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DEAR ABBY: My mother comes from a large family. While most of the time everyone is kind and fairly respectful, there have been several occasions when gossiping family members have said hurtful things.

Most recently, a comment was made about my 29-year-old brother. He is unmarried and isn't dating anyone. He works two jobs and also participates in fishing tournaments. Someone commented that he "must be gay" because he "has guys sleep over at his house" and "doesn't have a girlfriend."

For the record, my brother is straight. His fishing teammates sleep over because they leave at 3 a.m. for their tournaments.

This really annoyed my mom and me. It's no one's business how he chooses to live his life, straight or gay. While we try to distance ourselves from their comments, staying quiet about them is becoming more and more difficult. What can we say without sinking to their level? -- SEETHING IN OHIO



DEAR SEETHING: How about being direct: "My brother/son is not gay. Please stop spreading rumors about him that aren't true because it's really annoying."


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The whole "not sinking to their level" thing takes the fun right out of it. I could make all sorts of assumptions about people.

"You wear undershirts as clothing, you must beat your wife."

"You drink beer before 5:00, you must be an alcoholic."

"You have a lock on your phone, you must be having an affair."





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Meh. You can't go around trying to correct the world. It doesn't work anyway. Your true friends don't need explanations and your enemies won't believe them anyway so why bother?

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Lawyerlady wrote:

The whole "not sinking to their level" thing takes the fun right out of it. I could make all sorts of assumptions about people.


"You wear undershirts as clothing, you must beat your wife."


"You drink beer before 5:00, you must be an alcoholic."


"You have a lock on your phone, you must be having an affair."






That actually sounds like a lot of the gossips around here! lol

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Truth is, they are really witches and these "fishing trips" are really coven meetings. They spend a lot of time talking about your husbands/sons/brothers. Wondering which they can turn and which they can sacrifice.

And the orgies. They last for hours. All the toys and oils and such turn it into a real free for all.



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I'd say something.

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flan327 wrote:

I'd say something.


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Was there anyone in doubt of that? biggrin

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Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
flan327 wrote:

I'd say something.


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Was there anyone in doubt of that? biggrin

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That's not gossip, that's just badmouthing. Gossip is when you spread the truth around behind others' backs. There is a difference.

I am not so pious that I don't love a good, juicy piece of gossip. But if someone told me my brother must be gay, not that there is anything wrong with that (insert eyeroll here), I would correct them. Then I would say they must live a boring life if they sit around and think of reasons for my brother's independence. And walk away.

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Gossip isn't "spreading truth". That might be "truth" as the gossiper perceives it but that doesn't necessarily mean it is true or true in the way they are choosing to gossip.

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We recently found out my nephew is gay. His father, my brother, is a minister.

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Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

We recently found out my nephew is gay. His father, my brother, is a minister.

 ooooh!  Deliciously scandalous



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We rent the other half of our building to another law firm. ONe of the ladies there has a couple of boyfriends - they both show up at the office, bring her flowers, etc. They haven't shown up at the same time, yet - that will be interesting. BTW - she's married, but in the process of a divorce (I wonder why - not).

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huskerbb wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:

We recently found out my nephew is gay. His father, my brother, is a minister.

 ooooh!  Deliciously scandalous

 In my family?  Yes.



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