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DEAR ABBY: My wife and I host many holidays, Thanksgiving, Passover, etc. Invariably, everyone gathers in the family room and several people put their legs up on the ottoman with their shoes on. It drives me crazy! I view it as no different than walking on someone's furniture.

My wife thinks I should say something. I actually have done that in the past, but not for years. When I did, it made me look like the bad guy. Is this a weird fetish of mine or am I right? -- PAUL IN BUFFALO GROVE, ILL.

DEAR PAUL: If you prefer that your guests not put their feet on your furniture with their shoes on, speak up and say so. Doing that doesn't make you a bad guy or a fetishist. It's your home, your preference, and it isn't rude to address something that bothers you, especially since it's something that you have mentioned before.



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I'd remove the ottoman.

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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse



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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Shoes are not feet.  Shoes are nasty.



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I think an ottoman is meant to have feet on it, I do not as a general rule like shoes on the furniture, but I can see how an ottoman may be a gray area. I'd probably just put some kind of a throw over it.

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It also sounds like it could be a ****tail ottoman - the kind that stands in for a coffee table.

I just honestly can't believe anyone would think it ok to put their shoes up on someone else's furniture.

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It also sounds like it could be a ****tail ottoman - the kind that stands in for a coffee table.

I just honestly can't believe anyone would think it ok to put their shoes up on someone else's furniture.


When it's furniture that many think of as a footstool, I can see why they would think so.  I wouldn't think a thing of it if someone put their feet/shoes on what I use as my coffee table... 



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I do not like when people put their feet on my coffee table, my solution get an ottoman that's what it for.

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I hate wearing shoes in the house. I always take mine off at the door. Be it my door or someone else's door. My ex always wore his shoes in the house & it made me crazy when he'd put them on my glass coffee table.

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I would never dream of putting my shoes on someone else's furniture.

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Shoeless house here. Not an issue. And I don't care whether they put their feet up on my coffee table or ottoman. It's what it's for. If I didn't want them to do it, I'd remove them from the living room prior to the party.

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DH always wears his shoes in our house; I never do.

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I can't go without shoes. Or at the very least, comfy slippers, in the house.

It kills my back to walk around in socks.cry

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Ottoman would be moved to the side and used as another seat. But the purpose of an ottoman is to put your feet on. It would depend on the shoes but I would think those would be removed before using the ottoman.

The coffee tables are not foot stools. Not here in this house. Period.

And take your shoes off before putting your feet on the couch too.

And don't sit on the arm rests or throw your legs over them.



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No shoes on the furniture here. Prefer no shoes in the house but understand some people don't like going without shoes.

We don't have an ottoman but I'd probably request that shoes be slipped off before they put their feet up.

Frankly, DS does far more gross stuff to our couch than anybody's shoes ever could. I had to clean candy cane stickiness off the couch last night.

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Ohfour wrote:

I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Yeah.  What is an ottoman for, then?



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I do not like when people put their feet on my coffee table, my solution get an ottoman that's what it for.


 Yeah.  



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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Yeah.  What is an ottoman for, then?


 A bed is for laying down - do you do that with your shoes on? 

 



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No shoes in the house over here, but you probably knew that anyway.
When I go back to the US I always feel a little strange wearing shoes in the house.... Kind of like I am treating their house like a tool shed or barn, chicken coop, etc...

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Lawyerlady wrote:
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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Yeah.  What is an ottoman for, then?


 A bed is for laying down - do you do that with your shoes on? 

 


 Depends.  If I'm just crashing for a few minutes on top of the covers, I often do.  Going to bed under the covers at night, no.  

it's just not all that customary here to take your shoes off.  

If you have a c0cktail party, do all the women have to take their heels off?  That's absurd.



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Lawyerlady wrote:
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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Yeah.  What is an ottoman for, then?


 A bed is for laying down - do you do that with your shoes on? 

 


But an ottoman is specifically FOR feet.  You are supposed to prop your feet on an ottoman.  I would rather someone with shoes than with foul smelling feet prop their feet... 



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Ohfour wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Yeah.  What is an ottoman for, then?


 A bed is for laying down - do you do that with your shoes on? 

 


But an ottoman is specifically FOR feet.  You are supposed to prop your feet on an ottoman.  I would rather someone with shoes than with foul smelling feet prop their feet... 


 Amen to that.  Uncle so and so can just keep his shoes on.



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ladyloonatic wrote:

I think an ottoman is meant to have feet on it, I do not as a general rule like shoes on the furniture, but I can see how an ottoman may be a gray area. I'd probably just put some kind of a throw over it.


 That is what I would do, although being in the north east where the weather is typically snowy or such, people usually take their shoes off when they come in, so it isn't really an issue.



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ladyloonatic wrote:

I think an ottoman is meant to have feet on it, I do not as a general rule like shoes on the furniture, but I can see how an ottoman may be a gray area. I'd probably just put some kind of a throw over it.


 That is what I would do, although being in the north east where the weather is typically snowy or such, people usually take their shoes off when they come in, so it isn't really an issue.


IKWTDS, we wore boots, and brought a pair of shoes, or slippers with us, back in the day.

Don't folks do that anymore?confuse

I can't walk around in socks. It would leave me in pain, for days.cry 



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Ohfour wrote:

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OMG, I read that as foreskin..

 

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just Czech wrote:
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I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


OMG, I read that as foreskin..

 

(slinking away quietly) 


 Begs the question; what do you and your DH do with your ottomans?  



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I have mixed feelings on this. I can see where some people dont' really want to remove shoes. That can be uncomfortable. There are also a lot of people with foot odor so that might be embarrassing to them. I understand not really wanting shoes on the house if you are coming in from outside working in the garden. But, if someone is coming for dinner and has more formal shoes, then presumably, they haven't been out cleaning up dog poop in them so i would probably let the shoes on the furniture thing go for an occasional dinner party.

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I think an ottoman is meant to have feet on it, I do not as a general rule like shoes on the furniture, but I can see how an ottoman may be a gray area. I'd probably just put some kind of a throw over it.


 That is what I would do, although being in the north east where the weather is typically snowy or such, people usually take their shoes off when they come in, so it isn't really an issue.


IKWTDS, we wore boots, and brought a pair of shoes, or slippers with us, back in the day.

Don't folks do that anymore?confuse

I can't walk around in socks. It would leave me in pain, for days.cry 


   My feet get extremely cold.  I either need shoes on or slippers.  



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huskerbb wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
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Ohfour wrote:

I though an Ottoman was akin to a footstool...confuse


 Yeah.  What is an ottoman for, then?


 A bed is for laying down - do you do that with your shoes on? 

 


 Depends.  If I'm just crashing for a few minutes on top of the covers, I often do.  Going to bed under the covers at night, no.  

it's just not all that customary here to take your shoes off.  

If you have a c0cktail party, do all the women have to take their heels off?  That's absurd.


 So does DH. It's not a big deal to me.

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
ladyloonatic wrote:

I think an ottoman is meant to have feet on it, I do not as a general rule like shoes on the furniture, but I can see how an ottoman may be a gray area. I'd probably just put some kind of a throw over it.


 That is what I would do, although being in the north east where the weather is typically snowy or such, people usually take their shoes off when they come in, so it isn't really an issue.


 This.  If the weather is bad and you don't have a good rug to wipe them on, then shoes usually do come off--but that isn't always the case, it's usually not.



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Where My dd lives in Asia and I'm sure all of Asia you take your shoes off before entering a house or place of residence.

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Where My dd lives in Asia and I'm sure all of Asia you take your shoes off before entering a house or place of residence.


 I doubt the LW is living in Asia.



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Unless my guest are staying the night I do not expect them to take their shoes off.

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Regardless of whether YOU care - the person in the OP does, and therefore, people should be considerate and not put their shoes on his furniture.

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Regardless of whether YOU care - the person in the OP does, and therefore, people should be considerate and not put their shoes on his furniture.


 Not seeing to many Geeks I want in my house except LL.



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Y'all can all come and put your feet on my ottoman. Shoes and all. DH ruined it today!

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I know what to do_sometimes wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:

Regardless of whether YOU care - the person in the OP does, and therefore, people should be considerate and not put their shoes on his furniture.


 Not seeing to many Geeks I want in my house except LL.


 And meeeeeee!



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Ohfour wrote:
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Regardless of whether YOU care - the person in the OP does, and therefore, people should be considerate and not put their shoes on his furniture.


 Not seeing to many Geeks I want in my house except LL.


 And meeeeeee!


 Sure, just keep your stinky shoes off my ottoman.!



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