One of the women at my women's group is getting married. We're giving her a little wedding shower at group at the end of this month. I want to get her something cute but not break my pocketbook. Here's the back story. They are in their early 50's, this is her fourth marriage, and they've been living together for eight years. Yeah yeah yeah I know... So house stuff is out of the question. They're just having a small back yard wedding. Some of the women are getting her gag gifts but I don't feel like I know her well enough to so Spencer's stuff. I thought about something like this...
It's a photo album that has all those cute sayings on it. The other thing is like a keepsake box. It's one thing I didn't have at my wedding that I wish I did. To put a sample of the wedding announcement, thank you notes, programs, little things.
What do you think? Any other suggestions?
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Here's another idea. My SMIL gave us this for a shower gift. It's the most awesome thing in the world. We literally use it every day. You can put up to two cups of water in the top and then press the button. Thirty seconds later you have boiling water. Great for making tea, ramen, oatmeal, or anything like that.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Input. Which one would you rather get? If you had been married a few times...
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Here's another idea. My SMIL gave us this for a shower gift. It's the most awesome thing in the world. We literally use it every day. You can put up to two cups of water in the top and then press the button. Thirty seconds later you have boiling water. Great for making tea, ramen, oatmeal, or anything like that.
I'd want this. I DO want this.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
Well LL, I know what to send you for Christmas! Seriously, this will be my gift to you. This thing is great. You can measure the water, put it in the top, and in a matter of SECONDS the boiling water comes out. If you think the microwave is fast this thing is like the speed of light. The kids do hot cocoa. It's fab for cup of soup ramen. I've used it for when I need to add melted butter and hot water to start a recipe. It's a pretty awesome thing.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Well LL, I know what to send you for Christmas! Seriously, this will be my gift to you. This thing is great. You can measure the water, put it in the top, and in a matter of SECONDS the boiling water comes out. If you think the microwave is fast this thing is like the speed of light. The kids do hot cocoa. It's fab for cup of soup ramen. I've used it for when I need to add melted butter and hot water to start a recipe. It's a pretty awesome thing.
It looks awesome. My DH would love this, too, for tea.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
I wanted one for my wedding. I wanted to put all the little things in it. I had a sample of the colors we used in the wedding, the printed napkins and cups, invitations and thank you notes. It would have been nice to have a cute little box to put them all in. I have a photo album too. I never look at it. lol
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Okay, I just ordered the hot water thing. BUT, I'm going to look for a keepsake box too. The hot water thing wasn't that expensive.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
I'd get a nice frame. One of the digital frames would be nice.
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While I am somewhat sentimental, I don't end up keeping a lot of stuff. Is she the sentimental type?
Does she have room for another kitchen appliance? While I like my gadgets and my kitchen is decent sized, I am limited by what I can have out on the counter.
My go-to gift for those type of situations is a themed basket with consumable items. Dinner basket (italian with gourmet pasta, sauce and maybe a cheese or pasta cooking/serving utensils. Wine with crackers, glasses, bottle opener, some snacks. Movie, popcorn, candy.
If it's her fourth, maybe they need some counseling sessions. Just saying.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
While I am somewhat sentimental, I don't end up keeping a lot of stuff. Is she the sentimental type?
Does she have room for another kitchen appliance? While I like my gadgets and my kitchen is decent sized, I am limited by what I can have out on the counter.
My go-to gift for those type of situations is a themed basket with consumable items. Dinner basket (italian with gourmet pasta, sauce and maybe a cheese or pasta cooking/serving utensils. Wine with crackers, glasses, bottle opener, some snacks. Movie, popcorn, candy.
Jlbear is on the top of my invite list if I ever have a shower. I love this idea.
I'm not big on knock knack stuff--but chances are they already have a coffee maker.
It's not a coffee maker.
Exactly. It just makes really hot water.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
If it's her fourth, maybe they need some counseling sessions. Just saying.
There was really no reason for this comment. Just because she doesn't measure up to your standards doesn't mean she doesn't deserve to be treated nicely. She's a nice lady. Personally I wouldn't get married four times but it's not my place to judge. Only God's.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
Alright, I ordered the hot water thing. It says it will be here on the day of women's group. Usually stuff gets here sooner though. The other day I was at a Dollar Store and they had the absolute most adorable boxes for little girl babies. They were pink and creme (the colors my friend is doing her nursery in) with little elephants on it. It had a velcro closure. It was only five dollars. So I got her one. We went to a different branch of the store and the guy working found me a really adorable box just like it. It's covered in roses. It had a tiny wrinkle on the corner so he sold it to me for two dollars. Steal.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
If it's her fourth, maybe they need some counseling sessions. Just saying.
There was really no reason for this comment. Just because she doesn't measure up to your standards doesn't mean she doesn't deserve to be treated nicely. She's a nice lady. Personally I wouldn't get married four times but it's not my place to judge. Only God's.
Oh get over it. It was a joke.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
If it's her fourth, maybe they need some counseling sessions. Just saying.
There was really no reason for this comment. Just because she doesn't measure up to your standards doesn't mean she doesn't deserve to be treated nicely. She's a nice lady. Personally I wouldn't get married four times but it's not my place to judge. Only God's.
Oh get over it. It was a joke.
YOU get over it. You disguise rude as a joke. Some "jokes" aren't funny. She's my friend. Whether or not you OR I approve of her choices it's neither of our places to judge her. I guess you just forgot that part of the Bible.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
If it's her fourth, maybe they need some counseling sessions. Just saying.
My mother's friend is on her fourth marriage having just gotten married on Valentines Day this year. She buried her first four husbands. First died at age 40, second 62, third 69. Current husband is 73, friend is 72. She just always need a man in her life. No counseling needed.
If it's her fourth, maybe they need some counseling sessions. Just saying.
My mother's friend is on her fourth marriage having just gotten married on Valentines Day this year. She buried her first four husbands. First died at age 40, second 62, third 69. Current husband is 73, friend is 72. She just always need a man in her life. No counseling needed.
My friend has had a very hard life. I'm not making excuses for her bad judgment but if you knew her history you, general you, knew her history you wouldn't judge. One of their sisters has a baby by their father. This happened sixty years ago so no, there wasn't a of knowledge about this. Or at least it wasn't talked about.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
If ANYONE else had said that you would have gone along with it.
Let's remove the fact that you know her.
Pose this as a Dear Advice Columnist.
You'd be talking about it too.
Fourth marriage, living together for 8 years, and a shower.
All it needs is invitation to a destination wedding with registry information.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
It's not a "shower" per se. It's our women's group. We're celebrating her marriage because she's happy. I think that's fine. It's not a huge party. Just our women's group. And if this thread is so offensive to you then don't read it. Honestly, I started it to get ideas and opinions. Not to listen to someone make judgments about my friend.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
It's not a "shower" per se. It's our women's group. We're celebrating her marriage because she's happy. I think that's fine. It's not a huge party. Just our women's group. And if this thread is so offensive to you then don't read it. Honestly, I started it to get ideas and opinions. Not to listen to someone make judgments about my friend.
And no one did that.
You took a joke the wrong way.
I didn't do anything wrong.
You just took it wrong.
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A flock of flirting flamingos is pure, passionate, pink pandemonium-a frenetic flamingle-mangle-a discordant discotheque of delirious dancing, flamboyant feathers, and flamingo lingo.
You think THIS is cute too? You were rude. And for the record I never address you until you take a swipe at me. Your comment about her needing counseling wasn't funny even if it WAS a joke. It just wasn't funny. I don't care what you MEANT. It wasn't funny. I don't understand why you make it your job to follow me around and make rude comments to me all the time. Like I said, I don't even address you until you make a swipe at me. And then I'm not going to just lay down and let it go like some do.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
No. I don't joke around with Lily. EVER. If I say something insulting I own it. I have nothing to even joke about with Lily.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
And I would like to know why Lily seems to be in the middle of all the drama... Not just with me. Seems like with several here.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
For a 4th marriage/shower, I think a gift card to a nice restaurant, not a chain, would be good. They must have everything else relating to household stuff already.
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For a 4th marriage/shower, I think a gift card to a nice restaurant, not a chain, would be good. They must have everything else relating to household stuff already.
I ended up buying the water thingy. It doesn't take up much more room on the counter than a coffee cup. And most people don't have one. Then I got her a box to put memories in. I thought about a photo album but honestly how many of us really go back and look at them. Plus these days everything is digital. I know her but I know her like I know someone at work. Not intimately. Some of the women who are closer to her are buy her gag gifts but that's just not me.
Now I have to decide on my favorite recipe. They're making her a cookbook out of all of our favorite recipes.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
I hope no one does the gag gift thing. That is like saying "we don't take your marriage seriously" it would be in poor taste.
I think it would be embarrassing. We have a large group of ladies that are older. One that is 79. Not really the gag gift type.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
One of the ladies in our group has buried three husbands and two children. I can't imagine her pain.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
You think THIS is cute too? You were rude. And for the record I never address you until you take a swipe at me. Your comment about her needing counseling wasn't funny even if it WAS a joke. It just wasn't funny. I don't care what you MEANT. It wasn't funny. I don't understand why you make it your job to follow me around and make rude comments to me all the time. Like I said, I don't even address you until you make a swipe at me. And then I'm not going to just lay down and let it go like some do.
Sort of sounds like what you were just complaining about with me and flan. Should I remind you of your advice to me?
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“Until I discovered cooking, I was never really interested in anything.” ― Julia Child ―
You think THIS is cute too? You were rude. And for the record I never address you until you take a swipe at me. Your comment about her needing counseling wasn't funny even if it WAS a joke. It just wasn't funny. I don't care what you MEANT. It wasn't funny. I don't understand why you make it your job to follow me around and make rude comments to me all the time. Like I said, I don't even address you until you make a swipe at me. And then I'm not going to just lay down and let it go like some do.
Sort of sounds like what you were just complaining about with me and flan. Should I remind you of your advice to me?
Well, I take my advice to you. I never talk to Lily or address her specifically. Now if she wants to post crap on my threads directly aimed at me I will answer. But I don't go jumping in and starting stuff.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
The shower was tonight. I took my box and the water thing. She loved them both but when she opened the box she was thrilled. I told her that I have a box (Didn't tell her a geek sent it to me.) that I keep all my cards in. I told her she could put all her memento's in it. Her mom was there and they were fighting over the box because they both liked it. Two of her sisters were there and they all commented that it's a tradition in their family to give someone something like that to keep things in. So I guess I did good. I'm going to try to go to the wedding on Saturday.
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“You may shoot me with your words, you may cut me with your eyes, you may kill me with your hatefulness, but still, like air, I'll rise!” ― Maya Angelou
If she is into cooking there are lots of fun cooking gadgets. I am looking at one of those instant read thermometers. Things like that. I always appreciate having assorted gadgets.
-- Edited by Lady Gaga Snerd on Wednesday 29th of July 2015 06:46:20 AM