TOTALLY GEEKED!

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Dear Abby - I drove my kids away and now they won't help me stalk them

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Mom is crazy and I completely understand why her kids all moved to the other side of the country.

huskerbb · Guru

Thank you. Isn't that just--actually, I have no words. Abby is spot on.

If you have a decent relationship with your kids you'll know who most of their friends are without bugging them about it.

Good for her daughters. It boggles my mind how mom would think this is ok. I can see maybe knowing 1 friend in case of an emergency, but on the other hand, in this case, I could see that 1 friend fielding 10 frickin phone calls a day from this mom whenever daughter doesn't answer right away.

-- Edited by huskerbb on Thursday 10th of September 2015 09:50:47 AM

Lindley · Guru

She sounds like she is a big time control freak. When our kids moved out the only thing we requested was for them to let us know if they are traveling so we wouldn't be caught of guard if God forbide if something happened.

huskerbb · Guru

Lindley wrote:
She sounds like she is a big time control freak. When our kids moved out the only thing we requested was for them to let us know if they are traveling so we wouldn't be caught of guard if God forbide if something happened.

Yeah, you don't want to wonder if one of those fake ransom calls from Mexico might be true.

FNW · Guru

It's no wonder they moved 3,000 miles to get away from her.

Personally, I gave my parents number to a couple of my friends, JIC something happened to me. They are also listed as an emergency contact on several sources.

Lindley · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Lindley wrote:
She sounds like she is a big time control freak. When our kids moved out the only thing we requested was for them to let us know if they are traveling so we wouldn't be caught of guard if God forbide if something happened.
Yeah, you don't want to wonder if one of those fake ransom calls from Mexico might be true.

Well my daughter lived in India so it was nice to know when she traveled to Vietnam that we knew where she was. We didn't require a itenary of her every movement. She was just 22 yrs old so we were concerned.

Lindley · Guru

FNW wrote:
It's no wonder they moved 3,000 miles to get away from her.

Personally, I gave my parents number to a couple of my friends, JIC something happened to me. They are also listed as an emergency contact on several sources.

Smart thing to do.

huskerbb · Guru

FNW wrote:
It's no wonder they moved 3,000 miles to get away from her.

Personally, I gave my parents number to a couple of my friends, JIC something happened to me. They are also listed as an emergency contact on several sources.

But you could probably trust your parents not to start calling all your friends 10 minutes after you don't answer the phone.

TrudyML · Guru

Actually I have a few buddies numbers listed here. So my brother could always reach out.

FNW · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
FNW wrote:
It's no wonder they moved 3,000 miles to get away from her.

Personally, I gave my parents number to a couple of my friends, JIC something happened to me. They are also listed as an emergency contact on several sources.
But you could probably trust your parents not to start calling all your friends 10 minutes after you don't answer the phone.

As much as my mother would want to, even she would not do something like that.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

We don't know any of DN's friends numbers. Honestly she and sparkly keep mostly to themselves. Neither have a large circle of friends. Mostly work buddies. We know the names of a few of her work buddies. If something happened to her I would send the police to HIM since they live together. And if they both disappeared I would wonder. They don't leave us numbers of everywhere they're going but we see DN once a week and talk almost every day. She'll mention if they're going somewhere for the weekend or what their plans are. That mom is crazy. If you have a good relationship with your kids they'll tell you what you want to know without having to ask.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Shoot, I don't know all my kids' friends now.

Never did.

Does the mom not have FB?

Ohfour · Hooker

This is unfathomable to me. Maybe if my kids lived far away...hmmm...nope. Still can't imagine.

Can't you just see her flipping through her address book, calling all of her daughters friends, "Hey is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days.....No? Ok, I guess I will call LL".

"Hey LL, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call NJN".

"Hey NJN, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call Lily".

And then at a c0cktail party a couple of weeks later, the Geeks are mingling and someone says, "wanna hear something weird? Ohfour's mother called me to ask if I was with her. I thought that was really odd."

LL pipes in and says, "she called me, too." NJN says the same and so does Lily.

Guess who doesn't have ANY friends now?

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Wow.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Once they become adults you don't have to know EVERY detail of their lives.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Ohfour wrote:
This is unfathomable to me. Maybe if my kids lived far away...hmmm...nope. Still can't imagine.

Can't you just see her flipping through her address book, calling all of her daughters friends, "Hey is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days.....No? Ok, I guess I will call LL".

"Hey LL, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call NJN".

"Hey NJN, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call Lily".

And then at a c0cktail party a couple of weeks later, the Geeks are mingling and someone says, "wanna hear something weird? Ohfour's mother called me to ask if I was with her. I thought that was really odd."

LL pipes in and says, "she called me, too." NJN says the same and so does Lily.

Guess who doesn't have ANY friends now?

Oh, I'd still be your friend. But the next time she called, I'd probably say something like, "Didn't she tell you? She joined the peace corp and left yesterday for Ethiopia."

Ohfour · Hooker

I mean, I understand her concern. If something happened to one of my kids, I KNOW that I would be notified.

The girls should tell their mother that they have given her contact info to a couple of friends and that if anything should happen, they know to call her immediately.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

Ohfour wrote:
I mean, I understand her concern. If something happened to one of my kids, I KNOW that I would be notified.

The girls should tell their mother that they have given her contact info to a couple of friends and that if anything should happen, they know to call her immediately.

That's a good compromise!

flan

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This is unfathomable to me. Maybe if my kids lived far away...hmmm...nope. Still can't imagine.

Can't you just see her flipping through her address book, calling all of her daughters friends, "Hey is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days.....No? Ok, I guess I will call LL".

"Hey LL, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call NJN".

"Hey NJN, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call Lily".

And then at a c0cktail party a couple of weeks later, the Geeks are mingling and someone says, "wanna hear something weird? Ohfour's mother called me to ask if I was with her. I thought that was really odd."

LL pipes in and says, "she called me, too." NJN says the same and so does Lily.

Guess who doesn't have ANY friends now?
Oh, I'd still be your friend. But the next time she called, I'd probably say something like, "Didn't she tell you? She joined the peace corp and left yesterday for Ethiopia."

I would be worse. I would tell her mom she was probably over at Juan's house. Oh you don't know Juan? Yeah, she picked him up when she went on that trip to Mexico. He's ADORABLE for a 19 year old. She spends a lot of time with him. I'll have her call you.

Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

"Oh, she didn't tell you? She joined the army."

Tignanello · My dog name is, Sasha!

My mother tried this once. I laughed and told her that my friends wouldn't know the answers to her questions anyways.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
This is unfathomable to me. Maybe if my kids lived far away...hmmm...nope. Still can't imagine.

Can't you just see her flipping through her address book, calling all of her daughters friends, "Hey is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days.....No? Ok, I guess I will call LL".

"Hey LL, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call NJN".

"Hey NJN, is Ohfour with you? I haven't heard from her in 2 days?.....No? Ok, I guess I will call Lily".

And then at a c0cktail party a couple of weeks later, the Geeks are mingling and someone says, "wanna hear something weird? Ohfour's mother called me to ask if I was with her. I thought that was really odd."

LL pipes in and says, "she called me, too." NJN says the same and so does Lily.

Guess who doesn't have ANY friends now?
Oh, I'd still be your friend. But the next time she called, I'd probably say something like, "Didn't she tell you? She joined the peace corp and left yesterday for Ethiopia."
I would be worse. I would tell her mom she was probably over at Juan's house. Oh you don't know Juan? Yeah, she picked him up when she went on that trip to Mexico. He's ADORABLE for a 19 year old. She spends a lot of time with him. I'll have her call you.

I just wouldn't answer.

I'm bad about that.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Tignanello wrote:
My mother tried this once. I laughed and told her that my friends wouldn't know the answers to her questions anyways.

I always give crazy answers. DrIves mom crazy. Dad just laughs.

Mom: Where you going?

Me: Midget circus.

OR

Mom: Where you been?

Me: Tijuana donkey show.

WYSIWYG · Guru

Mom is a control freak. Abby got this one right, 100%.

Mary Zombie · Guru

My parents were like that. They sometimes managed to get phone numbers and my friends had tocstart being rude. After that when they would ask for phone numbers.....mostly Dad, I would say um no you have my cell....that's all you need. I also stopped sharing plans. It was a shame but had to do it.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Caitlyn told me last night "I hope you know when I move out, I won't be texting and calling you every night".

I told her she better not. I would be asleep.