TOTALLY GEEKED!

You're absolutely correct. Some people just can't take responsibility for their own actions. I just witnessed this on another board where the Mod from a different board was said to have banned someone because the Mod was out to get them. Not because they did anything wrong but the Mod was after them. I saw what occurred and it was in no way the Mods fault but you'll never get the other to admit it.

I think part of it is because we are raising "special snowflakes". And part of it is the "me, me, ME" generation. Give me, I want, it's all about me! I am right, you are wrong. It's like being surrounded by five year olds.

But that's it, exactly, Demonia. You expect to have to have that conversation with children. Adults should really have that figured out.

Exactly. The blame game is getting old. And it's coming from the top...

burns07 wrote:

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it's because for quite some time ( 20-plus years at least ) we've been raising sheep, not citizens--we've been hammering conformity, not individuality--complacence, not character--we've ( the entire " educational " train wreck ) emphasized tolerance and conformity to abnormal / aberrant lifestyles and behaviors that are inconsistent with individual merit, individual achievement and the singular ( and collective ) pursuit of excellence in EVERYTHING we do--who we are and how we live our lives

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This. 

Entitlement is well present in our society and lives.  Parents hover over their child’s every move.  They do everything for their children.  Their child is the best and can do no wrong.  (“Who, my _____?.  Little _____ is never like that.  S/he is a good kid”).  There is no responsibility.  Children learn by observing.  They learn what they live.  They emulate what they see.  If parents do not model personal responsibility in their actions, words and deeds, then what are they teaching their children?  But try telling these parents that and you get chewed a new one.

As I have stated in previous posts, I don’t have anyone to blame but myself.  I walk the walk and talk the talk.  Since it is just me (I have no family and just a few true friends), I am responsible for everything that happens to me.  My life is trial and error.  I take full responsibility for my actions, thoughts, feelings and perceptions.  I am quite willing to admit it when I am wrong.  If I make a mistake, I will admit it and apologize.  Most often, people are stunned when I do so, I guess because it is not common to them.  (“Wow, RTL is actually admitting they were wrong.  What do I say now?”)  Confusion ensues. 

I am responsible for where I am and I am the only one who can get myself out.  And I work on it daily.  So many people get offended when others blame them for the situation they are in.  They become upset, hurt and lash out against others for even pointing out that it is their fault for being in that situation.  It is so much more convenient to blame others or other things for what drama is going on in our own lives.  And the therapists, psychologists, counselors, psychiatrists and others in that kind of profession are raking in the bucks.  As is big pharma, with all the prescriptions that are prescribed for mental illness.

My life has been difficult and trying for long stretches of time, but somehow I manage to get through it with no harm done.  I do it without one-on-one counseling.  Sometimes all it takes for me is reading a book and making to effort to do the exercises in it.  And I am fortunate to not have any MI, so one less challenge to deal with. 

Do I consider myself better than others?  No.  I am a humble person.  Am I in a different place than many are psychologically/mentally?  Yes.  Because I recognize where I am and consciously work on it.  I am a work in progress and always will be.  I actually make the effort to overcome instead of blaming others for my situation.  That’s the kind of being I am, and nothing will change that.  People can talk smack about me or try to bring me down, but should really save it for someone who needs to hear it. There are billions of beings to be petty with in society.  I am not one of them.  Thank you.  

I remember standing in front of a judge waiting for my sentence and he asked me why I had done what I did.

I answered because I had made the wrong choices.

He commuted my sentence to 2 years probation. I was facing 5 years in prison.

He said it was because I had not tried to blame anyone else.

It's easy to blame others. And we make it easy with all the campaigns calling everything an act of bullying.

And blaming police for doing their jobs.

Parents who won't listen to teachers.

Not teaching kids responsibility from an early age.

All of it leads to what we have now.

Honeys_Mom wrote:

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Thank you for sharing, RTL.  I always enjoy your posts.

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 So do I!

Everyone makes mistakes. What makes people roll their eyes is yet another excuse or finger pointing, what makes people respect some is taking the blame and fixing it!  Those of us who still own up to our mistakes make it to the top of the heap now a days because that is the attitude that employers need.  My son complained one day about the lack of work ethic his colleagues had, I told him, yep its frustrating but you stand out because you are better than them at the ethic .  My point is, hold on to the taking responsibility thing and you shine above all those that don't.

If you are 18 and you life is a mess, then yeah, maybe you can blame your parents. If you are 40 and your life is a mess, that is on you.

Renegade Time Lord wrote:

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Entitlement is well present in our society and lives.  Parents hover over their child’s every move.  They do everything for their children.  Their child is the best and can do no wrong.  (“Who, my _____?.  Little _____ is never like that.  S/he is a good kid”).  There is no responsibility.  Children learn by observing.  They learn what they live.  They emulate what they see.  If parents do not model personal responsibility in their actions, words and deeds, then what are they teaching their children?  But try telling these parents that and you get chewed a new one.

As I have stated in previous posts, I don’t have anyone to blame but myself.  I walk the walk and talk the talk.  Since it is just me (I have no family and just a few true friends), I am responsible for everything that happens to me.  My life is trial and error.  I take full responsibility for my actions, thoughts, feelings and perceptions.  I am quite willing to admit it when I am wrong.  If I make a mistake, I will admit it and apologize.  Most often, people are stunned when I do so, I guess because it is not common to them.  (“Wow, RTL is actually admitting they were wrong.  What do I say now?”)  Confusion ensues. 

I am responsible for where I am and I am the only one who can get myself out.  And I work on it daily.  So many people get offended when others blame them for the situation they are in.  They become upset, hurt and lash out against others for even pointing out that it is their fault for being in that situation.  It is so much more convenient to blame others or other things for what drama is going on in our own lives.  And the therapists, psychologists, counselors, psychiatrists and others in that kind of profession are raking in the bucks.  As is big pharma, with all the prescriptions that are prescribed for mental illness.

My life has been difficult and trying for long stretches of time, but somehow I manage to get through it with no harm done.  I do it without one-on-one counseling.  Sometimes all it takes for me is reading a book and making to effort to do the exercises in it.  And I am fortunate to not have any MI, so one less challenge to deal with. 

Do I consider myself better than others?  No.  I am a humble person.  Am I in a different place than many are psychologically/mentally?  Yes.  Because I recognize where I am and consciously work on it.  I am a work in progress and always will be.  I actually make the effort to overcome instead of blaming others for my situation.  That’s the kind of being I am, and nothing will change that.  People can talk smack about me or try to bring me down, but should really save it for someone who needs to hear it. There are billions of beings to be petty with in society.  I am not one of them.  Thank you.  

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Well said!