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msrock · Guru

RE: Ashley Madison Leak-Josh Duggar

NAOW · Vette's SS

msrock wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
NAOW wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Whenitrains wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
SHE'S getting counseling? What for?
For causing him to stray? For not praying enough? For embarrassing the family?
It's not her fault!
I know! Here's how counseling should go for her. YOUR HUSBAND IS A DOUCHE BAG! You've done nothing wrong!
I REALLY hope that is what she is hearing, but I have a feeling it's more along the lines of she wasn't fufilling him and that's why he looked elsewhere. Or she wasn't 'keeping sweet' enough or submissive enough. I really hope she has support that can help her explore all of her options because she is in a really vulnerable situation being a postpartum stay at home mom/wife with 4 kids, one of them brand new, and no work history.
They will counsel her on how to forgive him and move on. To be more willing to be a good wife and do what he asks when he asks it.
That's disturbing. And disgusting.

I think she already does that. Now I think they are going to tell her she did it wrong.

msrock · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
She is probably getting counseling to help deal with all the pain and emotions of being cheated on. It can be earth shattering.

And sex addiction is very real. It isn't always about getting high. A lot of the time it is about self loathing.

Another form of self mutalation.

Sure it is. lol.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I really don't think so.

chef · Guru

msrock wrote:
chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
SHE'S getting counseling? What for?
They didn't say. I would figure it's probably to help her decide what to do and to come to terms with this. I imagine she's pretty devastated right now seeing as how millions of people are very much aware of her husband cheating on her. That's got to be a hard pill to swallow.
She's in a no win situation. If she stays with him, she'll have people telling her how foolish she is. If she leaves him, she'll have people calling her a hypocrite for going against her Christian values.
Remember, people are all too happy to jump all over the Duggars for any misstep they make. I've even seeing comments expressing great glee over the potential for a divorce since that would be yet another scandal.
I imagine she's devastated on her own. Not because people are aware. I don't personally care about the Duggars and i'm not following them around hating them... but this guy is a creep. I'm sorry because he's a Christian people feel some need to defend him.

I'm sure she is. But, being that Josh is a public figure, her devastation is multiplied because this incident isn't just between him, her, and their families. Instead, the eyes of the world are on her. Dealing with a cheating spouse is hard enough without being trotted through the court of public opinion.

Personally, I'm not defending Josh because he's Christian. I'm defending him because I'm tired of people expecting the Duggars to be better, perfect, whatever. What he did was reprehensible. But, he, like everyone, is only human. Being a Duggar doesn't give him superhuman powers. Neither does being a Christian. He admitted to being a hypocrite but I'm sure he's not the only who failed at walking the walk in spite of talking the talk.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Some of the suppositions presented here are ridiculous.

NAOW · Vette's SS

chef wrote:
NAOW wrote:
msrock wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
I don't know. We have addictions to everything. Why can't people go get help for things that blow up their lives?
They can go get all the help they can when they get caught. lol. Just don't act like he couldn't control himself. If anyone knew right from wrong, he did. I'm not buying the sex addiction. You can if it makes you feel better.
Same here. It seems like a PR move.
Why can't he have a legit problem causing him to act this way? Just because he's a Duggar? Why does it have to be a PR move instead of a genuine want to get the help that he needs?
Knowing right from wrong is different from being able to control impulses. If it was a simple matter of knowing right from wrong, Ashley Madison would've never existed, jails would be empty, etc.

I could care less if he's a Duggar, I've always been neutral on them.

He didn't confess and get help. He got caught. Maybe it's sincere, but my feeling is it's not, but I hope it helps him anyway.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

NAOW wrote:
chef wrote:
NAOW wrote:
msrock wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
I don't know. We have addictions to everything. Why can't people go get help for things that blow up their lives?
They can go get all the help they can when they get caught. lol. Just don't act like he couldn't control himself. If anyone knew right from wrong, he did. I'm not buying the sex addiction. You can if it makes you feel better.
Same here. It seems like a PR move.
Why can't he have a legit problem causing him to act this way? Just because he's a Duggar? Why does it have to be a PR move instead of a genuine want to get the help that he needs?
Knowing right from wrong is different from being able to control impulses. If it was a simple matter of knowing right from wrong, Ashley Madison would've never existed, jails would be empty, etc.
I could care less if he's a Duggar, I've always been neutral on them.
He didn't confess and get help. He got caught. Maybe it's sincere, but my feeling is it's not, but I hope it helps him anyway.

Oh, I don't doubt for a second that he's only going to "rehab" to rehab his image.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

msrock wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
She is probably getting counseling to help deal with all the pain and emotions of being cheated on. It can be earth shattering.

And sex addiction is very real. It isn't always about getting high. A lot of the time it is about self loathing.

Another form of self mutalation.
Sure it is. lol.

You can laugh all you want.

I am not saying this is what is going on with Josh.

I am saying that sex can be used for more than just vanilla sex.

Those with the addiction can start off with just wanting the jollies but it can become harder to achieve them.

Often experimenting with other forms of arousal takes place.

Look. It's just as valid an addiction as drugs or alcohol or gambling.

NAOW · Vette's SS

chef wrote:
msrock wrote:
chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
SHE'S getting counseling? What for?
They didn't say. I would figure it's probably to help her decide what to do and to come to terms with this. I imagine she's pretty devastated right now seeing as how millions of people are very much aware of her husband cheating on her. That's got to be a hard pill to swallow.
She's in a no win situation. If she stays with him, she'll have people telling her how foolish she is. If she leaves him, she'll have people calling her a hypocrite for going against her Christian values.
Remember, people are all too happy to jump all over the Duggars for any misstep they make. I've even seeing comments expressing great glee over the potential for a divorce since that would be yet another scandal.
I imagine she's devastated on her own. Not because people are aware. I don't personally care about the Duggars and i'm not following them around hating them... but this guy is a creep. I'm sorry because he's a Christian people feel some need to defend him.
I'm sure she is. But, being that Josh is a public figure, her devastation is multiplied because this incident isn't just between him, her, and their families. Instead, the eyes of the world are on her. Dealing with a cheating spouse is hard enough without being trotted through the court of public opinion.
Personally, I'm not defending Josh because he's Christian. I'm defending him because I'm tired of people expecting the Duggars to be better, perfect, whatever. What he did was reprehensible. But, he, like everyone, is only human. Being a Duggar doesn't give him superhuman powers. Neither does being a Christian. He admitted to being a hypocrite but I'm sure he's not the only who failed at walking the walk in spite of talking the talk.

I don't think most people are expecting him to be better because he is a Duggar. Being on the Family Research Council and preaching about family values, maybe. He's not the only one, you're right, and we judge everyone else who doesn't 'walk the walk' either. Are we supposed to ignore this because he is a Duggar?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I go to church with two women. One of them her husband is an alcoholic. When he gets drunk he beats her. Every time something happens she says it's because she wasn't a godly wife. If her walk had been better, if she had prayed more, whatever, then her husband wouldn't have gone off on her. The other one let's her husband run her like a slave. He doesn't work but she does. She's a teacher and often puts in long days. When she gets home the first thing he says is Where's dinner. She just wants to sit down for five minutes but he gets aggravated if she tries to rest. I've asked her about this. I tell her my husband is not that way. She just told me they have a very traditional marriage and the Bible says for her to submit to her husband. She says whenever she gets upset because he wants something NOW she has to remind herself that her needs come after his.

I'm not saying that all churches are like that. What I AM saying is that there are plenty that are.

msrock · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
msrock wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
She is probably getting counseling to help deal with all the pain and emotions of being cheated on. It can be earth shattering.

And sex addiction is very real. It isn't always about getting high. A lot of the time it is about self loathing.

Another form of self mutalation.
Sure it is. lol.
You can laugh all you want.
I am not saying this is what is going on with Josh.
I am saying that sex can be used for more than just vanilla sex.
Those with the addiction can start off with just wanting the jollies but it can become harder to achieve them.
Often experimenting with other forms of arousal takes place.
Look. It's just as valid an addiction as drugs or alcohol or gambling.

I've been around the block a few times.. and I'm definitely not vanilla. If you want to call it an addiction, you can. I just don't agree. I prefer the term pervert. aww

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I go to church with two women. One of them her husband is an alcoholic. When he gets drunk he beats her. Every time something happens she says it's because she wasn't a godly wife. If her walk had been better, if she had prayed more, whatever, then her husband wouldn't have gone off on her. The other one let's her husband run her like a slave. He doesn't work but she does. She's a teacher and often puts in long days. When she gets home the first thing he says is Where's dinner. She just wants to sit down for five minutes but he gets aggravated if she tries to rest. I've asked her about this. I tell her my husband is not that way. She just told me they have a very traditional marriage and the Bible says for her to submit to her husband. She says whenever she gets upset because he wants something NOW she has to remind herself that her needs come after his.

I'm not saying that all churches are like that. What I AM saying is that there are plenty that are.

There are also plenty of women who like to play the part of the victim. They are good at disguising it as something else, devotion, DH's "needs", the kids, whatever.

IMHO, it's a "victims" mentality.

msrock · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I go to church with two women. One of them her husband is an alcoholic. When he gets drunk he beats her. Every time something happens she says it's because she wasn't a godly wife. If her walk had been better, if she had prayed more, whatever, then her husband wouldn't have gone off on her. The other one let's her husband run her like a slave. He doesn't work but she does. She's a teacher and often puts in long days. When she gets home the first thing he says is Where's dinner. She just wants to sit down for five minutes but he gets aggravated if she tries to rest. I've asked her about this. I tell her my husband is not that way. She just told me they have a very traditional marriage and the Bible says for her to submit to her husband. She says whenever she gets upset because he wants something NOW she has to remind herself that her needs come after his.

I'm not saying that all churches are like that. What I AM saying is that there are plenty that are.

Wow! That makes me want to run to my nearest place of worship. NOT! Makes me sick.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

msrock wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
msrock wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
She is probably getting counseling to help deal with all the pain and emotions of being cheated on. It can be earth shattering.

And sex addiction is very real. It isn't always about getting high. A lot of the time it is about self loathing.

Another form of self mutalation.
Sure it is. lol.
You can laugh all you want.
I am not saying this is what is going on with Josh.
I am saying that sex can be used for more than just vanilla sex.
Those with the addiction can start off with just wanting the jollies but it can become harder to achieve them.
Often experimenting with other forms of arousal takes place.
Look. It's just as valid an addiction as drugs or alcohol or gambling.

I've been around the block a few times.. and I'm definitely not vanilla. If you want to call it an addiction, you can. I just don't agree. I prefer the term pervert.

I'm not going to argue.

Yes there are perverts. Josh is probably a pervert.

But sex addiction is real.

And just as destructive.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.

chef · Guru

NAOW wrote:
chef wrote:
msrock wrote:
chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
SHE'S getting counseling? What for?
They didn't say. I would figure it's probably to help her decide what to do and to come to terms with this. I imagine she's pretty devastated right now seeing as how millions of people are very much aware of her husband cheating on her. That's got to be a hard pill to swallow.
She's in a no win situation. If she stays with him, she'll have people telling her how foolish she is. If she leaves him, she'll have people calling her a hypocrite for going against her Christian values.
Remember, people are all too happy to jump all over the Duggars for any misstep they make. I've even seeing comments expressing great glee over the potential for a divorce since that would be yet another scandal.
I imagine she's devastated on her own. Not because people are aware. I don't personally care about the Duggars and i'm not following them around hating them... but this guy is a creep. I'm sorry because he's a Christian people feel some need to defend him.
I'm sure she is. But, being that Josh is a public figure, her devastation is multiplied because this incident isn't just between him, her, and their families. Instead, the eyes of the world are on her. Dealing with a cheating spouse is hard enough without being trotted through the court of public opinion.
Personally, I'm not defending Josh because he's Christian. I'm defending him because I'm tired of people expecting the Duggars to be better, perfect, whatever. What he did was reprehensible. But, he, like everyone, is only human. Being a Duggar doesn't give him superhuman powers. Neither does being a Christian. He admitted to being a hypocrite but I'm sure he's not the only who failed at walking the walk in spite of talking the talk.
I don't think most people are expecting him to be better because he is a Duggar. Being on the Family Research Council and preaching about family values, maybe. He's not the only one, you're right, and we judge everyone else who doesn't 'walk the walk' either. Are we supposed to ignore this because he is a Duggar?

No. Ignoring it would solve nothing. But, neither does questioning his motives for seeking help. Maybe getting caught will be the wake up call he needs. Maybe it won't. Time will tell. But, people need to allow him the chance to heal instead of passing it off as something he's only doing for his image. It's like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Saying he's only doing it for his image will only bring out the "I told you sos" if another scandal breaks even if another scandal has nothing to do with sex. Say it's found that he has an unpaid parking ticket. There will be people saying oh look, counseling did no good.

It's easy to tell people 'this is what you should do' and harder to do it yourself. He should practice what he preaches. We all should. No one is perfect.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

msrock wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
I go to church with two women. One of them her husband is an alcoholic. When he gets drunk he beats her. Every time something happens she says it's because she wasn't a godly wife. If her walk had been better, if she had prayed more, whatever, then her husband wouldn't have gone off on her. The other one let's her husband run her like a slave. He doesn't work but she does. She's a teacher and often puts in long days. When she gets home the first thing he says is Where's dinner. She just wants to sit down for five minutes but he gets aggravated if she tries to rest. I've asked her about this. I tell her my husband is not that way. She just told me they have a very traditional marriage and the Bible says for her to submit to her husband. She says whenever she gets upset because he wants something NOW she has to remind herself that her needs come after his.

I'm not saying that all churches are like that. What I AM saying is that there are plenty that are.
Wow! That makes me want to run to my nearest place of worship. NOT! Makes me sick.

People want to pretend like this doesn't happen but it does. I'm not going to sit here and say it happens all over the place or that every church or even the majority of churches do it but there ARE churches that when a wife is beaten they counsel the woman to be a better wife. It DOES happen.

msrock · Guru

NAOW wrote:
chef wrote:
msrock wrote:
chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
SHE'S getting counseling? What for?
They didn't say. I would figure it's probably to help her decide what to do and to come to terms with this. I imagine she's pretty devastated right now seeing as how millions of people are very much aware of her husband cheating on her. That's got to be a hard pill to swallow.
She's in a no win situation. If she stays with him, she'll have people telling her how foolish she is. If she leaves him, she'll have people calling her a hypocrite for going against her Christian values.
Remember, people are all too happy to jump all over the Duggars for any misstep they make. I've even seeing comments expressing great glee over the potential for a divorce since that would be yet another scandal.
I imagine she's devastated on her own. Not because people are aware. I don't personally care about the Duggars and i'm not following them around hating them... but this guy is a creep. I'm sorry because he's a Christian people feel some need to defend him.
I'm sure she is. But, being that Josh is a public figure, her devastation is multiplied because this incident isn't just between him, her, and their families. Instead, the eyes of the world are on her. Dealing with a cheating spouse is hard enough without being trotted through the court of public opinion.
Personally, I'm not defending Josh because he's Christian. I'm defending him because I'm tired of people expecting the Duggars to be better, perfect, whatever. What he did was reprehensible. But, he, like everyone, is only human. Being a Duggar doesn't give him superhuman powers. Neither does being a Christian. He admitted to being a hypocrite but I'm sure he's not the only who failed at walking the walk in spite of talking the talk.
I don't think most people are expecting him to be better because he is a Duggar. Being on the Family Research Council and preaching about family values, maybe. He's not the only one, you're right, and we judge everyone else who doesn't 'walk the walk' either. Are we supposed to ignore this because he is a Duggar?

This is where I'm at.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.

Those church's do not follow the true Word of God. Yup, I said that.

In our church the man is to love his wife the same way Jesus loves His bride, the church.

See the difference?

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Women are to submit to their husbands.

Ok. Everybody pick your chins up.

That doesn't mean be a slave to them.

msrock · Guru

Bottom line. He's a hypocrite.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

just Czech wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.
Those church's do not follow the true Word of God. Yup, I said that.
In our church the man is to love his wife the same way Jesus loves His bride, the church.
See the difference?

And that's what I was going to say.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

just Czech wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.
Those church's do not follow the true Word of God. Yup, I said that.
In our church the man is to love his wife the same way Jesus loves His bride, the church.
See the difference?

Yep. People who think the Bible is sexist and against women really don't understand it. Churches who treat women like second class citizens and that they are servants of men are twisting the word for their own selfish reasons.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

just Czech wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.
Those church's do not follow the true Word of God. Yup, I said that.
In our church the man is to love his wife the same way Jesus loves His bride, the church.
See the difference?

Nowhere did I say they practiced the true word of God. I said they exist. And there are plenty of "spiritual counselors" that counsel that. I didn't say it was right. I said it exists. There IS a big difference in the two statements.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

msrock wrote:
Bottom line. He's a hypocrite.

Bottom line, he's a scuzzy cheater. Bottom feeding cheater.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Apparently I am writing in some foreign language. I have said several times I don't agree with it. I just said it happens.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

As Czech said - men are to love their wives like Jesus loves us - and Jesus died a horrible death for us. Men are responsible to God for the way they treat us and for not having a Godly household. Some people read it as men being in charge, when it is really that men are the ones more responsible to God. Women only have to respect their husbands. We get off easy.

NAOW · Vette's SS

lilyofcourse wrote:
just Czech wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.
Those church's do not follow the true Word of God. Yup, I said that.
In our church the man is to love his wife the same way Jesus loves His bride, the church.
See the difference?
And that's what I was going to say.

I think a lot of people preach about women submitting to the husband and conveniently leave off the bit about how the husband is supposed to treat his wife.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Lawyerlady wrote:
As Czech said - men are to love their wives like Jesus loves us - and Jesus died a horrible death for us. Men are responsible to God for the way they treat us and for not having a Godly household. Some people read it as men being in charge, when it is really that men are the ones more responsible to God. Women only have to respect their husbands. We get off easy.

YES! You said it perfectly.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Apparently I am writing in some foreign language. I have said several times I don't agree with it. I just said it happens.

Why can't we discuss this without it being about disagreeing with you?

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lawyerlady wrote:
As Czech said - men are to love their wives like Jesus loves us - and Jesus died a horrible death for us. Men are responsible to God for the way they treat us and for not having a Godly household. Some people read it as men being in charge, when it is really that men are the ones more responsible to God. Women only have to respect their husbands. We get off easy.

Gahhhhhhhhhhhhh I am NOT DISAGREEING! I'm just saying that not all churches teach things the way they should.

NAOW · Vette's SS

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Apparently I am writing in some foreign language. I have said several times I don't agree with it. I just said it happens.

I know :) I was just adding my thoughts.

msrock · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
msrock wrote:
Bottom line. He's a hypocrite.
Bottom line, he's a scuzzy cheater. Bottom feeding cheater.

Yes. There is no defending this man. Please refrain from that.. just because he's supposedly "christian" I can't take it.

He's a dirty, rotten pervert.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

msrock wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
msrock wrote:
Bottom line. He's a hypocrite.
Bottom line, he's a scuzzy cheater. Bottom feeding cheater.

Yes. There is no defending this man. Please refrain from that.. just because he's supposedly "christian" I can't take it.
He's a dirty, rotten pervert.

I never defended him.

My very first post on this thread I say I have zero respect for him.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Apparently I am writing in some foreign language. I have said several times I don't agree with it. I just said it happens.
Why can't we discuss this without it being about disagreeing with you?

Because every time I say some churches teach that someone says that's wrong. I'm not saying it's right! I'm just saying that churches exist like that. Here's what it sounds like...

Me: Some churches teach that.

General You: That's not right.

Me: I know but they teach it anyway.

You: But it's not right.

Me: I understand but I know people are told that...

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

NAOW wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Apparently I am writing in some foreign language. I have said several times I don't agree with it. I just said it happens.
I know :) I was just adding my thoughts.

LOL Thank you!

msrock · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
msrock wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
msrock wrote:
Bottom line. He's a hypocrite.
Bottom line, he's a scuzzy cheater. Bottom feeding cheater.

Yes. There is no defending this man. Please refrain from that.. just because he's supposedly "christian" I can't take it.
He's a dirty, rotten pervert.
I never defended him.
My very first post on this thread I say I have zero respect for him.

I was responding to the sex addiction comments. From the far right. lol!

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Well, people are going to say what they are going to say. And IMO, I don't see her leaving him no matter who he sleeps with.

msrock · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Well, people are going to say what they are going to say. And IMO, I don't see her leaving him no matter who he sleeps with.

Well, then she... is an idiot.

Southern_Belle · Nothing's Impossible

I hope she got checked for STDS.

msrock · Guru

She deserves better than Josh Duggar. That's just stupid.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

msrock wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Well, people are going to say what they are going to say. And IMO, I don't see her leaving him no matter who he sleeps with.
Well, then she... is an idiot.

My DH and I talked about this. In the beginning of our marriage if he had cheated I doubt I would have stayed. Now though we have a lot of years together and if he cheated one time I would probably try to work it out. But that would depend on a lot of things. However, someone like this who has multiple indiscretions usually isn't going to change. I wouldn't put up with that.

Lindley · Guru

Her brother wants her to leave josh

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

msrock wrote:
She deserves better than Josh Duggar. That's just stupid.

Yes she does.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lindley wrote:
Her brother wants her to leave josh

Yeah, that's all over FB.

WYSIWYG · Guru

Oh, I don't doubt for a second that he's only going to "rehab" to rehab his image.
- Lawyerlady

________________________

That's my thought as well.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

I just saw this and thought this was pretty good. I did NOT write it.

This post about how to raise your daughter so she doesn’t end up like Anna Duggar went viral
Nora Alanber

Cheating is always a tricky thing, you simply think you can own a secret and up until that very secret owns you. The reality is that anyone’s lies, especially “cheating lies” seems to Always find their way to the light; and when the secret is that of celebrity, it doesn’t only hurt their life & career, it also especially affects the lives of those closest to them.

Some of you have heard of the chaos that hit the media when the website, Ashley Madison’s ‘ “Life’s Too Short, Have An Affair” announced that all their clients info. has been stolen. Well, horrible news for some couples out there; One of the victims of the infamous website, was Reality TV star Anna Duggar as she learned of her husband Josh Duggar’s private online profile on ashleymadison.com.

One woman voiced her thoughts about being very upset with the Duggar trending topic and not necessarily saying that men are cheats but mostly sending an empowering message to Anna Duggar and all those ladies who walk in her shoes; ‘breathing fire’ into the woman of yesterday, today and tomorrow.
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Jessica’s Popular Facebook Post Reads:

“I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it’s so rich! I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let’s talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother.

Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her “duty” of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. “Be this,” they told her. She was. It wasn’t enough.
What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can’t divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it. Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back.
As a mother of daughters, this makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren’t given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don’t have to marry a man their father deems “acceptable” and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn’t, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he’s in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say “I don’t deserve this, and my children don’t deserve this.” I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire.”

WYSIWYG · Guru

And just like there are women who play it off there are plenty of churches that teach women are second class to men.
- Nobody Just Nobody

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Very true, unfortunately. ISIS isn't the only cult that believes in the subjugation of women. Some sects of Christianity that take the Bible a little too literally do it too.

chef · Guru

One thing I'd like to know is if the woman he cheated with is going to come forward. I doubt she didn't realize the guy was boning is Josh Duggar and that he is married.