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DEAR ABBY: My parents are refusing to pay for me to attend my dream school after learning that I am sexually active with my boyfriend of two years. (They liked him very much prior to learning this.) He's in school in France.

They say it would be a "sin" to pay for me to attend school in the same city he's in, and they expect me to stay home and go to a local community college. Would it be wrong to disobey their wishes and take out my own student loans? -- PARENTS VS. BOYFRIEND IN FRANCE



DEAR P VS. B: I not only think it would be wrong, I'm afraid it could be a disaster for you. What if the relationship doesn't work out? When you take out those loans, you will be responsible for repaying that debt for many years.

Before you make that decision, I urge you to carefully consider the kind of jobs that will be available in the field you're interested in pursuing. If what you're really interested in pursuing is your boyfriend, you might be better off staying home.

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Well, go ahead and try to take out your own loans. But, I doubt you can fund the entire thing on loans that only you can obtain without your parents help. So, go work 2 or 3 jobs, bank your money and go for it!

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Sounds like her hormones are more important then the wisdom of an education she can afford. Bwahahaha

We laugh at men being ruled by their d1ck, I'm laughing at her. Idiot.

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I don't blame the parents one bit. Like Czech said her hormones are more in control then her desire for a education.

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She can do whatever she wants and live with the consequences. Her parents, however, do not have to pay for anything. Quite frankly, saying they WILL pay for college if she stays home is nice of them, because they don't have to do that, either.

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And you know what else? BF went to France without her. That's a clue that to him, at least, she is not as important as what he is doing in France.

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I think she should give it a try. But understand that the relationship might fail, but the education can still succeed.



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Oh my goodness. He flew away to France to study and left her behind. Clue one. She can't afford college without her parents help. Clue two. She's pining away for a boy. Clue 3. Yep. She needs to wake up. Hormones and all.

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She will find that there are plenty of guys in Community College who WON'T  run away from her to the other side of the world.

Many of those guys could be quite capable of settling her raging hormones. 

 



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She can do what she wants--but if what she wants is to be free to chase after her boyfriend then there will be consequences to that which could linger FAR into the future.

It is interesting, however, that when I suggested I might help my child out but there would be some strings attached, posters on here freaked the fvck out--most of the same posters dont seem to mind such "strings" now.

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It is interesting, however, that when I suggested I might help my child out but there would be some strings attached, posters on here freaked the fvck out--most of the same posters dont seem to mind such "strings" now.
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buying a car is nowhere near the same thing as agreeing to fund several years of tuition and living expenses abroad

from the sound of the post, the kid has already dumped her anyway


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Can I just say I love that type of parenting??

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burns07 wrote:


It is interesting, however, that when I suggested I might help my child out but there would be some strings attached, posters on here freaked the fvck out--most of the same posters dont seem to mind such "strings" now.
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buying a car is nowhere near the same thing as agreeing to fund several years of tuition and living expenses abroad

from the sound of the post, the kid has already dumped her anyway

 So what?  



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I'm not sure it would matter to me my child's motive for choosing a particular school as long as it's a good school and will provide a good education that will enable my child to pursue his goals and have a good, solid career.

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