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Dying anorexic actress, 37, who weighs approximately 40 pounds, makes heart-wrenching video plea for help as hospitals say she is 'too skinny to treat'

  • Rachael Farrokh, 37, developed anorexia nervosa more than 10 years ago
  • It spiraled after she 'lost job and struggled to get over a painful memory'
  • She is emaciated, weighs '40-something pounds' and is too weak to move
  • Her husband has quit job as personal trainer to be her full-time caregiver

By Sophie Jane Evans For Dailymail.com

Published: 21:50 EST, 20 May 2015 | Updated: 01:55 EST, 21 May 2015

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At five-foot-seven, she weighs a mere '40-something pounds' and is close to death.

Now, Rachael Farrokh, from Southern California, is begging the public to help save her life.

 

The 37-year-old actress, who has been battling anorexia nervosa for more than 10 years, has released a video on YouTube describing her fight against the life-threatening eating disorder.

In the footage, she explains how her condition has severely declined in recent months, leaving her emaciated, breathless and too weak to move around on her own at her San Clemente home.

She also reveals how her husband, Ron Edmondson, has had to quit his job to become her 24-hour caregiver, while area hospitals won't treat her because her 'dangerous' weight makes her a 'liability'. 

 
A California woman describes her descent into anorexia
 
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Plea: Rachael Farrokh, from California, who has been battling anorexia nervosa for more than 10 years, has released a video on YouTube (pictured) spotlighting her fight against the life-threatening eating disorder
 
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Plea: Rachael Farrokh, from California, who has been battling anorexia nervosa for more than 10 years, has released a video on YouTube (pictured) spotlighting her fight against the life-threatening eating disorder

Shocking: In the footage, she explains how her condition has severely declined in recent months, leaving her emaciated, breathless and too weak to move around on her own at her San Clemente home. Above, Ms Farrokh is filmed being helped to her feet by her husband, Ron Edmondson, who is now her full-time caregiver
 
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Shocking: In the footage, she explains how her condition has severely declined in recent months, leaving her emaciated, breathless and too weak to move around on her own at her San Clemente home. Above, Ms Farrokh is filmed being helped to her feet by her husband, Ron Edmondson, who is now her full-time caregiver

Ms Farrokh relaxes in a chair before her condition took hold
 
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She poses with her husband prior to her illness
 
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Happier times: Ms Farrokh relaxes (left) and poses with her husband (right) before her anorexia took hold

'There's one hospital across the country that can help, and my chances are very slim. We need your help,' a gaunt-looking Ms Farrokh says in the video, asking viewers to donate 'anything you can'.

Sitting on a couch with a pink hooded top covering her tiny frame, Ms Farrokh, begins the video by saying: 'I need your help. I'm suffering from an eating disorder. It's a very severe kind of anorexia.'

Struggling to get her words out, she continues: 'I've been suffering from this for quite a while now. I'm five-[foot]-seven, 40-something pounds and no hospitals will even take me at this point.

'Rod is now my 24-hour caregiver. In order for us to get [to the hospital that can help]... and I'm not one to ever ask for help...I need your help, otherwise I don't have a shot. And I'm ready to get better. 

She finally guides viewers to a dedicated GoFundMe page, where she is aiming to raise $100,000 to fund her treatment. She has so far raised $33,150, while her video has garnered over 11,000 views.

Ms Farrokh met Mr Edmondson, 41, while he was working as a personal trainer at her gym. Prior to her battle with anorexia, she was a beautiful, active, healthy woman, Mr Edmondson told ABC.

Weak: In the video, Ms Farrokh says Mr Edmondson (both pictured), has had to quit his job to become her 24-hour caregiver, while area hospitals won't treat her because her 'dangerous' weight makes her a 'liability'
 
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Weak: In the video, Ms Farrokh says Mr Edmondson (both pictured), has had to quit his job to become her 24-hour caregiver, while area hospitals won't treat her because her 'dangerous' weight makes her a 'liability'

Desperate: 'There is one hospital across the country that can help, and my chances are very slim. We need your help,' a gaunt-looking Ms Farrokh says in the video, asking viewers to donate 'anything you can'
 
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Desperate: 'There is one hospital across the country that can help, and my chances are very slim. We need your help,' a gaunt-looking Ms Farrokh says in the video, asking viewers to donate 'anything you can'

Couple: Ms Farrokh met Mr Edmondson, 41, while he was working as a personal trainer at her longtime gym. Prior to her battle with anorexia, she was beautiful, healthy woman, Mr Edmondson said. Above, the couple are pictured in a Facebook photo taken years ago - before Ms Farrokh suffered the severe decline in her illness
 
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Couple: Ms Farrokh met Mr Edmondson, 41, while he was working as a personal trainer at her longtime gym. Prior to her battle with anorexia, she was beautiful, healthy woman, Mr Edmondson said. Above, the couple are pictured in a Facebook photo taken years ago - before Ms Farrokh suffered the severe decline in her illness

'She was a very active individual growing up, she was a perfectionist,' he said. On Facebook, Ms Farrokh has posted a photo of herself looking healthy in sports gear, taken many years ago.

'At first, it was innocent, I wanted to drop a few pounds to get better abs,' said Ms Farrokh, adding that a sudden job loss and a painful memory from her past had allowed her anorexia to creep in.

As her disorder 'spiraled out of control', the actress saw her weight drop from a healthy 125 pounds to a much lower figure. And in recent months, it has dropped even further - to below 50 pounds.

Ms Farrokh declined to reveal her exact weight to the news station. But in her video, her chest bones can be seen sticking up through her skin, her face is gaunt and her knee bones jut out of her legs.

'My sister gave me a collage of pictures of when I was acting or doing certain things,' said Ms Farrokh, who spends her time in a hospital bed inside her house and cannot walk on her own.

Sick: Ms Farrokh said a sudden job loss and a painful memory from her past had allowed anorexia to creep in
 
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Sick: Ms Farrokh said a sudden job loss and a painful memory from her past had allowed anorexia to creep in

Dangerously thin: As her disorder 'spiraled out of control', the actress saw her weight drop from a healthy 125 pounds to a much lower figure. And in recent months, it has dropped even further - to below 50 pounds
 
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Dangerously thin: As her disorder 'spiraled out of control', the actress saw her weight drop from a healthy 125 pounds to a much lower figure. And in recent months, it has dropped even further - to below 50 pounds

In need of help: In the YouTube video, Ms Farrokh's chest bones can be seen sticking up through her skin, her face is gaunt and her knee bones jut out of her legs. Above, Ms Farrokh is noticeably anorexia in 2014
 
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In need of help: In the YouTube video, Ms Farrokh's chest bones can be seen sticking up through her skin, her face is gaunt and her knee bones jut out of her legs. Above, Ms Farrokh is noticeably anorexia in 2014

'I look at that girl, the head shot, it's only a few years old. It's like I know I've wasted this much of my life. I just want to be that person again - that strong, independent woman that can be herself.'

Because of her condition, Ms Farrokh, who lists her occupation as 'Actor' on Facebook, has previously suffered from heart and liver failure, and has had to undergo blood transfusions.

She has also experienced a decline in mental ability as her body continues to 'shut down'.

WHAT IS ANOREXIA NERVOSA? 

Anorexia nervosa is an eating disorder that is characterized by an abnormally low body weight and an intense fear of gaining weight.

Sufferers typically have a distorted perception of their bodies.

They may either restrict the amount of food they eat, or control the amount of calories they consume by vomiting after meals. 

They also might attempt to lose weight by engaging in excessive exercise.

Symptoms include extreme weight loss, abnormal blood counts, fatigue, insomnia, dizziness, thin or easily breakable hair, a lack of menstruation (in women) and dry skin,

The condition can be life-threatening.

The Mayo Clinic says: 'Anorexia isn’t really about food. It’s an unhealthy way to try to cope with emotional problems.

'When you have anorexia, you often equate thinness with self-worth.'  

'At such a low body weight, my brain is a little slower than I would like, Ms Farrokh told ABC. 'Sometimes, you'll forget what you said a few seconds ago. You're just not on your game.'

On the GoFundMe page, Mr Edmondson, who longer works as a personal trainer, writes: 'My lovely wife and I have been together for more than a decade and she will be seeing her final days if we don’t take action!

'Her weight continues to plummet to a weight that's extremely dangerous.

 

'She has been fighting through a disease that has the highest mortality rate of all psychological disorders, an extreme case of Anorexia. 

'There is only one hospital in the country that specializes in refeeding patients at such a low body weight and it’s my mission to get her there.

'If she receives too many calories her metabolism will kick up and she will lose even more weight. This is a VERY delicate medical situation. Hospitals won't admit her because she is a liability for them. 'She doesn't meet their minimum weight requirement and they don't have the capabilities to save her.'

He goes to describe his wife as a 'captivating, kind and amazing woman' who 'always puts others before herself'. Her family and friends have supported her throughout her battle, he writes.

Dr. Michael Strober, professor of psychiatry at Resnick UCLA Neuropsychiatric Hospital, told ABC that the refeeding process needs to be 'carefully monitored', otherwise it can put patients at risk.

'Too rapid increase of calories can result in the metabolic adaptation which is associated of a number of hazards, which can be life-threatening,' Dr Strober said. 

Husband and wife: Mr Edmondson, who longer works as a personal trainer, said: 'My lovely wife and I have been together for more than a decade and she will be seeing her final days if we don’t take action!'
 
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Husband and wife: Mr Edmondson, who longer works as a personal trainer, said: 'My lovely wife and I have been together for more than a decade and she will be seeing her final days if we don’t take action!'

'Kind': He described his wife as a 'captivating and amazing woman' who 'always puts others before herself'. Above, Ms Farrokh is pictured in a Facebook photo taken years ago, before she dropped to below 50 pounds
 
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'Kind': He described his wife as a 'captivating and amazing woman' who 'always puts others before herself'. Above, Ms Farrokh is pictured in a Facebook photo taken years ago, before she dropped to below 50 pounds

Anorexia is an eating disorder that is characterized by an abnormally low body weight and an all-consuming fear of gaining weight. Sufferers typically have a distorted perception of their bodies.

They may deliberately restrict the amount of food they eat, or control the amount of calories they consume by vomiting. They also might attempt to lose weight by engaging in excessive exercise.

Symptoms include extreme weight loss, abnormal blood counts, fatigue, insomnia, dizziness, thin or easily breakable hair, a lack of menstruation (in women) and dry skin, according to the Mayo Clinic. 

The Clinic explains: 'Anorexia isn’t really about food. It’s an unhealthy way to try to cope with emotional problems. When you have anorexia, you often equate thinness with self-worth.'

To visit Ms Farrokh's GoFundMe page, titled 'Rachael's Road to Recovery', click here. 

 



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Why isn't she confined to a mental health facility?

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Maybe that is why she has the account? I don't know. Pretty sad how she is ravishing her own body. She must be weeks away from death at this point.

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Why didn't her husband get her treatment sooner?

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Lexxy wrote:

Why didn't her husband get her treatment sooner?

It appears that he did, and it didn't work. 

 



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Why didn't her husband get her treatment sooner?

It appears that he did, and it didn't work. 

 

 He should have committed her.



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Why didn't her husband get her treatment sooner?

It appears that he did, and it didn't work. 

 

 He should have committed her.

Maybe he can't.  Maybe he tried. 



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Severe anorexics can be notoriously difficult to treat. They can fiercely resist treatment methods.

With someone as entrenched and far gone as this woman, it's not a simple matter of going inpatient in an ordinary mental hospital. You need a facility and medical professionals who specialize in anorexia.

A close friend of mine was anorexic for years. Her denial was fierce, as was her resistance to treatment.

Years later, after she finally accepted treatment and got well, she told me in retrospect that some of the psych facilities she did inpatient stints in had absolutely no clue how to treat her effectively.

She manipulated the hell out of them. She finally got to a specialized addiction and eating disorder facility and they cracked her case open.

Another friend of mine in college was not so lucky. She went home for winter break freshman year and didn't come back after that. She died of anorexia at home in the spring of our freshman year.

It's a deadly disease.



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Oh that is horrible Blankie. Its too bad that this lady cannot see what we see.

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Oh that is horrible Blankie. Its too bad that this lady cannot see what we see.

 That's the whole problem. Her perceptions are so severely distorted. It's so sad.



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I knew I shouldn't have opened this thread.

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I knew I shouldn't have opened this thread.

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It is awfully hard to look at those photos. 



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I have experience with anorexia, not me but friends and daughters of friends. Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

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Why didn't her husband get her treatment sooner?

It appears that he did, and it didn't work. 

 

 He should have committed her.

Maybe he can't.  Maybe he tried. 

 I really can't imagine any judge looking at her and denying him. 



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I can't either but she might never actually appear before a Judge. This kind of treatment is hard to find and not readily available. However, I can't imagine a doctor looking at her and not immediately admitting to a hospital.

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Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  

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voiceofreason wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  

Hey VoR! Long time no see!

How are you doing? 

 I'm good.  I've been on a break and will go back on a break but...

this post was so incredibly irresponsible and wrong I couldn't let it pass.  I was weeks from death and I can assure you it wasn't attention seeking. 



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voiceofreason wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  

Hey VoR! Long time no see!

How are you doing? 

 I'm good.  I've been on a break and will go back on a break but...

this post was so incredibly irresponsible and wrong I couldn't let it pass.  I was weeks from death and I can assure you it wasn't attention seeking. 

 How did they stop you from dying?



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She needs to be on feeding tubes and in an in-patient mental health facility. That poor woman.

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I can't either but she might never actually appear before a Judge. This kind of treatment is hard to find and not readily available. However, I can't imagine a doctor looking at her and not immediately admitting to a hospital.

 This is my thought as well. Carry her to the local ER, they would admit her in a heartbeat and start IV's (if possible) and a feeding tube as soon as she got there. That would as least help her stabilize. 



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Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  

 Actually, from what my bestie said about her daughter is it is all about control and attention. And given that she knows she will die if she doesn't follow the treatment it is suicide when she doesn't follow it.



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She needs to be on feeding tubes and in an in-patient mental health facility. That poor woman.

 yes she does need to be in a facility to treat this.  But once released and knowing the consequences, if she doesn't follow treatment, it is on her.  It is akin to a heroin addict who OD's but pulls through and goes back to the drug.  They know they could die at any time and place that below getting the drug.



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Either her or her husband have to do something to treat it. If they don't - they are just letting her die.

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VOR, you may have personal experience with this. IDK. I don't mean to be uncaring about this woman's situation, but she has the control if she will only follow her treatment plan. If she doesn't she has chosen death, that is suicide. It's ugly I know.

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Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  

 Actually, from what my bestie said about her daughter is it is all about control and attention. And given that she knows she will die if she doesn't follow the treatment it is suicide when she doesn't follow it.

It is about control.

But, not the way you think it is, IKWTDS.

From everything I've read, and studied about anorexia.

They have gone through a trauma. And, had no control, over that.

So, they focus on what they eat. And how much they exercise.

That gives them a "feeling of being in control" of one part of their life.

They can't do anything about, Mom and Dad fighting. Or being abused by a sibling. Or, whatever the case may be.

They feel powerless.

So, they focus on something, that they can control.

Their weight. What they eat. How much they work out.

And once, they see that the numbers on the scale, are going down.

They continue. It gives them a sense of control.

When something in their life, is way out of control. 

They don't have a death wish, INWTDS.

They just get so focused, on the numbers on the scale, that, they can't help it.

They just want to be in control of something, in their life.

So, they focus on losing weight.

Sometimes...too much weight.

That is my understanding, having studied this in college.

VoR, I hope, will correct me, if my information, is out of date.

 



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You covered it. I can tell you that a parent who says her daughter is anorexic because she wants attention is really not the person to best facilitate a healthy recovery. Also notable, a high percentage of young women with anorexia have issues with their mothers being overbearing, controlling and judgemental. I would hesitate to believe the person who is statistically a motivator to this illness. Even though she may be close to it, she most likely isn't going to accept her role in it so you may be getting a skewed perspective.

My illness was a 7 year nightmare. To this day I deal with the repercussions.

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Quite frankly its a suicide wish that is done slowly to garner attention, but gets out of control. Very sad.

 Absolutely untrue.  It has NOTHING to do with suicide or attention.  As someone who actually, you know, HAD anorexia, I'm qualified to say that.  People who think like you are damaging.  What an insult.  

 Actually, from what my bestie said about her daughter is it is all about control and attention. And given that she knows she will die if she doesn't follow the treatment it is suicide when she doesn't follow it.

It is about control.

But, not the way you think it is, IKWTDS.

From everything I've read, and studied about anorexia.

They have gone through a trauma. And, had no control, over that.

So, they focus on what they eat. And how much they exercise.

That gives them a "feeling of being in control" of one part of their life.

They can't do anything about, Mom and Dad fighting. Or being abused by a sibling. Or, whatever the case may be.

They feel powerless.

So, they focus on something, that they can control.

Their weight. What they eat. How much they work out.

And once, they see that the numbers on the scale, are going down.

They continue. It gives them a sense of control.

When something in their life, is way out of control. 

They don't have a death wish, INWTDS.

They just get so focused, on the numbers on the scale, that, they can't help it.

They just want to be in control of something, in their life.

So, they focus on losing weight.

Sometimes...too much weight.

That is my understanding, having studied this in college.

VoR, I hope, will correct me, if my information, is out of date.

 

Exactly--they are in control.  They control what they don't eat--and what they do.  



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I don't pretend to understand eating disorders. But in any other addiction or such when presented with the information that if you do not follow treatment you will die, then not following that treatment is a wish to die. Many times the abuse suffered to create the situation is so depressing that they don't care if they die. Perhaps not exactly suicide, but if you ignore treatment knowing the consequences, you know you are killing yourself. That is suicide.

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Out of curiosity I checked the gofundme page, it has raised over $130k. Hopefully she can get the help she needs

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Out of curiosity I checked the gofundme page, it has raised over $130k. Hopefully she can get the help she needs

 If she accepts going to therapy.



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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:

I don't pretend to understand eating disorders. But in any other addiction or such when presented with the information that if you do not follow treatment you will die, then not following that treatment is a wish to die. Many times the abuse suffered to create the situation is so depressing that they don't care if they die. Perhaps not exactly suicide, but if you ignore treatment knowing the consequences, you know you are killing yourself. That is suicide.

IKWTDS, this is different from addiction.

The anorexic isn't taking drugs, or drinking alcohol, to deaden the pain.

They limit their food intake, as a means of feeling in control.

And, trying to convince them that they need to eat, to stay alive...often times, falls on deaf ears.

You are asking them, to give up, the little bit of control over their lives, that they actually have.

They don't want to die.

This isn't about suicide.

This is about a person, who has suffered something.....totally out of their control.

And found a way to take some control back. No matter how unhealthy. No matter if it kills them.

That's what makes this disease, so hard to treat.

You can put an alcoholic, in rehab. Take away the booze for long enough, throw in some counseling, and they will dry out.

You can wean a person off of drugs. Get them in a rehab, do some counseling... ditto. You have a good chance, of a good out come.

It's really hard, to force a person, to eat.

Especially, when they have been counting every calorie, for every day, for years. As a means of having some control, in their out of control life.

They aren't breaking any laws. They won't go to jail.

They are slowly dying, because they don't want to eat.

They want to control that number of calories. That number, on the scale.

They just want to feel in control, of something.

This is worse than treating an addiction.

You can live without booze.

You can live without drugs.

No one, can live without food.

And, that is the problem, with being anorexic.

They deny themselves food, which we, as human beings need, to live.

As a means of feeling in control.

They need intensive therapy, to turn that thinking around.

It's very hard to do. cry

 

 

 

 



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FWM, that's the exact analogy I use. You can deal with alcoholism by staying away from alcohol, drugs by staying away from drugs. Having a healthy relationship with food is a constant struggle for people who have eating disorders. You can't just avoid food.

I say my eyes are broken. When I was 75 pounds, my eyes saw a very fat girl. Just 10 years ago, I remember catching sight of my own legs in a mirror and not realizing they were mine and thinking "I wish my legs looked like that!" That was the first time I ever saw my legs as nice. If I knew they were mine I would have sobbed because they were so fat. It's complicated. Even now, struggling with obesity, my eyes don't see my body realistically. Until I saw a picture of me I thought I was still rather slim. I'm not. Body dysmorphia is a real thing and it sucks.

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FWM, that's the exact analogy I use. You can deal with alcoholism by staying away from alcohol, drugs by staying away from drugs. Having a healthy relationship with food is a constant struggle for people who have eating disorders. You can't just avoid food.

I say my eyes are broken. When I was 75 pounds, my eyes saw a very fat girl. Just 10 years ago, I remember catching sight of my own legs in a mirror and not realizing they were mine and thinking "I wish my legs looked like that!" That was the first time I ever saw my legs as nice. If I knew they were mine I would have sobbed because they were so fat. It's complicated. Even now, struggling with obesity, my eyes don't see my body realistically. Until I saw a picture of me I thought I was still rather slim. I'm not. Body dysmorphia is a real thing and it sucks.

VoR, I'm holding a good thought, and saying prayers for you.

I don't think your eyes were broken. Your mind, was just playing tricks, on you.

I think that must be, one of the hardest parts, of the disease.

You are in a very tough fight.

And, you are a strong person.

I'm rooting for you, friend.

Hang in there.  smile



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FWM, that's the exact analogy I use. You can deal with alcoholism by staying away from alcohol, drugs by staying away from drugs. Having a healthy relationship with food is a constant struggle for people who have eating disorders. You can't just avoid food.

I say my eyes are broken. When I was 75 pounds, my eyes saw a very fat girl. Just 10 years ago, I remember catching sight of my own legs in a mirror and not realizing they were mine and thinking "I wish my legs looked like that!" That was the first time I ever saw my legs as nice. If I knew they were mine I would have sobbed because they were so fat. It's complicated. Even now, struggling with obesity, my eyes don't see my body realistically. Until I saw a picture of me I thought I was still rather slim. I'm not. Body dysmorphia is a real thing and it sucks.

  It is real which is why this lady cannot see how the rest of the world sees her and how close to death she is.  That is very sad.  And, like you said, it is harder to get a healthy relationship with food versus drugs/alcohol which you can simply avoid. 



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