TOTALLY GEEKED!

Tinydancer · Guru

For the helicopter parent in all of you!

Ohfour · Hooker

Tinydancer wrote:
I still say if some helicopter mom wants to buy it, it makes no difference to me but then I still can't believe there are so many exes that are trying to spy on the other parent. Who has time in the day to keep calling the kids phone or watch? Do these people not work or have a life?

I know very few divorced people that one or the other DIDN'T spy on their ex. My exH used to follow me around. He had a job, but after work, he followed me. He broke into my house and took pictures.

G's ex used to have their kids call her on their cell and put it on the table so she could hear what we were saying. When we discovered it, we stopped it, but no telling what she heard...

Tinydancer · Guru

Wow. I've never had anyone spy on me or follow me around. I didn't know anyone this happened to until you all said it. That's just scary and creepy.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

There is nothing wrong with using technology to keep an eye on your kids. Use it to your advantage, why not?

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Tinydancer wrote:
Wow. I've never had anyone spy on me or follow me around. I didn't know anyone this happened to until you all said it. That's just scary and creepy.

That you know of, LOL biggrin

Tinydancer · Guru

Honeys_Mom wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
Wow. I've never had anyone spy on me or follow me around. I didn't know anyone this happened to until you all said it. That's just scary and creepy.
That you know of, LOL

Hey stop following me...lol. I shouldn't joke because that's really kind of scary!

Honeys_Mom · Mod & Permanent Board Sweetheart

Tinydancer wrote:
Honeys_Mom wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
Wow. I've never had anyone spy on me or follow me around. I didn't know anyone this happened to until you all said it. That's just scary and creepy.
That you know of, LOL
Hey stop following me...lol. I shouldn't joke because that's really kind of scary!

Seriously, it is scary; there are so many ways for a creepy-crawler with some intelligence to stalk. cry

Tinydancer · Guru

Some of my exes turned out to be kind of creepy but I guess I was lucky the weren't stalker creepy.

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

If anyone is following me around they are bored out of their mind by now.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

But.... some times..... well.....

Look. How else can I spend time with the really hot guy if I don't stalk him? Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do.

Don't judge me!

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Some call it stalking.

Some call it paparazzi.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

All I'm saying is that it happens way more than you think. My friend that stayed with us for awhile? When they went through their divorce they both spied on each other. We all got tired of the two of them. They used the kids as pawns and back and forth they went. Their kids are so fvcked up to this day over it all.

Yes, I read a step mom board. It's kind of nice belonging to it because step mothers still have a bad rap. Even today. But some of those women put up with hell from the bio moms. Pure hell. Now true, a lot of them pick crazy men too but yes, there is TONS of this stuff going on.

Yes Lily you have been on the board that long. But some of the things DH's ex has done in our marriage is unbelievable. One time SS, he was about four or five at the time, came to me and asked me why his mom wanted me dead. Naturally I asked him what on earth he was talking about. He said my mom was watching a movie with a blond haired woman (I have blond hair.) and she got stabbed to death. My mom said she hoped the same thing happened to you. He was also told in the beginning that he'd get punished for using the word step mom. He was told that my children were not his "real" family and he couldn't refer to them as his brothers and sisters. Not even as step brothers and sisters. Those are just a few of the stories I remember but yes, it was pretty bad.

FNW · Guru

I was stalked by a couple of exes. It's creepy.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Now I'm feeling a bit stalked.

ed11563 · Guru

I was wondering whether someone whose cars have gotten stolen might want to hook it up hidden inside the car, so they can track their missing car next time. It's cheaper than LoJack.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Ya'll do realize the next step will be microchips, right?

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I belong to a step mothers group online. It's sad sometimes to see how these families act. There's a "game" that parents, mostly bio moms, play with the other parent using the kid as a pawn. They get the kid a cell phone. Then they call the kid a hundred times a day to ask them how they are. Is Daddy treating you okay? Is he taking care of you? Blah blah blah. Is your step mom being nice to you? Is she treating you okay? After so many calls dad and step mom take the phone away because you literally can't get anything done or have any time with your own child because the bio mom is calling every five minutes. Then the bio mom will start calling on the dad's number. When he eventually grows tired of this she will start calling on the step mom's number. They often enlist family members to help call all because they "miss them". It's a game and if you're not the custodial parent it gets old. In the beginning we got these calls. And it was always questioning about if we were taking care of him or not or treating him fairly. I thank god he didn't have one of these at the time or she would have been snooping on us big time.

I have to say, I wouldn't belong to a group such as that.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I belong to a step mothers group online. It's sad sometimes to see how these families act. There's a "game" that parents, mostly bio moms, play with the other parent using the kid as a pawn. They get the kid a cell phone. Then they call the kid a hundred times a day to ask them how they are. Is Daddy treating you okay? Is he taking care of you? Blah blah blah. Is your step mom being nice to you? Is she treating you okay? After so many calls dad and step mom take the phone away because you literally can't get anything done or have any time with your own child because the bio mom is calling every five minutes. Then the bio mom will start calling on the dad's number. When he eventually grows tired of this she will start calling on the step mom's number. They often enlist family members to help call all because they "miss them". It's a game and if you're not the custodial parent it gets old. In the beginning we got these calls. And it was always questioning about if we were taking care of him or not or treating him fairly. I thank god he didn't have one of these at the time or she would have been snooping on us big time.
I have to say, I wouldn't belong to a group such as that.

Why? It's not the step mom's doing it. It's always the step mom's writing in and asking how to deal with the craziness. I don't see what the big deal is of belonging to the group. Some of the step moms just have normal every day problems that come with step parenting. Seems kind of judgmental to say you wouldn't belong. If there's a story where one family is beyond crazy I just skip it and move on. No different than any other board.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Ohfour wrote:
Tinydancer wrote:
I still say if some helicopter mom wants to buy it, it makes no difference to me but then I still can't believe there are so many exes that are trying to spy on the other parent. Who has time in the day to keep calling the kids phone or watch? Do these people not work or have a life?
I know very few divorced people that one or the other DIDN'T spy on their ex. My exH used to follow me around. He had a job, but after work, he followed me. He broke into my house and took pictures.
G's ex used to have their kids call her on their cell and put it on the table so she could hear what we were saying. When we discovered it, we stopped it, but no telling what she heard...

My ex, after proclaiming he was abandoning me and the baby (before she was even born) stalked up. He used to drive by my rental, the one where the address was supposed to be locked up in the court so he didn't know where we lived (RO situation). And chased us down the highway with his sons in his car, DD in mine (baby) and tried to run me off the road. He also used to change the DD's PCF on his insurance just so I would have to go through the pains of changing it back, did the same thing to all my doctors too. Had to live through that until the divorce was final so I had a life changing issue and could change my insurance with MY employer.

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I belong to a step mothers group online. It's sad sometimes to see how these families act. There's a "game" that parents, mostly bio moms, play with the other parent using the kid as a pawn. They get the kid a cell phone. Then they call the kid a hundred times a day to ask them how they are. Is Daddy treating you okay? Is he taking care of you? Blah blah blah. Is your step mom being nice to you? Is she treating you okay? After so many calls dad and step mom take the phone away because you literally can't get anything done or have any time with your own child because the bio mom is calling every five minutes. Then the bio mom will start calling on the dad's number. When he eventually grows tired of this she will start calling on the step mom's number. They often enlist family members to help call all because they "miss them". It's a game and if you're not the custodial parent it gets old. In the beginning we got these calls. And it was always questioning about if we were taking care of him or not or treating him fairly. I thank god he didn't have one of these at the time or she would have been snooping on us big time.
I have to say, I wouldn't belong to a group such as that.
Why? It's not the step mom's doing it. It's always the step mom's writing in and asking how to deal with the craziness. I don't see what the big deal is of belonging to the group. Some of the step moms just have normal every day problems that come with step parenting. Seems kind of judgmental to say you wouldn't belong. If there's a story where one family is beyond crazy I just skip it and move on. No different than any other board.

Because I didn't read the details and though you were saying the mom's in your group were doing the stalking. I am so exhausted. Forgive me.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Not a problem. I just didn't understand why you wouldn't join. There's a lot of crazy people there. I won't deny that. I think, this is JMO, that some of the ones that are there complaining about problem solving are there also because they couldn't problem solve in their own marriage. But there are a lot of honest to goodness step moms who want to do right by their step kids. And like I said earlier step moms still have a bad rap in society. We struggle with things that a lot of people don't even think of on a daily basis. From little things like what will the child call us without offending anyone all the way to what is my part in discipline. I can talk here about things and people are supportive. But it's different when I talk there about things. Those people have been through the same issues. So it's just different.