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Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

RE: Female Atlanta Braves fans hand married fan a note telling him his wife is cheating after 'seeing her sexting a man

huskerbb · Guru

I just don't get why so many want to protect the cheater and ensure she can continue cheating. If the 2% chance they were wrong or misunderstood what they were seeing turns out to be the case, that will come out. If the 98% chance it is exactly what it appears to be, at least the guy now knows and can make an informed decision on how to go forward.

Sure, they shouldn't have put it on Instagram or whatever, but that doesn't somehow change the underlying situation.

FNW · Guru

I'm not in the business of ruining someone's life or breaking up marriages/families.

I remember a conversation I had with my grandmother when she was in the hospital before she died. I asked her if my grandfather ever cheated on her. (I remember after he died and my father helped her figure out their finances, there were numerous checks written to a woman, which might or might not have been an indication he had another family somewhere). She stared off and told me the story of her neighbors. Beautiful home, money, children, seemingly happy. Someone told the wife that her husband, a prominent doctor, was cheating. The wife suspected the affair, but stayed in the marriage. Now, having been confronted with the truth, was forced to make a decision. And she decided that her pride was more important than her family, and the family was split up. She was forced to work to provide for herself and the children, and the children were now from a broken home. Their lives were tuned upside down, all because someone made public a private matter.

I could say that I would want to know, but really, I don't think I would. I would prefer to remain in the dark, happy in my little world with my DH and the family we have created. Flame me if you want, but that's just how I feel. 20 years ago I think I would probably have felt different, but at my age, I would prefer to enjoy ignorant bliss.

huskerbb · Guru

FNW wrote:
I'm not in the business of ruining someone's life or breaking up marriages/families.

I remember a conversation I had with my grandmother when she was in the hospital before she died. I asked her if my grandfather ever cheated on her. (I remember after he died and my father helped her figure out their finances, there were numerous checks written to a woman, which might or might not have been an indication he had another family somewhere). She stared off and told me the story of her neighbors. Beautiful home, money, children, seemingly happy. Someone told the wife that her husband, a prominent doctor, was cheating. The wife suspected the affair, but stayed in the marriage. Now, having been confronted with the truth, was forced to make a decision. And she decided that her pride was more important than her family, and the family was split up. She was forced to work to provide for herself and the children, and the children were now from a broken home. Their lives were tuned upside down, all because someone made public a private matter.

I could say that I would want to know, but really, I don't think I would. I would prefer to remain in the dark, happy in my little world with my DH and the family we have created. Flame me if you want, but that's just how I feel. 20 years ago I think I would probably have felt different, but at my age, I would prefer to enjoy ignorant bliss.

You are putting the blame in the wrong place. It's the cheater who did that. Everyone knew the guy was cheating, she even suspected it. To say she should have stayed is not your decision, but at least she knew the truth. It was bound to come out one way or another.

huskerbb · Guru

Besides, what is your dignity worth?

FNW · Guru

I don't know....I'm not sure I believe this story anyway. If a man had just found out his wife was cheating, do you really think he would turn around and give a thumbs up? I just don't see this as being a first reaction to news of this. I would think he would be so shocked and hurt that he wouldn't be going around high-fiving or giving thumbs up.

I'm not placing total blame on the messenger. The cheater, of course, is at fault for breaking the marriage vows. But the messenger must also realize their role in the demise of the marriage.

FNW · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Besides, what is your dignity worth?

I think that was my grandmother's point. Her dignity remained in tact, until she knew others were aware and judging her for staying in the marriage.

huskerbb · Guru

FNW wrote:
I don't know....I'm not sure I believe this story anyway. If a man had just found out his wife was cheating, do you really think he would turn around and give a thumbs up? I just don't see this as being a first reaction to news of this. I would think he would be so shocked and hurt that he wouldn't be going around high-fiving or giving thumbs up.

I'm not placing total blame on the messenger. The cheater, of course, is at fault for breaking the marriage vows. But the messenger must also realize their role in the demise of the marriage.

No way. The cheater is 100% responsible. they gave him the note. It was his choice to pursue it and see what they had.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

FNW wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Besides, what is your dignity worth?
I think that was my grandmother's point. Her dignity remained in tact, until she knew others were aware and judging her for staying in the marriage.

Rather like Hillary Clinton. Yeah, I went there.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

I understand the lady's being aware of the person(s) in front of them at a game. My gosh, I am aware of everyone around me at a game. I visit with them.
That is why I am not surprised by these two women becoming aware of what the lady was doing. Some of us are just more aware of our surroundings then others.

FNW · Guru

just Czech wrote:
FNW wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Besides, what is your dignity worth?
I think that was my grandmother's point. Her dignity remained in tact, until she knew others were aware and judging her for staying in the marriage.
Rather like Hillary Clinton. Yeah, I went there.

Yes, I suppose so.