TOTALLY GEEKED!

I watched Real Housewives of New Jersey & Atlanta for a while.

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Well, you all should be happy to know that while drinking my Jack, I am watching Chopped.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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SS called me several times today. Once to tell me he loved me. Another to make sure I was coming. A third to ask me if I was picking him up at school or at home. And last to tell me he had made it home and was waiting on me. He was excited to be coming over. When I got there his step dad was laying on the couch talking on the phone. When SS's sister found out he was leaving she threw a ROYAL fit. I could hear everything through the window. She was screaming bloody murder at SS not to leave. SF yelled at him to shut her up because he was talking to a friend. I listened as SS tried to calm his sister and get her to settle down. He tried reasoning with her by telling her he had a dentist appointment and had to go to his dad's house. She was having no part of that. So finally he told her he'd let her play his playstation if she would stop crying. Her father never moved his ass off the sofa the whole time.

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 That is so sad. 

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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I know. It's not like they're abusive or anything. They're just so damn passive. It's like the kids are raising themselves. And I'm not upset that he's ten and watching a four year old. But his mom and step dad have never had rules so that four year old is out of control. When four year olds are out of control it's hard for most adults to deal with it. My ten year old SS shouldn't have to. ESPECIALLY when there is a parent in the home.

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No, he shouldn't.

She was probably freaking out because she knew once he left no one would pay attention to her.

That would break my heart, NJN.

flan

It is so nice that your ss has a safe place to go where he knows he is loved.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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flan327 wrote:

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That would break my heart, NJN.

flan

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 Thanks.  It does break my heart.  Not only for my SS but for his sister.  I know he loves his sister but I also know she's been pretty violent to him in the past.  Biting, punching, kicking, and choking.  The kids are pretty much left on their own.  I guess it's hard for me because I know what I would do if those were my kids.  The four year old would have been told no by now.  And, at four, she is almost as big as SS.  He's only 20 lbs heavier and a head taller.  She's pretty big.  I know he likes coming over here to get a break from all that.

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Oh, that makes it SO much worse!

flan 

NJN, when she starts kindergarten, she is going to be teased SO much.

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SS says she is doing well but it's still early. The teachers aren't really cracking down yet. She is a discipline problem at home. She throws stuff and bites her parents. She won't sleep in her bed because they never tell her no. This girl has NO boundaries.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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I thought this was fitting given the conversation...

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It irks me so much when a father says they're babysitting their kids. No. They're parenting.

And for ohfour.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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And for ohfour.

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 LOL!

weltschmerz wrote:

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I certainly wouldn't send you such a PM.  Obese children are more likely to grow up to be obese adults, not to mention a legion of other immediate problems. You wouldn't want her to grow up to be one of those people who need a scooter at Walmart. Is there nobody the mother would listen to?

http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/obesity/facts.htm

 

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 Her pediatrician has already told them she is morbidly obese.  I have a fairly decent relationship with my DH's ex.  Not good enough to tell her she's ruining her daughter's health but good enough that she has shared the issues of finding clothing and other things that go along with being obese.  With mom it's a fine line between being nice and insulting her.  What makes it harder is the girl is not related to US.  She's the product of SS's mom and her new husband.  So it's really not our job to raise her.  I think deep down her mom knows how serious it is but won't do anything.  Diabetes runs in their family.  If the mom won't listen to the pediatrician I'm not sure my opinion would hold any weight.

The mom has been up and down weight wise since I have married DH.  I know this is going to sound weird but when mom gains weight the kids seem to be thinner.  When mom gets thinner the kids seem to balloon up.  I wonder if she is feeding them all the things she can't or won't eat.  I also know that she takes doctor prescribed diet pills.  No insurance covers them though.

My SS is not the thinnest but we've been working with him on making healthy choices.  He's been doing really well.  I'm proud of him.  I know their house is filled with junk food.  They eat out about five times a week and when they do cook it's mac and cheese or fish sticks or corn dogs.  Just basically junk.

weltschmerz wrote:

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Well, that's a shame. Poor kid...she'll be a pariah in school.
When I was in kindergarten, nobody would play with me because I couldn't speak English. I was always teamed up with the girl who was morbidly obese, because nobody would play with her, either.
Does the mother know anything about nutrition and how to cook healthier food?
Never mind, I see she can't be bothered to cook.
The poor kid is in for a world of hurt.
The morbidly obese girl who I was teamed up with grew up to be a morbidly obese adult with very low self-esteem.

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 Her mother is a chef.  That's not a joke.  She actually even teaches chef school sometimes.  She just says she's tired of cooking and her kids don't like healthy food. 

The four year literally spits food out.  She refuses to anything but candy or chips or junk.  For a year straight she ate nothing but sliced cheese.  They don't have a kitchen table so she wanders the house munching on food.  The mother keeps a pizza from the local pizza place in the fridge 24/7 so that if the kids are hungry and need a snack they can eat a slice of pizza.

One night we dropped off SS really late and met his mom and sister at a McDonald's halfway between us.  Sister was in the back seat with a family size bag of potato chips on one side of her car seat and a bag of caramel corn on the other.

Yes. I live by a very wealthy private college and she runs the whole shabang in the college. Plans all the menus, buys food, everything. She's also in charge of the football players menu's. They have special needs because of working out so they get special meals. She's in charge of that too. She's also in charge of the bakery. And also catering. They cater all the events at school and all the professors events. And during football season they cater to the private boxes in the stadium. She works about 18 hours a day and leaves the kids home with her alcoholic, drug addicted, non working loser of a husband. He hasn't beat on her or the kids in over a year. The last time he did he was told there was already six charges pending and they would throw away the key if he hit anyone again. So he hasn't. But he's currently having an affair. He's also currently waiting to see if he's going to be thrown in jail over some drug charges. Yes, I know. He's a real charmer. The kids listen to them fight all the time.