When I was in college I learned that the women who were most open, most friendly, and seemed to show the most interest ...

in most cases ...

were engaged.

They knew nothing romantic was going to happen, so the nervousness that comes with sexual tension or expectations,

wasn't a factor at all.

A few of them were NOT engaged, and turned out to actually be very interested.

ed11563 wrote:

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When I was in college I learned that the women who were most open, most friendly, and seemed to show the most interest ...

in most cases ...

were engaged.

 

They knew nothing romantic was going to happen, so the nervousness that comes with sexual tension or expectations,

wasn't a factor at all.

 

A few of them were NOT engaged, and turned out to actually be very interested.

 

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I seriously doubt engaged woman are thinking, oh it's ok to flirt because I am engaged and it's safe.   

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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Men always think women "want" them sexually. It's just a guy thing when nothing could be further from the truth, lol.

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 Which is why some men can be so insensitive and downright as holes when a woman wants nothing to do with them. 

Example: DD24 was rushing to catch her train when she tripped and fell. She is a bit of a klutz. She grabbed some napkins from a bodega and made it to the platform to wait for the train. As she was mopping up her bleeding hands and knees a guy approached and asked if she went to XXX college. DD said no tersely and continued cleaning up. She had fallen quite a ways away and the blood was running down her legs and caked onto her palms. He kept asking "Do you know so-and-so?" and "were you at XX party?"  DD kept saying no and cleaning up. Finally he asks her if she wants to go to lunch and can he get her phone number ?!  She looked up at him and said "in case you hadn't noticed, I am BLEEDING and trying to clean up. NO! I don't want to date you!"  

How much differently would that have gone if he had said "hey, it looks like you need some help. What can I do? Are you ok?" Nope. Not this guy. Idiot. 

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:

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You said they are Flirting becauzse now it is "safe".  So, dont' back peddle now. 

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That's not what I said, and you know it. 

What I said was "When I was in college I learned that the women who were most open, most friendly, and seemed to show the most interest ..."

If you assume that someone showing interest in what someone else is saying is "flirting", you must not have many non-sexual relationships.

If you're going to deliberately misquote me, please try to say something cute or funny.

By the way, you might have meant "back pedal", which comes from pedaling a bicycle backwards. "Peddle" means "sell".

Southern_Belle wrote:

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I'm super friendly and talkative.. People take it as flirting often.

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That's what I was talking about before, you'd be one of the gals who is relaxed and friendly and open, because you're NOT ON THE MARKET. 

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

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ed11563 wrote:

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karl271 wrote:

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I have never figured out when "friendly" becomes "flirting".

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I think, when she's touching you a lot. O telling you intimate details ... like ... 

"I'm not wearing underwear." Or she lives in a dorm and asks you to help her with her plumbing.

(Seriously, not kidding.)

I think it's best to assume she's NOT flirting, until she makes it extremely obvious. If she's sending out clues, and you're not picking up on them, she's likely to escalate.

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 Except in the movies I have never heard anyone tell someone else they weren't wearing underwear.

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I was standing in front of the fraternity house in Madison Wisconsin. It was late summer. 

Spoiler

She was blond, thin, probably 18 or so. She walked up to me and told me, she's a Wiccan. And that she wasn't wearing underwear.

Too bad you weren't there to hear her.

 

One other young woman told me that she never wore panties and never wore a bra.

I had been massaging her sore back for about 20 minutes, she also told me she was really really turned on.

I LOVE  giving women back massages.

I'm not surprised that no girl ever told you she wasn't wearing underpants. I would NOT be surprised if a GUY had told you he was going "commando" though.