Dear Prudence,
I didn’t think I had a problem until a girls’ night out recently. I have been married for one year to my second husband, and I am currently pregnant with our first child together. (I have a 6-year-old from my first marriage.) My husband is 10 years older than me, a good man, husband, and stepfather, and provides well for us. Here’s the thing: My girlfriends and I were sharing a few laughs about the various quirks our men have. I mentioned that my husband is quite insistent that I am in bed by 9:30, with lights out by 10. You could have heard a pin drop, even after I explained he wants to make sure we both always get a good night’s sleep. They seemed to think he is overly controlling, which only got worse when I did actually have to leave so I could be home by 9. Is my husband too controlling?
—Early to Bed
Yes. You’re a grown woman and can surely set your own sleep schedule. There’s a fine line between being a creature of habit and being controlling and manipulative, and while your husband may have plenty of good qualities, this doesn’t sound like one of them.
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Good grief, if he was my DH, he would be in for a rude awakening.
How can women be so stupid?
Well, she has to ask her girlfriends if this is OK or normal? Obviously, he picked a younger woman with no backbone for a reason. And, he is going to get much more controlling after baby comes. No more girls' night outs or any nights out because she will not be allowed to leave the baby or take the baby anywhere. Good luck honey. You picked him.
WTF? I'd go to bed and then toss and turn and loudly sigh and ho and hum and complain loudly about how wide awake I was and how I couldn't go to sleep. Trust me. Twenty minutes of that and he'd be telling me to get out and come back when I wanted.
And JFTR, you can ask FWM, I am a very very nice person until you push me. Then my bitch comes out.
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I hated having a bed time when I was a kid. I hate being told I need to go to bed now.
My kids are the way.
I can't imagine giving an adult a bedtime.
Although the playboy bunnies have a 9pm curfew unless they are escorted.
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