DEAR ABBY: I'm a 17-year-old girl, and all my life I have had trouble accepting gifts, even inexpensive ones. I do believe it's the thought that counts, but I have trouble expressing gratitude.
An example: My brother was disappointed by my reaction when he got me soap shaped like a rock last Christmas. My smile was forced. I feel anxious when I get presents, no matter what they are.
I have started seeing someone, and I was planning to save up for a really nice present for him. But when he said he wanted to do the same, I felt uncomfortable. What's a great line I can use to express my gratitude -- "I'm happy that you thought of me"? -- SEARCHING FOR WORDS OUT WEST
DEAR SEARCHING FOR WORDS: Always say thank you. After that, you might express that the item is "beautiful" or that you like the style or the color. In a case like your brother's gift, you could have said, "Wow! This gift rocks!"
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Well, it is kind of hard to go pretend that getting soap on a rope has made all your dreams come true. I don't think someone should have to gush and gush. I think over doing it is uncomfortable too for the giver. Just say, Thank you for the lovely gift and for thinking of me". I don't think you have to fall down as if you have won the lottery. Some of this is getting silly. If you don't say Thank you the right way or fill out the thank you card the right way or you don't get the right gift, etc.
When someone has low self esteem they do not feel worthy of the gift and that feeling overwhelms the gratitude. I think she has a deeper issue.
This.
But on the other hand, soap shaped like a rock?
I can do that with all those little pieces you don't know what to do with.
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