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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been dating a guy for about three months now. He seems to have his sights set on building a good life for himself. He is frugal and kind. He seems to have a really good attitude about moving forward in his life, and I like that about him. I just learned that he has a mouth full of dentures. It turns out he wasn't always so responsible, and he let his teeth rot, or so it seems. This man is in his early 40s and doesn't have any of his real teeth. Learning this really bothers me. To be fair, he has told me that he is reinventing himself, and it looks like he is on a good path, but how could he have been that irresponsible? And what else don't I know? I don't mean to be judgmental, but I feel like this is a sign of other things that might be way off. How do I find out? -- Beyond the Smile, Dallas

DEAR BEYOND THE SMILE: You have described someone who seems to be focused on making a good life for himself. You have dated him for a short time, so there is no way that you could already have all of the information about who he is. Relax and take your time. Choose to discover more about him. Ask him about his dating history, his work history and what he has done in his life over his adult years. Address the elephant in the room: Ask him what happened that he lost all of his teeth. Sometimes people lose teeth due to neglect. Other times it is because of gum disease or other illness. Don't be shy. Ask so that you can understand his health history and life choices.

As you talk to him, think about your own life. What has occurred that you are not so proud of? What choices do you wish you had made differently? Seek balance in your view of him by taking a sober look at your own life and sharing that with him during these talks.

 

http://www.uexpress.com/sense-and-sensitivity/2015/7/31/boyfriends-false-teeth-give-reader-pause



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We usually criticize men for being shallow, so there ya go!



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My dad had false teeth at 18. His teeth were always bad. Rotted from the inside out.

If the dentures are the only thing about him false, then hang on to him.

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There is nothing "false" about dentures. He may not have been "irresponsible". Maybe his parents didnt' take him to the dentist or he just had genetically bad teeth. Honestly, she sounds like a self absorbed beyotche and I would advise him to RUN.

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False teeth. Fake teeth. Faux teeth.

All dentures.

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Yes. But for her to jump from dentures to "Irresponsible SOB" is ridiculous. She is issues and he should get far away from her!

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I didn't see that jump.

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"...but how could he have been that irresponsible?"

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It's a valid question.

Doesn't mean she thinks he's a total douche.


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I disagree. I don't think it is a valid question at all.

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Usually with someone that young needing dentures it is because they had horrible parents or a serious medical issue such as cancer.
Sometimes people really do just have bad teeth. That is rare, but it happens.
Perhaps she should consider that he was responsible enough to seek dental care and get dentures that are good enough that she didn't know they weren't his teeth for three months .

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Yeah, my husband snorted more than I will ever make in my lifetime. People change. She's a beyotch...

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The fact that this is even an issue concerning a 40 yr old man is just bizarre!

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Yeah, that is a strange thing to be concerned about. Dentures are expensive and he did the right thing so not to have other health issues due to infection. I worked with a girl who, at 28, had all her teeth pulled and fitted for dentures. Family history of soft teeth.

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Yeah, I think the LW is shallow as well.

My mom had dentures at the age of 32. She worked hard all her life to preserve her teeth and was so frustrated that she couldn't save her soft teeth. There was nothing she could have done, or her parents, to save her from a genetic condition.

My brother and his son, both have the same condition. It is what it is.

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Both of my parents had dentures as teens. Yes, that was a long time ago, but still to judge people on that seems really bizarre. Especially to judge a 40 yr old. I mean, if I am going to be judging a man as a potential mate, I just don't even think that would be on my radar. I mean, if he had crappy teeth and poor hygiene, then yes. But ,this just sounds like a woman who really is off.

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Ohfour wrote:

Yeah, my husband snorted more than I will ever make in my lifetime. People change. She's a beyotch...

 Good point - too much 'speed' in your younger, wilder days (meth, etc) will rot your teeth later in life.



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So, it's just going to be assumed that anyone with dentures was a former Meth Head?

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

So, it's just going to be assumed that anyone with dentures was a former Meth Head?

noooo.....just saying that could be a cause.  One of the hundreds of cause. Geez, LGS, lighten up... 



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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

So, it's just going to be assumed that anyone with dentures was a former Meth Head?

What, LOL? biggrin



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My father took out his teeth every night.

After he survived Polio at age 12, his mother gave him candy ALL-THE-TIME, probably because she was just happy to have him alive.

 



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