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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Grandson Sleepovers Alarm Friend

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Friend is looking for something bad because she wants to find something bad.

And how on earth does this friend know how they sleep, what she sleeps in or anything else?

Friend has a twisted mind.

Tinydancer · Guru

Reminds me of someone on here who sees sexual abuse in every circumstance.

FNW · Guru

When we visited my great-grandmother in Modesto, I would have to sleep with her. She snored. Loudly. There just wasn't room, and at the time, I was unable to sleep on a sofa. I was in my late 20's when she passed. I miss her.

In the mornings both boys love to crawl into bed with us. Mainly because we have a TV in our room. They do the same with my parents when they spend the night at their house. Some day they will stop coming in. That will be a sad day for me.

It's sad that the LW has such a perverted view of the world that she views this situation "that" way.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

My SS is almost 11. When he goes and spends the night with his grandma there is only one bed. They all sleep together in the one bed in their underwear. Grandma just wears a bra and panties. Sorry, I think it's creepy, weird, and gross. Although I don't think there's a single sexual thing in the world going on at 11 there would be no way I'd want to be sleeping in just MY underwear with my grandma in her bra and panties. Again, I don't see evil and abuse. I just think it's gross and creepy.

FNW · Guru

Yes, in underwear it's gross and creepy. With PJ's on, it's a slumber party.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

FNW wrote:
Yes, in underwear it's gross and creepy. With PJ's on, it's a slumber party.

With P.J.'s on not so bad. But at some point the kid is going to be too old to be sleeping with grandma. She said she doesn't know if the lady is sleeping in revealing night clothes. As long as she isn't then I find no issue. But again, she's starting to ride the line where he is going to be too old soon. Puberty does things to boys...

Lexxy · My dog name is Sasha, too!

Way back I had a young male roommate move in with me. Before moving in he had been living with his grandmother & sleeping in the same bed with her. He was 17 yo. His grandmother was from France & apparently this was the norm.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Yeah, in some countries it is the norm. This is not one of them though.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Good gosh, sometimes I will have THREE kids in bed with me. Two girls and a very little boy. We all wear pj's. There is not a single thing wrong with sleeping with grandma.

Some people are just sick in the head. The LW needs to mind her own business. She's the one that sounds creepy.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I think I was 15 last time I shared a bed with my mawmaw when spending the night with her.

Then they moved into a bigger house and I got my own room for when i stayed there.

I was probably 19 last time I spent the night at her house.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

just Czech wrote:
Good gosh, sometimes I will have THREE kids in bed with me. Two girls and a very little boy. We all wear pj's. There is not a single thing wrong with sleeping with grandma.

Some people are just sick in the head. The LW needs to mind her own business. She's the one that sounds creepy.

I agree that there's nothing wrong with it if you're wearing pj's. To me though it's creepy and gross if grandma is in her bra and panties. Call me weird if you want but I think that's not right. And all the kids just sleep in undies too. SS is almost 11 and just wears his briefs in bed with his grandma who wears her underwear. I think that's weird. What makes it worse is that she owns a three bedroom two bath house. Two bedrooms and one bath are totally inaccessible due to severe hoarding issues. SS said they tried to go in one of the rooms the other day to retrieve some toys and the bugs were out of control.

I also think a 19 year old girl sleeping with her grandma is fine. A 19 year old boy is different. You can say I have a double standard and I do. I just think it's different.

Janies Friend · Newbie

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
DEAR ABBY: I have a friend whose 11-year-old grandson stays overnight with her sometimes on the weekends. She has only one bedroom, and I'm concerned because he still sleeps with her in the same bed.

I have mentioned it to her many times, and she says there is nothing wrong with it. I even purchased a nice air mattress, very easy to inflate, which she accepted but doesn't use. I'm upset by this situation. I know she sometimes sleeps in revealing night clothes, although I don't know if she does when her grandson is there.

I find this sick and twisted. I am counting on you to set my friend straight and save this young boy from future turmoil. -- PROTECTIVE IN WASHINGTON

DEAR PROTECTIVE: There is an old French saying that approximately translates, "Evil be he who thinks evil of it." I see nothing sick or twisted about a boy who occasionally stays with his grandma and shares her bed, particularly if that's the way it has always been.

When he grows so big that the bed becomes too crowded for his comfort, I'm sure he'll let Granny know. Ultimately, the boy's parents are the ones responsible for his safety. It's likely they know about and approve of the sleeping arrangements
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http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2015/10/6/grandsons-sleepovers-alarm-grandmas-friend

The actual quote is "honi soit qui mal y pense". It means essentially shame on he who thinks evil of it. It is French but it's the motto of the British Order of the Garter. Just a bit of trivia.