DEAR ABBY: I have been married for eight years, and my husband is a wonderful spouse when it comes to almost everything. My complaint may seem shallow, but please hear me out.
A couple of years back, he started buying me potted plants rather than cut flowers because "you get more for your money." He buys me plants three or four times a year, and after receiving the third one I asked him to please go back to cut flowers. I neither like house plants nor do I want something I must find a place for in our yard. Despite this, he continues to buy me potted plants every time. Each time he says he "forgot" I don't want them.
I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I am really frustrated. Today I received my 10th one. I suppose I seem like a jerk, but I really don't understand why he keeps buying me the one thing I asked him not to buy. Your thoughts? -- KATHY IN WASHINGTON
DEAR KATHY: You appear to have married a man who is not only practical, but also unimaginative when it comes to gift-buying. That he would continue to buy you something you have repeatedly told him you would prefer not to have seems the opposite of considerate to me. (On the other hand, many women would be glad that their spouse remembered any special occasion.)
He keeps buying her gifts she has to take care of even when she has asked him not to because he is being a cheapskate. Lovely. She should just let them die.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
I wonder if this is the classic buy the other person what you secretly want as a hint situation? SHE should buy HIM plants, and let him plant them in the yard or wherever.
And tell him that as much as she appreciates his thoughtfulness, please, buy the plants for himself, not her.
I wonder if this is the classic buy the other person what you secretly want as a hint situation? SHE should buy HIM plants, and let him plant them in the yard or wherever. And tell him that as much as she appreciates his thoughtfulness, please, buy the plants for himself, not her.
Well, that's just thoughtless gift giving in and of itself.
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LawyerLady
I can explain it to you, but I can't understand it for you.
We can't have them in the house because of allergies. So not an issue.
Hey. Maybe she could use that excuse.
Or just let them die as LL said.
Mawmaw had a big lily plant. She split that thing a dozen or more times. She was so tired of messing with it, she put it on the porch. When she realized it wasn't going to die, she pushed off the edge. The pot broke and the thing took root.
That was about 20 years ago.
That thing has made its way almost all the way around the house now.
My uncle mows over it when it jumps the border.
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I don't like potted plants either. I seem to kill them no matter how much I try not to. I ignore them and they die. I take care of them and they die. I can't win.
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I wonder if this is the classic buy the other person what you secretly want as a hint situation? SHE should buy HIM plants, and let him plant them in the yard or wherever. And tell him that as much as she appreciates his thoughtfulness, please, buy the plants for himself, not her.
Well, that's just thoughtless gift giving in and of itself.
No, it is a passive aggressive way of driving the point home. But instead of potted plants, buy him his much wanted power tool, used, that needs a ton of work to get it running, and keep doing it.
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