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flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

RE: Water logged Wednesday

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

My FIL has driven to Maine and South Carolina from his home in Ohio. But driving to see us in Minnesota is too far? Ummm, it's the same distance. But thanks. My DD went to college 30 minutes away from him, at the same school as his new step daughter and he saw her twice while she was there.

It makes me mad because of the kids. I don't care if he doesn't like me, and I am pretty sure he doesn't. But my kids don't deserve this treatment.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Mellow Momma wrote:
My FIL has driven to Maine and South Carolina from his home in Ohio. But driving to see us in Minnesota is too far? Ummm, it's the same distance. But thanks. My DD went to college 30 minutes away from him, at the same school as his new step daughter and he saw her twice while she was there.

It makes me mad because of the kids. I don't care if he doesn't like me, and I am pretty sure he doesn't. But my kids don't deserve this treatment.

His loss, not your kids loss. They are doing great without him in their lives. I'm sure it hurts you, and I can understand. But, it is not your fault, it is his.

Hugs to you, MM.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

After going back and reading all the posts, WHAT THE HELL! We would drive to hell and back for our grand kids and our kids!

I wish I could give you all a hug.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

just Czech wrote:
After going back and reading all the posts, WHAT THE HELL! We would drive to hell and back for our grand kids and our kids!

I wish I could give you all a hug.

Czech, it's all good.

I'm the Grammy to Itty bitty that MY kids never had.

flan

FNW · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
My FIL has driven to Maine and South Carolina from his home in Ohio. But driving to see us in Minnesota is too far? Ummm, it's the same distance. But thanks. My DD went to college 30 minutes away from him, at the same school as his new step daughter and he saw her twice while she was there.

It makes me mad because of the kids. I don't care if he doesn't like me, and I am pretty sure he doesn't. But my kids don't deserve this treatment.

Same here. So we've chosen not to bother with them anymore, so the kids don't suffer.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

FNW wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
My FIL has driven to Maine and South Carolina from his home in Ohio. But driving to see us in Minnesota is too far? Ummm, it's the same distance. But thanks. My DD went to college 30 minutes away from him, at the same school as his new step daughter and he saw her twice while she was there.

It makes me mad because of the kids. I don't care if he doesn't like me, and I am pretty sure he doesn't. But my kids don't deserve this treatment.
Same here. So we've chosen not to bother with them anymore, so the kids don't suffer.

It's a tough decision, but the best for the kids.

flan

FNW · Guru

flan327 wrote:
FNW wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
My FIL has driven to Maine and South Carolina from his home in Ohio. But driving to see us in Minnesota is too far? Ummm, it's the same distance. But thanks. My DD went to college 30 minutes away from him, at the same school as his new step daughter and he saw her twice while she was there.

It makes me mad because of the kids. I don't care if he doesn't like me, and I am pretty sure he doesn't. But my kids don't deserve this treatment.
Same here. So we've chosen not to bother with them anymore, so the kids don't suffer.
It's a tough decision, but the best for the kids.
flan

When I start to feel bad about it, I think back to the things they did & said.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I know. The lack of honesty is the clincher. It's not like you don't already KNOW. For pete's sake everyone in the situation KNOWS. Just tell it like it is.
Yep. You so get it.
Don't bother mentioning why you aren't coming to see us. Honestly, I don't even WANT to see them. But I want them to see their granddaughter. I don't want her to feel like she did something wrong or that she isn't good enough.

Dirtbags.
Yep. My mom calls my son to tell him she's getting new grand kids. Um, you didn't want to be around my kids. Why are you calling other than to be mean?
What?????? Does she do this in a taunting way?

Kind of. She calls my son and will tell him how wonderful her other grand kids are. When he was diagnosed with autism/aspergers she refused to believe there was anything wrong with him. He just calls him overly sensitive. She also doesn't believe in mental illness though. She believes if you just pull yourself up by the bootstraps you'll be fine. She usually starts out her conversation by asking if DH and I have been fighting and does he know when we plan on getting a divorce? Then she'll make small talk and move on to how her other more prized grand children have done this this or that. Like graduate college or whatever. My weird youngest sister who is the child above all children is now having twins. A boy and a girl. My mom told my son this is a miracle and the best that's happened to her in decades.

And before anyone asks why I don't cut the conversations off it's because he's old enough to decide on his own about his grandmother. Yes, he is going to get hurt. But my mom did the same to me with my bio dad. She refused to let me see him and that made me want to see him that much more. If she had just let it play out I would have found out on my own what a bastard he was. Unfortunately in life we can't always keep our kids from getting emotionally hurt. Sometimes they have to learn on their own to know the truth.