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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Hard Feelings Linger Years After High School

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Believe it or not, people grow up. I went to my 10 year reunion and to my surprise, had a very wonderful time, with the worst of the worst mean girls not showing up, and the others actually turned into decent human beings. Yes, you can remain bitter forever, but letting go will actually make you feel much better.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yes, it amazes me to hear people whine about High School 20+yrs later. It was High School. By it's very nature, people are young and stupid and sometimes not very nice. People grow up. I had a great time at my last reunion. The "jocks" and the cheerleaders and the band geeks and the nerds and on and on all had a great time.

FNW · Guru

I went to my 10 year reunion. It was fine. My ex was amazed with how many guys had hair below their waist. We had a few rockers in our graduating class.

I had plans to attend my 20 year but changed my mind as I didn't want to waste travel and money flying out for it. It just wasn't important enough for me.

I have many FB friends that I went to school with. It's funny how some have changed, and some have not. Pettiness still rears its ugly head on occasion. If it's consistent with a particular person, I unfriend them. Some I just unfollow. I feel that with FB, there is no need to go to a reunion.

huskerbb · Guru

OMFG--therapy? Sounds like some of them still need it.

I can understand not going to class reunions. Distance is often a factor, and it's just not that high on everyone's list of priorities.

What I don't understand is still being all butt hurt over crap that happened FORTY years ago, a jealous, woe is me attitude because you think they are all more successful than you, and hanging on to high school grudges into your 40's, 50's, and 60's.

FNW · Guru

Personally, I am amazed at how horrible some of these people look. I often wonder what the heck happened in their life, or what medical problems they are having.

chef · Guru

I have never been to a high school reunion and probably never will. I just don't have an interest in it.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

chef wrote:
I have never been to a high school reunion and probably never will. I just don't have an interest in it.

Same here. I was pretty much invisible in high school.

flan

Lindley · Guru

I never had a real desire to go to mine. One thing my closest friends moved in my Jr year and my class was 1,500. We had over 4,000 students so unless you were involved in sports, band and clubs it just not worth it. I think it would be more fun for someone who went to a smaller school where you know everyone.

Ohfour · Hooker

I went to my 20 year reunion. Well kinda. I left the all girls school in the middle of my junior year. I was still invited to the 20 year reunion. It was a blast. But to say people were shocked at me would be an understatement. I went from being this absolute wild child to working for a Christian Film/Music Company and being very involved in politics and the church.

That is definitely no what they were expecting. I think they thought I would be dead...

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

I haven't had the chance to go to one. I was always working.

Thing about my class reunion, I wasn't really close to anyone in my graduating class. All my friends graduated in the two years before I did. And I had a lot of friends from other schools.

And I regularly see the people I was closest to in all my high school years.

I live right beside one friend and down twork houses down was another.

But he died two years ago. Heart attack out of the blue. Seems a good number have died.

Great. Now I'm kinda bummed.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 19th of November 2015 01:43:21 PM

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

flan327 wrote:
chef wrote:
I have never been to a high school reunion and probably never will. I just don't have an interest in it.
Same here. I was pretty much invisible in high school.
flan

This is me on both counts. I was a loner. Very few friends. I did get in touch with the few friends I wanted to from FB. Turns out my BFF that I knew from Kindergarten to high school graduation is quite the whackaloon. We both had younger sisters the same age. I am now really good friends with her younger sister and her mom. The three of us FB all the time. I'm fine with where I'm at.

weltschmerz · Guru

I didn't really hang out with the kids in high school. I hung out with the college kids across the street, at McGill University.
I barely attended classes in high school. I mostly showed up to write exams and to turn in papers. My teachers didn't seem to mind. I was a straight A student.

chef · Guru

Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:
chef wrote:
I have never been to a high school reunion and probably never will. I just don't have an interest in it.
Same here. I was pretty much invisible in high school.
flan
This is me on both counts. I was a loner. Very few friends. I did get in touch with the few friends I wanted to from FB. Turns out my BFF that I knew from Kindergarten to high school graduation is quite the whackaloon. We both had younger sisters the same age. I am now really good friends with her younger sister and her mom. The three of us FB all the time. I'm fine with where I'm at.

Kind of the same for me. I was severely bullied at the first high school I went to. I loved the second high school. But, school was for education in my eyes and I did not bother making friends. I did have some friends but none of the bff go to the mall and have sleepovers kind of stuff. It didn't help that I had zero interest in the popular discussion topics.

I was and am a loner. I don't have a desire for a large social circle and never have. I was also never a party person. I never (and still don't) understand why alcohol is a thing. Sure, I enjoy a good margarita but if I never had one again, I wouldn't miss it. I don't understand the 'going to the bar/club' thing. I was the one who asked the teacher if we had homework. I voluntarily went to summer school to get ahead.

chef · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
I didn't really hang out with the kids in high school. I hung out with the college kids across the street, at McGill University.
I barely attended classes in high school. I mostly showed up to write exams and to turn in papers. My teachers didn't seem to mind. I was a straight A student.

Your high school didn't have truant laws?

weltschmerz · Guru

chef wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
I didn't really hang out with the kids in high school. I hung out with the college kids across the street, at McGill University.
I barely attended classes in high school. I mostly showed up to write exams and to turn in papers. My teachers didn't seem to mind. I was a straight A student.
Your high school didn't have truant laws?

It was a different time. The teachers seemed quite happy with my grades.

Maybe they got in touch with my parents...I don't know. My parents couldn't speak English.

flan327 · Itty bitty's Grammy

chef wrote:
Nobody Just Nobody wrote:
flan327 wrote:
chef wrote:
I have never been to a high school reunion and probably never will. I just don't have an interest in it.
Same here. I was pretty much invisible in high school.
flan
This is me on both counts. I was a loner. Very few friends. I did get in touch with the few friends I wanted to from FB. Turns out my BFF that I knew from Kindergarten to high school graduation is quite the whackaloon. We both had younger sisters the same age. I am now really good friends with her younger sister and her mom. The three of us FB all the time. I'm fine with where I'm at.
Kind of the same for me. I was severely bullied at the first high school I went to. I loved the second high school. But, school was for education in my eyes and I did not bother making friends. I did have some friends but none of the bff go to the mall and have sleepovers kind of stuff. It didn't help that I had zero interest in the popular discussion topics.
I was and am a loner. I don't have a desire for a large social circle and never have. I was also never a party person. I never (and still don't) understand why alcohol is a thing. Sure, I enjoy a good margarita but if I never had one again, I wouldn't miss it. I don't understand the 'going to the bar/club' thing. I was the one who asked the teacher if we had homework. I voluntarily went to summer school to get ahead.

You would not believe how shy I was. I had gone to a Catholic school for 8 years & had no idea how to dress, among other things.

College was worse.

I guess I'm a late bloomer!

flan

weltschmerz · Guru

Besides, what were they going to say?
"Your child is excelling in school, and is doing great with her enriched classes! This is totally unacceptable!"

Ohfour · Hooker

weltschmerz wrote:
Besides, what were they going to say?
"Your child is excelling in school, and is doing great with her enriched classes! This is totally unacceptable!"

We have laws here. If you are out more than a certain number of days (I think 12 1st semester, 15 2nd semester) you fail. Period. No matter what your grades. A former co-worker actually went to jail for 30 days for her kid skipping school...

weltschmerz · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Besides, what were they going to say?
"Your child is excelling in school, and is doing great with her enriched classes! This is totally unacceptable!"
We have laws here. If you are out more than a certain number of days (I think 12 1st semester, 15 2nd semester) you fail. Period. No matter what your grades. A former co-worker actually went to jail for 30 days for her kid skipping school...

Again...it was a different time.

I'm sure you couldn't get away with doing it now.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

I had some very good friends in school and I enjoy seeing them when I go. We get together sometimes just us when I go home.

Ohfour · Hooker

weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Besides, what were they going to say?
"Your child is excelling in school, and is doing great with her enriched classes! This is totally unacceptable!"
We have laws here. If you are out more than a certain number of days (I think 12 1st semester, 15 2nd semester) you fail. Period. No matter what your grades. A former co-worker actually went to jail for 30 days for her kid skipping school...
Again...it was a different time.
I'm sure you couldn't get away with doing it now.

However, I think that the laws are bogus. It's tied to funding. If you make the grades, why do you have to be in class every minute? I actually like your experience. It's the way it should be...

weltschmerz · Guru

Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Ohfour wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
Besides, what were they going to say?
"Your child is excelling in school, and is doing great with her enriched classes! This is totally unacceptable!"
We have laws here. If you are out more than a certain number of days (I think 12 1st semester, 15 2nd semester) you fail. Period. No matter what your grades. A former co-worker actually went to jail for 30 days for her kid skipping school...
Again...it was a different time.
I'm sure you couldn't get away with doing it now.
However, I think that the laws are bogus. It's tied to funding. If you make the grades, why do you have to be in class every minute? I actually like your experience. It's the way it should be...

It was great. When the weather was nice, McGill had some of their classes outside. I'd sit in on everything from philosophy to theology classes. I learned a lot.

When the weather was lousy, I'd participate in marathon chess tournaments in the university cafeteria.

High school bored me.

FNW · Guru

In law school if you missed more than 2 classes within a semester, you were out the door.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

I never skipped school. Can't imagine just skipping.

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
I haven't had the chance to go to one. I was always working.

Thing about my class reunion, I wasn't really close to anyone in my graduating class. All my friends graduated in the two years before I did. And I had a lot of friends from other schools.

And I regularly see the people I was closest to in all my high school years.

I live right beside one friend and down twork houses down was another.
But he died two years ago. Heart attack out of the blue. Seems a good number have died.
Great. Now I'm kinda bummed.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 19th of November 2015 01:43:21 PM

Ah. thats what happens when you flunk a grade or two. wink

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
I never skipped school. Can't imagine just skipping.

What? I was a goody goody virgin and I skipped school!

huskerbb · Guru

I'd stay home from school a lot to work on the farm.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
I haven't had the chance to go to one. I was always working.

Thing about my class reunion, I wasn't really close to anyone in my graduating class. All my friends graduated in the two years before I did. And I had a lot of friends from other schools.

And I regularly see the people I was closest to in all my high school years.

I live right beside one friend and down twork houses down was another.
But he died two years ago. Heart attack out of the blue. Seems a good number have died.
Great. Now I'm kinda bummed.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 19th of November 2015 01:43:21 PM
Ah. thats what happens when you flunk a grade or two.

Or you know a lot of people.

Yes, I did repeat 8th grade.

When I went from private to public, not all the credits would transfer.

So. There was that.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
I never skipped school. Can't imagine just skipping.
What? I was a goody goody virgin and I skipped school!

Getting out of school was so easy, skipping was not necessary.

Ohfour · Hooker

I was the QUEEN of skipping school. I went from an all girls Catholic School, where if you weren't there, they immediately called a parent. Then I went to the largest Public HS in the state. and they didn't give a rip if you were there or not (until you used up your allotted amount of days). I failed that last half of my Jr year and the first half of my Senior year, even though I was a straight A student...

huskerbb · Guru

lilyofcourse wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
I haven't had the chance to go to one. I was always working.

Thing about my class reunion, I wasn't really close to anyone in my graduating class. All my friends graduated in the two years before I did. And I had a lot of friends from other schools.

And I regularly see the people I was closest to in all my high school years.

I live right beside one friend and down twork houses down was another.
But he died two years ago. Heart attack out of the blue. Seems a good number have died.
Great. Now I'm kinda bummed.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 19th of November 2015 01:43:21 PM
Ah. thats what happens when you flunk a grade or two.
Or you know a lot of people.
Yes, I did repeat 8th grade.
When I went from private to public, not all the credits would transfer.
So. There was that.

Oh lighten up. I was just joking around.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
I haven't had the chance to go to one. I was always working.

Thing about my class reunion, I wasn't really close to anyone in my graduating class. All my friends graduated in the two years before I did. And I had a lot of friends from other schools.

And I regularly see the people I was closest to in all my high school years.

I live right beside one friend and down twork houses down was another.
But he died two years ago. Heart attack out of the blue. Seems a good number have died.
Great. Now I'm kinda bummed.

-- Edited by lilyofcourse on Thursday 19th of November 2015 01:43:21 PM
Ah. thats what happens when you flunk a grade or two.
Or you know a lot of people.
Yes, I did repeat 8th grade.
When I went from private to public, not all the credits would transfer.
So. There was that.
Oh lighten up. I was just joking around.

I know. I was just adding to the conversation.

No harm, no foul.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Ohfour wrote:
I was the QUEEN of skipping school. I went from an all girls Catholic School, where if you weren't there, they immediately called a parent. Then I went to the largest Public HS in the state. and they didn't give a rip if you were there or not (until you used up your allotted amount of days). I failed that last half of my Jr year and the first half of my Senior year, even though I was a straight A student...

I just checked myself out. It was easy.

Senior year, I was there about 4 hours and would leave.

Shoot. I can't tell you how many times I walked home during the day in 8th grade.

We lived one house from the school.

I'd go home and get things I needed or eat lunch or whatever.

No one ever said a thing.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Lawyerlady wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
I never skipped school. Can't imagine just skipping.
What? I was a goody goody virgin and I skipped school!

Well so was i and now i have one upped ya! lol

I know what to do_sometimes · Frozen Sucks!

I enjoyed the two re unions I went to, but those people are not in my life anymore. I really have no desire to make the effort to travel to see them. If I happen to run into someone, I am happy to have a meal and chat. I have lots of them as FB friends and that is fine.

huskerbb · Guru

"why can't we be friends, why can't we be friends,...."

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

The only people from high school I keep in contact with, were always my friends.

The rest, I do not care to see again. They weren't important to my life back then and I don't see that changing because of a stupid class reunion.

DH hates reunions as well.

Just not worth our time.