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Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

RE: Dear Abby: 6 Year old wants to stay overnight with Uncle Bob

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yeah, I had kids want to come to my house all the time when I taught Sunday school.

And my kids wanted sleepovers with people our family knew just cause they were having fun at the time and didn't want it to end.

I think if a parent pays attention to their gut feelings on the subject, most of the time every thing turns out fine.

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
The LW doesn't say who asked for the slumber party. Crucial piece of information.
Yeah, that would be good to know. I just have a hard time featuring a six year old coming up with a sleepover at Bob's on their own, though.

If it truly is the kid's idea--then the LW doesn't even know if Bob wants to do this, so all this angst is a moot point until she finds that out.
The last line of the first paragraph reads "now she wants to have sleepovers at Uncle Bob's". She refers to the child. It doesn't say "uncle Bob has asked us if child can sleep over".
Once a child has a sleep over at grandma's house, a child thinks sleepovers are awesome! You get to eat stuff mom probably wouldn't let you eat, watch cool TV shows, stay up late, etc. So the girl probably sees staying over at Uncle Bob's as equally awesome. Granted, Uncle Bob might not even know about her desire to spend the night.

Bob didn't ask--but that doesn't mean it wasn't his idea and he suggested it to the child who then took it to mom as their own idea.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I remember when my kids were younger and they would say, "I'm going to spend the night at ...." I would ask them what time their mom wanted them over and my child would say, "Oh we haven't asked yet." Yeah, um you have to ask beforehand. This could just be a little girl presenting to her mom that she was invited over when in fact she wasn't.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yeah kids get the cart before the horse a lot of times.

I wouldn't let mine go anywhere they were not invited. If they came up with the idea and invited themselves I wouldn't allow that for sure.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

chef wrote:
Personally, I'm tired of the bias against men. Pedophiles can be male or female but society seems to ignore that. Uncle Bob may be disgusted by even the thought of inappropriately touching a child whereas Aunt Barb might dream of being to do naughty things to children. Of course, parents should be on the lookout but I think it's wrong to be automatically biased against a person being alone with a child just because he's a man. DH and G (our friend) are offended by the notion that men are viewed in such a way.

But my job as a parent is to protect my child as much as possible against any possiblity and the MAJORITY of sex offenders are men - that is a statistic you cannot ignore just because you think it creates bias. There is a bias b/c the instances bear it out.