TOTALLY GEEKED!

huskerbb · Guru

Back to the discussion on the elderly and their finances.

jlbear71 · Guru

Oh, I interfere. But in a good way. Both with my mother and MIL.

MIL is open with me and asks my advice for most stuff. She also trusts me to do her taxes. DH is on most of her accounts and has Durable POA.

My mother is a lot harder to deal with. She has fallen for a few scams but has not lost too much money in total (if you count around $15k not too much). DB and I are listed on the account so we can access anytime (we have not yet).

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

huskerbb · Guru

jlbear71 wrote:
Oh, I interfere. But in a good way. Both with my mother and MIL.

MIL is open with me and asks my advice for most stuff. She also trusts me to do her taxes. DH is on most of her accounts and has Durable POA.

My mother is a lot harder to deal with. She has fallen for a few scams but has not lost too much money in total (if you count around $15k not too much). DB and I are listed on the account so we can access anytime (we have not yet).

Well, whether or not 15k is a lot depends on perspective--but to me, it's way too much to simply give to criminals for no reason, even if they can technically "afford" it.

jlbear71 · Guru

Oh, I agree with you. But it was a contractor that she prepaid and then got in to an argument with and he walked. The DA in the county where she lives is involved now but I don't think she will ever see the money again. It is contractors that get her every time. She knows pretty much nothing about that kind of work. THey will over bill her and/or do shoddy work. Her companion has stepped in which is why the DA is involved now and the work was finished by a good contractor.

She lives in Florida now and is really too trusting of contractors.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

...for a second there I thought you got arrested.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.

Tinydancer · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.

Not one person said you should do nothing. What they said was if they won't listen it's their money and they can spend it. You can proclaim we all said do nothing but maybe you should go back and read the thread...lol. Oh and I'd love to see one single post that backs up the crap you wrote in the bolded.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

It will get quite interesting when Husker's son starts telling husker how to run his finances, lol.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.

It was a JOKE!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

And what you said was if you don't agree with what they do with what you assume will be your money, you'll take it away from them.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
And what you said was if you don't agree with what they do with what you assume will be your money, you'll take it away from them.

I said nothing of the sort. What I said was that I wouldn't stand idly by while they got swindled.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yeah. Ok.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.
Not one person said you should do nothing. What they said was if they won't listen it's their money and they can spend it. You can proclaim we all said do nothing but maybe you should go back and read the thread...lol. Oh and I'd love to see one single post that backs up the crap you wrote in the bolded.

Um, yeah--they said exactly what I said--it's their money, so ill bury my head in the sand while they get scammed out of thousands of dollars because I can't do anything.

Im paraphrasing--but that was the meaning. If you or someone wants to go back on what they said before, that's fine, and would make much more sense.

huskerbb · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
It will get quite interesting when Husker's son starts telling husker how to run his finances, lol.

If I'm in danger of getting scammed, they damn well better step in at that point.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

It doesn't matter how anyone tried to phrase or explain. You would argue it was wrong and you were the only one right.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
It doesn't matter how anyone tried to phrase or explain. You would argue it was wrong and you were the only one right.

If they are willing to let their relatives lose their retirement savings to criminals--that is wrong.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

See.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Believe it or not - not every elderly person is a gullible fool.

huskerbb · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Believe it or not - not every elderly person is a gullible fool.

Never said they were--but it happens, and the woman in the previous thread certainly was as well as the women in this article.

Tinydancer · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.
Not one person said you should do nothing. What they said was if they won't listen it's their money and they can spend it. You can proclaim we all said do nothing but maybe you should go back and read the thread...lol. Oh and I'd love to see one single post that backs up the crap you wrote in the bolded.
Um, yeah--they said exactly what I said--it's their money, so ill bury my head in the sand while they get scammed out of thousands of dollars because I can't do anything.

Im paraphrasing--but that was the meaning. If you or someone wants to go back on what they said before, that's fine, and would make much more sense.

Again show a post that backs up the crap you're spouting. Everyone said they would try to stop them but some of us also believe it's their money and we have no right to take it away from them. Just because you'd do it (or did it) to your parents doesn't mean the rest of us have to be greedy for mom and dads money.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.
Not one person said you should do nothing. What they said was if they won't listen it's their money and they can spend it. You can proclaim we all said do nothing but maybe you should go back and read the thread...lol. Oh and I'd love to see one single post that backs up the crap you wrote in the bolded.
Um, yeah--they said exactly what I said--it's their money, so ill bury my head in the sand while they get scammed out of thousands of dollars because I can't do anything.

Im paraphrasing--but that was the meaning. If you or someone wants to go back on what they said before, that's fine, and would make much more sense.
Again show a post that backs up the crap you're spouting. Everyone said they would try to stop them but some of us also believe it's their money and we have no right to take it away from them. Just because you'd do it (or did it) to your parents doesn't mean the rest of us have to be greedy for mom and dads money.

You can pull up that entire past thread as easily as I can.

Your definititon of greedy--that it's greedy to want to keep your elderly relatives' retirement savings out of the hands of criminals is laughable.

Tinydancer · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.
Not one person said you should do nothing. What they said was if they won't listen it's their money and they can spend it. You can proclaim we all said do nothing but maybe you should go back and read the thread...lol. Oh and I'd love to see one single post that backs up the crap you wrote in the bolded.
Um, yeah--they said exactly what I said--it's their money, so ill bury my head in the sand while they get scammed out of thousands of dollars because I can't do anything.

Im paraphrasing--but that was the meaning. If you or someone wants to go back on what they said before, that's fine, and would make much more sense.
Again show a post that backs up the crap you're spouting. Everyone said they would try to stop them but some of us also believe it's their money and we have no right to take it away from them. Just because you'd do it (or did it) to your parents doesn't mean the rest of us have to be greedy for mom and dads money.
You can pull up that entire past thread as easily as I can.

Your definititon of greedy--that it's greedy to want to keep your elderly relatives' retirement savings out of the hands of criminals is laughable.

As is your claim that we'd want our parents to loose all their money...lol. As far as the entire thread I asked you for just one post that supported your ridiculous statement. Nice try though.

huskerbb · Guru

Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
Well why'd you do it Husker?

Look. I can't say what someone else should or shouldn't do when it comes to your parents.

I am saying with mine, it isnt a problem.

If it became a problem, things might change.

I didn't--and I wasn't the one saying I'd be perfectly happy with letting people scam them.
Not one person said you should do nothing. What they said was if they won't listen it's their money and they can spend it. You can proclaim we all said do nothing but maybe you should go back and read the thread...lol. Oh and I'd love to see one single post that backs up the crap you wrote in the bolded.
Um, yeah--they said exactly what I said--it's their money, so ill bury my head in the sand while they get scammed out of thousands of dollars because I can't do anything.

Im paraphrasing--but that was the meaning. If you or someone wants to go back on what they said before, that's fine, and would make much more sense.
Again show a post that backs up the crap you're spouting. Everyone said they would try to stop them but some of us also believe it's their money and we have no right to take it away from them. Just because you'd do it (or did it) to your parents doesn't mean the rest of us have to be greedy for mom and dads money.
You can pull up that entire past thread as easily as I can.

Your definititon of greedy--that it's greedy to want to keep your elderly relatives' retirement savings out of the hands of criminals is laughable.
As is your claim that we'd want our parents to loose all their money...lol. As far as the entire thread I asked you for just one post that supported your ridiculous statement. Nice try though.

Several said they would do nothing about it.

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