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DEAR ABBY: I am 44 and my husband of 20 years is 48. On a recent second honeymoon trip to Sweden, I became pregnant. We already have two beautiful, intelligent daughters, 17 and 14. One started university this fall while the other's a high school sophomore.

My problem is not so much the high-risk pregnancy, but rather that both of my girls strongly oppose the idea of us keeping the baby. Not only were they not thrilled when I broke the news to them, but they also cried.

My younger daughter is now giving me the cold shoulder. She doesn't like change and thinks having a sibling will disrupt our life. My older girl said she is glad she will be at the university so she won't have to have anything to do with the baby.

I am deeply hurt by their reactions. I need help to talk to them. Please give me some advice. -- EXPECTING IN CANADA

DEAR EXPECTING: Far more important than how your immature and self-centered daughters feel about your pregnancy is how you and your husband feel about it. Teenagers don't like to consider their parents as sexual beings, which may be part of the reason for their reaction.

Not knowing your girls, I'm not sure what they need to hear other than you love them and hope at some point they will become mature enough to accept the situation. But do not allow them to put you on the defensive. You don't owe them an apology. As a matter of fact, they owe you and their father one.



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They are brats.

What she says to them is stop being brats.

Gosh. 44 a new baby. I know people do it all the time. I could not imagine it. Gosh. Wears me out just thinking about it.

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I sure wouldn't want to be in her shoes, and it's made worse by her daughters being so awful about it.

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This behavior didn't start with the pregnancy. They've undoubtedly learned to be self-centered brats over their entire lives. Mom and dad might want to keep that in mind when raising this next one.

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husker is right. They didn't become selfish brats in one day. Happened over time. While being pregnant at that age would scare the hell out of me those kids need to support their parents.

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I agree that they are brats. But, brats can grow up too if mom and dad don't always cave to their whims. Hopefully, as they get older, their brains will kick into gear.

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