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She put it in their bedroom while she was gone, and he was there, and then claimed she had put it there to spy on daughter? Um, what? I am with Ed here, she wanted to make sure he wasn't bringing anyone else home.

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If I were the ex wife, he wouldnt be able to have the live in girlfriend. I would have taken care of her real quicklike...



-- Edited by Ohfour on Saturday 26th of September 2015 02:58:35 PM

How?  Courts do not prevent such arrangements except in very rare circumstances such as if it can be shown a live-in partner is a danger to the children. 

What are you going to do?  Hire a hit man?   



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Here, divorce papers include a paramour clause.

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And you lose overnight rights if you have someone sleep over when you have the kids. They take it seriously here....

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Here, divorce papers include a paramour clause.

I doubt if most of them do.  In certain cases, I don't doubt it, but not in general.  They also normally have a time limit, as well--and it doesn't last until the youngest kid is 18, otherwise no one who gets divorced could ever date or remarry.  That's just silly.   



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You can remarry. The paramour clause says you cannot have overnight guests you are in a relationship with outside of marriage.

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I don't see how that would fundamentally change this situation if he was married--other than it would be more difficult to get rid of her if that is what he decides to do.

Also, again, I doubt that is a part of every divorce, but even if it is, you are one state out of 50 and the chances he is from your state is remote.

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Ohfour wrote:

If I were the ex wife, he wouldnt be able to have the live in girlfriend. I would have taken care of her real quicklike...



-- Edited by Ohfour on Saturday 26th of September 2015 02:58:35 PM

 This.

Would save a whole lot of trouble for everyone. 



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lilyofcourse wrote:
Ohfour wrote:

If I were the ex wife, he wouldnt be able to have the live in girlfriend. I would have taken care of her real quicklike...



-- Edited by Ohfour on Saturday 26th of September 2015 02:58:35 PM

 This.

Would save a whole lot of trouble for everyone. 

Once you are divorced--you don't get to make those kind of decisions. 

 

Obviously a clause such as ohfour seems to think is a part of every divorce--is NOT a part of this one, so it is not just a matter of going back to court and enforcing a pre-existing clause.   



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We have those clauses her but you have to ask for them to be put into your divorce. They don't automatically get put in.

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Truth is, with this, and every single letter to one of these advice columns, we only get ONE side of the story.

Going through drawers? Ok. Don't do that.

Spying on your SO? Again, bad idea, don't do it.

Living with someone who obviously has trouble with kids. Extremely bad idea.



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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

We have those clauses her but you have to ask for them to be put into your divorce. They don't automatically get put in.

They can be put in--but normally aren't--because then they apply to you, as well.  They almost always have time limits, as well, usually not more than a year after the divorce is finalized.  



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Ours are automatic. And lasts until the end of child support (when the child turns 18 or graduates high school, whichever comes last). G and his ex had been divorced 4 years when we got married and her lawyer served us papers demanding our marriage certificate. We had to show it to her.



-- Edited by Ohfour on Saturday 26th of September 2015 04:17:55 PM

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Again, most states are not like that--and his is obviously one of them.

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Perhaps more should.

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lilyofcourse wrote:

Perhaps more should.

I think divorce, in general, should be much harder to get.   



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huskerbb wrote:
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Perhaps more should.

I think divorce, in general, should be much harder to get.   

 In some instances I agree.

Or perhaps getting married in the first place should be more difficult. 

 



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LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL. The letter is merely about a GF who knows the SD is rifling through her stuff. Has zero to do with divorce rights. Has everything to do with parents teaching their kids personal space boundaries. Can you all say "we got off topic"?

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Also, we don't know if he is actually divorced. Maybe he was never married in the first place.

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He might be separated too. I've known a lot of people who moved a b/f or g/f in when the divorce isn't final yet.

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I swear, some of you people cant read. "previous marriage" means he was married and divorced. Really people?

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