I think that is what is so sad Ed. Yes, there are terrible, unspeakable things that happen to people. But, if you then live your life acting as if the abusers and bullies are right about you, and that you don't live your full life and that you allow them to get so inside the core of your being that you throw away your future, it is very tragic. You can't undo the past. And, for some reason some people cannot allow themselves an ounce of joy or pleasure in life.
I mean, you see people like Michelle Knight, who survived the Cleveland House of Horrors and Castro. She is an inspiration. She is not going to allow that monster to take any more years of her life. Yes, that experience would obviously break and destroy many people. But, she at least stands to say that Yes, you too can find happiness in spite of what you have been through.