TOTALLY GEEKED!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby:Don't Look a Gift Horse in the Mouth

Lindley · Guru

I think the husband sounds like a spoiled brat.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

No good deed goes unpunished.

FNW · Guru

Well, good, now he can stay home.

Poor wife.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Idiot

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Why couldn't he just contact the cruise line & see if he could change the itinerary? You know like an adult. He wouldn't have to let Stacey know the gift was not to his liking & his wife wouldn't be put in that position.

FNW · Guru

That was my thought as well, lexxy. And if it ends up costing him more, he can foot that part of the bill.

Some people just want everything done for them. This man sounds like one. He even had his wife do his dirty work.

huskerbb · Guru

So.....two trips is out of the question?

ed11563 · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
So.....two trips is out of the question?

I didn't see that they invited anyone from Nebraska.

huskerbb · Guru

ed11563 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
So.....two trips is out of the question?

I didn't see that they invited anyone from Nebraska.

???? That makes no sense.

ed11563 · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
So.....two trips is out of the question?

I didn't see that they invited anyone from Nebraska.
???? That makes no sense.

Well of COURSE they should have invited you, but they didn't, so live with it. No vacation trip with them for you. blankstare

huskerbb · Guru

WTF are you talking about???? I never suggested I should be invited or even that I wanted to go. Your posts just keep getting more bizarre.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

FNW wrote:
That was my thought as well, lexxy. And if it ends up costing him more, he can foot that part of the bill.

Some people just want everything done for them. This man sounds like one. He even had his wife do his dirty work.

That was my first thought too. And I honestly don't know why the wife didn't do it either. First, I would have called the travel place and explained that I was given the gift as a trip and is there any way I can exchange this or that. They'd probably do it. Some places will do it for a small fee. But I'd rather pay a small fee than do what those two idiots did. They could have kept the trip. And all they would have had to tell the daughter was that they were so excited to be able to go they added a few more things to the trip to make it the dream trip of a lifetime.

How do people make it through life anymore these days?

ed11563 · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
WTF are you talking about???? I never suggested I should be invited or even that I wanted to go. Your posts just keep getting more bizarre.

So when you suggested two trips instead, you were NOT suggesting that one of them should be for you???

I'd apologize for misinterpreting, but I do it on purpose.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

ed11563 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
WTF are you talking about???? I never suggested I should be invited or even that I wanted to go. Your posts just keep getting more bizarre.
So when you suggested two trips instead, you were NOT suggesting that one of them should be for you???
I'd apologize for misinterpreting, but I do it on purpose.

How bizarre. Of course Husker was not suggesting one was for him. He was saying the guy could have taken the free trip and then planned another trip for what he would have preferred.

I almost have to think you did it on purpose.

ed11563 · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
WTF are you talking about???? I never suggested I should be invited or even that I wanted to go. Your posts just keep getting more bizarre.
So when you suggested two trips instead, you were NOT suggesting that one of them should be for you???
I'd apologize for misinterpreting, but I do it on purpose.
How bizarre. Of course Husker was not suggesting one was for him. He was saying the guy could have taken the free trip and then planned another trip for what he would have preferred.
I almost have to think you did it on purpose.

How silly of me to think that teasing might be good. cry

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

This is part of the reason why gift giving is no longer as fun as it used to be. When we got gifts back in the day, you simply said Thank you and you appreciated, whatever it was. Now, "oh, it's the wrong color, not exactly what I want, there was something I like better, blah, blah". Why bother? Just write out a check and be done with it.

aergia · Regular

I will never be comfortable around Brother One again. He and the wife returned a framed piece of professional art. They had a new huge home, They could not find 2 sq ft to put it, take it out when i go there maybe 1 x a year?

oh well I was told by others that I was silly to think I had any right to give them such a present. It is now 10 years later and he is throwing himself a milestone birthday party.

Can I bring it back, or should I just hand him a bottle of wine?

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

aergia wrote:
I will never be comfortable around Brother One again. He and the wife returned a framed piece of professional art. They had a new huge home, They could not find 2 sq ft to put it, take it out when i go there maybe 1 x a year?

oh well I was told by others that I was silly to think I had any right to give them such a present. It is now 10 years later and he is throwing himself a milestone birthday party.

Can I bring it back, or should I just hand him a bottle of wine?

I'll give you a dollar if you do!

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

aergia wrote:
I will never be comfortable around Brother One again. He and the wife returned a framed piece of professional art. They had a new huge home, They could not find 2 sq ft to put it, take it out when i go there maybe 1 x a year?

oh well I was told by others that I was silly to think I had any right to give them such a present. It is now 10 years later and he is throwing himself a milestone birthday party.

Can I bring it back, or should I just hand him a bottle of wine?

Buy him something really ridiculous and pretend you are serious about it, lol. biggrin In my family, we have a ceramic turkey, that gets mailed periodically to various relatives.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
aergia wrote:
I will never be comfortable around Brother One again. He and the wife returned a framed piece of professional art. They had a new huge home, They could not find 2 sq ft to put it, take it out when i go there maybe 1 x a year?

oh well I was told by others that I was silly to think I had any right to give them such a present. It is now 10 years later and he is throwing himself a milestone birthday party.

Can I bring it back, or should I just hand him a bottle of wine?
Buy him something really ridiculous and pretend you are serious about it, lol. In my family, we have a ceramic turkey, that gets mailed periodically to various relatives.

Maybe an ugly serving dish with dried crusty food on the bottom?

flan

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

That turkey is a family joke so it's kind of fun, lol.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

People tend to forget that once a gift is given, it is theirs to do with as they please.

Throw it away, return it, sell it. No longer matters once it is given.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

lilyofcourse wrote:
People tend to forget that once a gift is given, it is theirs to do with as they please.

Throw it away, return it, sell it. No longer matters once it is given.

BUT you should be gracious about the gift.

flan

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

I'll take the professional art! Is it big? I'm hoping to find a nice piece of art to hang over the head of my bed in lieu of a headboard !!!

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

You don't have to like it . Just pretend you like it.

aergia · Regular

exactly
just be gracious

They already have an ugly lamp that circulates among those family members......

flan, I have to cross a toll bridge to get there, I could use that dollar.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

aergia wrote:
exactly
just be gracious

They already have an ugly lamp that circulates among those family members......

flan, I have to cross a toll bridge to get there, I could use that dollar.

I still have nightmares about crossing the George Washington Bridge!

flan

ed11563 · Guru

aergia wrote:
I will never be comfortable around Brother One again. He and the wife returned a framed piece of professional art. They had a new huge home, They could not find 2 sq ft to put it, take it out when i go there maybe 1 x a year?

oh well I was told by others that I was silly to think I had any right to give them such a present. It is now 10 years later and he is throwing himself a milestone birthday party.

Can I bring it back, or should I just hand him a bottle of wine?

Maybe give him a PICTURE of a bottle of wine, with a check for the cost.

Include a note saying that since he doesn't seem to find your gifts acceptable, you're giving him something he won't have to bother to return.

OR

since it was 10 years ago, learn from it and let it go.

Your present to him will be your presence. Nothing more and nothing less.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I have given my brother all kinds of things. I can't remember a single thing he had ever given me.

I don't really think about it.

ed11563 · Guru

flan327 wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
People tend to forget that once a gift is given, it is theirs to do with as they please.

Throw it away, return it, sell it. No longer matters once it is given.
BUT you should be gracious about the gift.
flan

Yes, return it to the store or sell it on eBay, but return it to the sender is rude. Not gracious at all.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I don't know. Depends. I got mawmaw a sweater for Christmas. It was too big and she gave it back so I could return it for a smaller size.

I'd rather give something they would like and use instead of something that will clutter a closet.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

It is one thing to say, "did you happen to save the receipt for this, I need to exchange it for a different size" and quite another to give the gift back to the gifter and say you don't want it. Although, you can likely exchange the sweater for a different size without a receipt.

Accept it, say thank you, and move on.