"I don't think that we should be telling women anything. I think we should be telling men not to rape women and start the conversation there with prevention."
So essentially — instead of teaching women how to avoid rape, let's raise boys specifically not to rape.
There was a lot of ire raised from that idea. Maxwell was on the receiving end of a deluge of online harassment and scary threats because of her ideas, which is sadly common for outspoken women on the Internet.
People assumed it meant she was labeling all boys as potential rapists or that every man has a rape-monster he carries inside him unless we quell it from the beginning.
But the truth is most of the rapes women experience are perpetrated by people they know and trust. So fully educating boys during their formative years about what constitutes consent and why it's important to practice explicitly asking for consent could potentially eradicate a large swath of acquaintance rape. It's not a condemnation on their character or gender, but an extra set of tools to help young men approach sex without damaging themselves or anyone else.
But what does teaching boys about consent really look like in action?
Well, there's the viral letter I wrote to my teen titled "Son, It's Okay If You Don't Get Laid Tonight" explaining his responsibility in the matter. I wanted to show by example that Maxwell's words weren't about shaming or blaming boys who'd done nothing wrong yet, but about giving them a road map to navigate their sexual encounters ahead.
There are also rape prevention campaigns on many college campuses, aiming to reach young men right at the heart of where acquaintance rape is so prevalent. Many men are welcoming these efforts.
And then there are creative endeavors to find the right metaphors and combination of words to get people to shake off their acceptance of cultural norms and see rape culture clearly.
There you have it. Seven comparisons that anyone can use to show how simple and logical the idea of consent really is. Consent culture is on its way because more and more people are sharing these ideas and getting people to think critically. How can we not share an idea whose time has come?
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well, would not consider any of those cartoons as " brilliant " by any measure---the article misses the point entirely by characterizing rape as a " sexual " crime when, in reality, rape is a crime of violence--rather than taking the nanny state / liberal position of " It's OK not to get laid tonight, son. " (sic)or that sort of nonsense how about teaching young men to be MEN ? to respect women ? to honor them ? to protect them ? of course, then young men would have to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for their actions--and how could that be a bad thing ?
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" the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. "--edmund burke
No one that I know of is raising their sons to rape--nor are they raising them to steal cars, hold up conveniences stores, assault someone, or kill someone, either.
However, we all know that many young men do all of those things.
Again, telling criminals to not commit crimes is not a deterrent.
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I'm not arguing, I'm just explaining why I'm right.
Well, I could agree with you--but then we'd both be wrong.
Absurd.
How to protect yourself?
Be aware of where you are, don't put yourself in a compromising position.
Of course bad things still happen. But rapists are opportunists.
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