

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I don't know a single person who would think "wow. That's improper" if you were alone with a man. What's improper is having sex with him, not being alone with him. Two coworkers can have a comfidential work conversation without it being improper.

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It's a Christian environment.  All of the Christian companies have the same policy.  Nashville is the Christian company capital of the world.  We have over 100 Christian employers here.   It's just they way it is...

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 Not all Christian companies go by such non-Biblical nonsense.

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Well, the ones here do.  I deal with many of them on a daily basis.  It would never happen. 

Ohfour wrote:

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Let me see, who do I respect and wish to emulate...Billy Graham or Husker...decisions, decisions...

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