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Southern_Belle


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A young man and lady from my church are getting married soon. I have the guy on my FB account. He's kind of high up on the church leader totem pole. He just put a link to his honeyfund account. It's like go fund me but for weddings and honeymoons. They have various activities as well as the airfare and hotel broken down into small increments. $25 x 12 people for this or $60 x 20 people for that. It adds up to over $3,600 for everything. The wedding isn't even here, it's in another state and I highly doubt more than 10 - 15 people from our church will even be invited to the ceremony. 

He's the type of person will will talk about giving to the church until you are on the verge of bankruptcy. Bleh. whatever....



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Unbelievable!

Some people have no shame, I reckon!cry



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Pretend you know nothing about it!

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I'm not giving anything. I only know them at church and then we just exchange "good morning" greetings.

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What is it about weddings that makes everyone forget their manners??

Please, if I try any of this crap, promise you guys will call me out!

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It isn't uncommon to give cash as wedding gifts. I really don't see this as any different than a card with money in it.

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Divine Geek wrote:

What is it about weddings that makes everyone forget their manners??

Please, if I try any of this crap, promise you guys will call me out!

 We will!

And the difference between someone voluntarily giving cash and someone asking you to fund their wedding is vast. 



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I can't explain the difference. I have willing given people a gift to help pay for something. But there is just something different about them asking for it.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

It isn't uncommon to give cash as wedding gifts. I really don't see this as any different than a card with money in it.

The difference?

Receiving an invitation in the mail and deciding to send a card with money in it as a gift whether you are going or not.

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I'm getting married, you're not invited, but will you give me XX amount of dollars to pay for the boat tour on my honeymoon?



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Yes, it's one thing to give a gift to someone because you CHOOSE to do it. That is your CHOICE. It's a totally different ball game to be told you MUST buy me a gift. That is one of the main reasons I didn't go to my VSS SIL's sprinkle. I will not be dictated to what to buy for who when.

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I have yet to see one of those accounts with the ability to force participation.

I don't have a problem with it.

I also have no problem with registry information being given out.

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Well, it's just rude. It's rude to tell people what to buy you. Even if you don't have to participate. Now if you have a registry and I ask you, general you, what you want/need and you tell me you have a registry at xyz then that is not rude. To send out lists with invites is rude.

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I think it's tacky.

I don't have a problem with registry information being given, because it's given to those who are invited- not put out there begging for everyone else to pay for stuff for them.

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I don't see it that way.

I see it as information and nothing more.

I don't choose to be offended over those kinds of things.

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I agree the "funds" are rude. If you are saving for something specific, you tell some key people (your mom, your sister, your best friend) so when other people ask them for gift ideas, they can say "I know Brenda and Stan are saving up to take the snorkeling trip on their honeymoon, I'm sure they'd love any contribution to that."

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I'm not offended.

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I wouldn't say I'm offended by it. It does annoy me. Why? No clue, but it does. If it's someone I know, I'll still buy (or not buy) them whatever I want. But it still annoys me when people pull this crap.

If you need a laugh, go to the gofundme site. And just read though some of them. They are outrageous

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Divine Geek wrote:

I wouldn't say I'm offended by it. It does annoy me. Why? No clue, but it does. If it's someone I know, I'll still buy (or not buy) them whatever I want. But it still annoys me when people pull this crap.

If you need a laugh, go to the gofundme site. And just read though some of them. They are outrageous

 If you need a laugh, go to the Pet Pictures Thread in the break room.

I caught Jupiter and Huey in some goofy poses!biggrin



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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:

What is it about weddings that makes everyone forget their manners??

Please, if I try any of this crap, promise you guys will call me out!

 We will!

And the difference between someone voluntarily giving cash and someone asking you to fund their wedding is vast. 

YES!!!!!!!!!

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Divine Geek wrote:

I agree the "funds" are rude. If you are saving for something specific, you tell some key people (your mom, your sister, your best friend) so when other people ask them for gift ideas, they can say "I know Brenda and Stan are saving up to take the snorkeling trip on their honeymoon, I'm sure they'd love any contribution to that."

 This.  This is how I feel about it.  It's how it's presented.  Sending people a list of things they have to buy for you when they invite you is rude.  If I call you and say, "What do you want or need?" and you tell me, that's not rude.  If I ask your mom or sister and they tell me where you're registered it's not rude.  There's a difference between having the information ready and begging.  I'm not offended but I get to decide whether or not to give a gift.  If you're rude you're most likely not going to get one.



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Divine Geek wrote:

I wouldn't say I'm offended by it. It does annoy me. Why? No clue, but it does. If it's someone I know, I'll still buy (or not buy) them whatever I want. But it still annoys me when people pull this crap.

If you need a laugh, go to the gofundme site. And just read though some of them. They are outrageous

 Ex husbands ex wife started one for herself to "get in shape". For her health of course! She was asking for 5k for lipo and then for a personal trainer. She needed the lipo to get motivated and the trainer to keep her motivated. With the caveat that if her friends and family wanted her around for a long time, they would help her...



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Ohfour wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:

I wouldn't say I'm offended by it. It does annoy me. Why? No clue, but it does. If it's someone I know, I'll still buy (or not buy) them whatever I want. But it still annoys me when people pull this crap.

If you need a laugh, go to the gofundme site. And just read though some of them. They are outrageous

 Ex husbands ex wife started one for herself to "get in shape". For her health of course! She was asking for 5k for lipo and then for a personal trainer. She needed the lipo to get motivated and the trainer to keep her motivated. With the caveat that if her friends and family wanted her around for a long time, they would help her...

 Did you say, Here's to hoping you die soon.  I give zero.



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I'm just waiting for the link to show up on the church fb page, lol. We also have about 6 pregnant ladies who volunteer every week. Gonna get cray cray!

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I have found that most people who really care and want to get something nice will ask. Either you or someone close to you. Most others just do the cash thing. And then there are those who always show up with nothing and eat and drink everything in sight.

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I'd never attend a shower or a wedding without bringing a gift.

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Wow a tipping thread and a wedding registry thread started in the same day. Tonight might get fun!

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Yeah baby!

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Southern_Belle wrote:

I'd never attend a shower or a wedding without bringing a gift.

   My parents came to our wedding shower without a gift and complained about the food.  They came to our wedding without a gift, brought extra guests, and ate they could get their hands on.  DH was so mad at my mom he wanted to kill her.  She got in the buffet line before anyone else.  Even me.  He felt like I should have been the first one in line.



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I'm on the tacky side with this. Ugg.

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Yep. Tacky tacky. If you want a honeymoon...have one you can afford without begging. Good gravy.

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