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Dear Abby: My wife and I had dinner with other couples at an elegant restaurant with white linen tablecloths.

After the meals were brought to the table, someone said: “We need to pray.” In the quiet, candlelit setting, a “Bless us, oh, Lord . . .” was spoken aloud by most of the people in our party — causing heads to turn at several nearby tables. I was embarrassed.

Please understand: We are religious, and we pray aloud in church — but not in restaurants.

Is there a rule of etiquette about praying in a restaurant?

— Silently Praying

Dear Silently Praying:

Yes, there is. In restaurants, praying should be done quietly and inconspicuously to avoid distracting other diners. nearby tables. I was embarrassed.

Please understand: We are religious, and we pray aloud in church — but not in restaurants.

Is there a rule of etiquette about praying in a restaurant?



-- Edited by Lawyerlady on Thursday 10th of September 2015 09:46:41 AM

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How is praying different than any other talking?

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Embarrassed about your faith? Sad. I doubt the volume was that much. They caused people to look ONLY because not that many people pray in restaurants.

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I have a lot of friends who quietly pray, thanking Him before receiving God's bounty. If people stare, who cares.

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We Pray before we eat and not embarrassed by it.

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This was the subject of a recent episode of "What Would You Do?"

 

None of the other diners paid any attention, until one diner (part of their scenario) started complaining that they were bothering her.

Consistently, other diners, the non-actors, told her to STFU (nicely, then louder and more insistently when SHE got more aggressive.



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Sad. If you are ashamed of God. Do you think He will be all that pleased with you?



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When my friends pray over their food, I get little embarrassed that I forgot to.

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We hold hands and say a blessing over the food. Not loudly and not a long prayer. Just a "thank you Lord for the food we are about to receive" type prayer.

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I have a very close friend & when we eat out, she bows her head & prays silently.

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There is nothing wrong with pray out loud before your meal. Or, are we going to outlaw that too?

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flan327 wrote:

I have a very close friend & when we eat out, she bows her head & prays silently.

flan

 I do that when I'm eating with people I don't know as well, but with friends and family, we pray together.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:

I have a very close friend & when we eat out, she bows her head & prays silently.

flan

 I do that when I'm eating with people I don't know as well, but with friends and family, we pray together.

She knows me very well, but would never ask me to join her. Occasionally I forget & start eating before she is finished. Then I'm mortified!

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Lol. This required a Ms. Manners letter??!

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flan327 wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
flan327 wrote:

I have a very close friend & when we eat out, she bows her head & prays silently.

flan

 I do that when I'm eating with people I don't know as well, but with friends and family, we pray together.

She knows me very well, but would never ask me to join her. Occasionally I forget & start eating before she is finished. Then I'm mortified!

flan 

Friendly advice?  Don't be.  I don't expect others to not start their meal while I am praying.  I'm sure she doesn't think a thing about it.  Now, if you start eating before her meal arrives, THAT's when you should be mortified...wink



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Tignanello wrote:

Lol. This required a Ms. Manners letter??!

 Dear Abby is not Miss Manners.  tsk tsk.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
Tignanello wrote:

Lol. This required a Ms. Manners letter??!

 Dear Abby is not Miss Manners.  tsk tsk.

 I was having trouble remembering how to spell etiquette.  :P



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If it was what would be considered regular volume level for conversation at a table, I wouldn't understand the issue. If the prayer was done in a loud, booming, stadium covering voice, that drowned out conversations at other tables, I could understand the embarrassment.

People shouldn't be afraid or ashamed of their faith. They shouldn't disrupt others with it, but, they should be open about it at a conversational voice level among other believers.

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