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Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear Abby: Brother hasnt' contacted me in 14 Years

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Dear sister. Face reality. He doesn't Care about you. Sorry, that is a harsh truth and reality. There are lots of people in the world who don't give a schit about anybody but themselves. Your brother is most likely one of those people. THat's sucks but that is the harsh truth and reality. Which means you need to move past the fantasy of the family you never had and will never have.
Go ahead and make contact and see where it leads. But brace yourself to the reality that it most likely isn't going to change.

ed11563 · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Dear sister. Face reality. He doesn't Care about you. Sorry, that is a harsh truth and reality. There are lots of people in the world who don't give a schit about anybody but themselves. Your brother is most likely one of those people. THat's sucks but that is the harsh truth and reality. Which means you need to move past the fantasy of the family you never had and will never have.
Go ahead and make contact and see where it leads. But brace yourself to the reality that it most likely isn't going to change.

Or, he might think that SHE is mad at HIM for some reason.

Why is she in a group home? That information might help.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yes, i would wonder why she is in a group home too. But she might think he is mad. However, most likely, he just doesn't CARE.

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.

Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.

We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.

My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.

Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

See, I thought it probably WAS for mental disability because of the OP. The OP "hasn't accomplished much job wise" and may have called the brother incessantly before. It also seems to be written in rather simple language. And the OP talks about the brother in absolutes - he hates the OP, they didn't fight. The OP doesn't seem to understand the shades of gray, KWIM? You don't have to have a fight or be mean to someone for them to not want to be around you. But the OP doesn't get that. It sounds like a cognitive disability to me.

Again, that's all speculation. But I would think someone with an addiction or out of prison would have stated as much. The OP seems to know that he/she is different but really isn't aware of HOW different.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Yes but i think the brother should have some understanding of that

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

So the phone lines, postal service and Internet only works one way?

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Yes but i think the brother should have some understanding of that

Yes he should. But some people suck. He might not be able to deal with it. He might be resentful of the time and attention the OP got from their parents. He might just be a terrible person.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

Sounds like a mental disability to me. Honestly. This sounds like my son. He can write a letter just like this. He often doesn't understand the feelings of others. Not out of meanness but out of ignorance due to his disability. He honestly doesn't understand sometimes that he had annoyed people or worn out his welcome or however you want to phrase it.

weltschmerz · Guru

huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.

What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?

Ahhh, disjointed.

I know, I live with one.

lilyofcourse · My spirit animal is a pink flamingo.

Yeah. You know it when you read it.

weltschmerz · Guru

just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?
Ahhh, disjointed.
I know, I live with one.

Not necessarily. There are all kinds of mental illness/disability, not just like the one you live with.

Disjointed would fall more into the realm of mental illness, not mental disability. The letter sounds like it was written by a child.

Furthermore, these people tend to have very poor judgement and insight. They think it's perfectly reasonable to call someone 100 times a day. Then they're surprised when people avoid them.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Her friend says she called her brother incessantly years ago, but she doesn't remember it. I'm voting she's an addict, too, and he has just learned to live without her.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?
Ahhh, disjointed.
I know, I live with one.
Not necessarily. There are all kinds of mental illness/disability, not just like the one you live with.
Disjointed would fall more into the realm of mental illness, not mental disability. The letter sounds like it was written by a child.
Furthermore, these people tend to have very poor judgement and insight. They think it's perfectly reasonable to call someone 100 times a day. Then they're surprised when people avoid them.

Apparently you do not live with someone mentally disabled. Yeah, she's disjointed in speaking and writing.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Her friend says she called her brother incessantly years ago, but she doesn't remember it. I'm voting she's an addict, too, and he has just learned to live without her.

This would be my guess as well.

Nobody Just Nobody · Rib-it! Rrrib-it!

weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?
Ahhh, disjointed.
I know, I live with one.
Not necessarily. There are all kinds of mental illness/disability, not just like the one you live with.
Disjointed would fall more into the realm of mental illness, not mental disability. The letter sounds like it was written by a child.
Furthermore, these people tend to have very poor judgement and insight. They think it's perfectly reasonable to call someone 100 times a day. Then they're surprised when people avoid them.

You just described my son to a T.

weltschmerz · Guru

just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?
Ahhh, disjointed.
I know, I live with one.
Not necessarily. There are all kinds of mental illness/disability, not just like the one you live with.
Disjointed would fall more into the realm of mental illness, not mental disability. The letter sounds like it was written by a child.
Furthermore, these people tend to have very poor judgement and insight. They think it's perfectly reasonable to call someone 100 times a day. Then they're surprised when people avoid them.
Apparently you do not live with someone mentally disabled. Yeah, she's disjointed in speaking and writing.

Just because SHE'S disjointed, doesn't mean all mentally-disabled people are the same. I've worked with the mentally disabled/mentally ill for over 35 years.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?
Ahhh, disjointed.
I know, I live with one.
Not necessarily. There are all kinds of mental illness/disability, not just like the one you live with.
Disjointed would fall more into the realm of mental illness, not mental disability. The letter sounds like it was written by a child.
Furthermore, these people tend to have very poor judgement and insight. They think it's perfectly reasonable to call someone 100 times a day. Then they're surprised when people avoid them.
Apparently you do not live with someone mentally disabled. Yeah, she's disjointed in speaking and writing.
Just because SHE'S disjointed, doesn't mean all mentally-disabled people are the same. I've worked with the mentally disabled/mentally ill for over 35 years.

LOL. I've lived with her for 23 years, so yeah, I have some experience. I also worked with the mentally disabled for 9 years.

Depends on functioning abilities. Most, not all, have trouble writing a well thought out letter.

huskerbb · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Mellow Momma wrote:
I would like to know what type of group home it is. There are group homes for those with mental disabilities, group homes for addiction, and group homes for those released from prison.
Yeah, there is likely more to this story. She may have burned the bridges much more than she is willing to admit.
We don't know why she is in the group home, but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled. It's hard to imagine that her brother would have completely cut her off due to some mental or physical disability.
My bet is that she was an addict. He probably watched her drift in and out of rehabs most of her life, take advantage of and possibly even steal from their parents or even him--and he's tired of it. Addicts only rarely, and usually only after they've had some "come to Jesus" moment, admit their part in all of this.
Again, we don't know and that is all speculation, of course, but I feel confident that even if I don't have the exact scenario correct, there is much more to the story than she put in the letter.
What does a letter from a mentally disabled person sound like?

Well, that depends on the severity of the disability.

weltschmerz · Guru

I grw up with a very violent Down's Syndrome person. Using your logic, all Down's syndrome people are violent.

huskerbb · Guru

Mellow Momma wrote:
Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
Yes but i think the brother should have some understanding of that
Yes he should. But some people suck. He might not be able to deal with it. He might be resentful of the time and attention the OP got from their parents. He might just be a terrible person.

He might be--or, it's just as likely, and probably more so--that there is a LOT more to this than the LW lets on.

Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.

weltschmerz · Guru

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.

Exactly. That's why I questioned huskers statement....

but from her letter, she doesn't sound mentally disabled.

huskerbb · Guru

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.

But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.

Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

huskerbb wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.

I have no idea. I just don't see drug addict in the letter, I see mental disability.

weltschmerz · Guru

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.
I have no idea. I just don't see drug addict in the letter, I see mental disability.

Me too.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

weltschmerz wrote:
I grw up with a very violent Down's Syndrome person. Using your logic, all Down's syndrome people are violent.

Most, not all, Down's syndrome people ARE violent on some level.

Really, you're going to tell them they don't have uncontrolled outbursts?

Using your logic, all mentally disabled people write well written letters.

Phbbt

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

"I live in a group home and wonder if he's ashamed of me. He has accomplished more job-wise than I have." - from the letter.

Speaks of poor life choices, IMHO.

Lindley · Guru

I haven't talk to my brother for almost two years. I know he loves me and I love him. He works a lot and has two active kids he adopted and 9 I don't know the best to call and right now his nuclear family is the top priority. He also hates talking on the phone. I do connect with his wife now and then.

She may have been driving him crazy with the hundreds of phone calls and afraid that even one call may start her to call him constantly all over again.

-- Edited by Lindley on Sunday 6th of December 2015 04:28:37 PM

weltschmerz · Guru

just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
I grw up with a very violent Down's Syndrome person. Using your logic, all Down's syndrome people are violent.
Most, not all, Down's syndrome people ARE violent on some level.
Really, you're going to tell them they don't have uncontrolled outbursts?
Using your logic, all mentally disabled people write well written letters.
Phbbt

Don't be absurd. Where did I say they ALL write well-written letters?

...and it's physically violent. I grew up with a physically violent Downs person who tried to kill my sister. Most are not physically violent.

Lindley · Guru

weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
I grw up with a very violent Down's Syndrome person. Using your logic, all Down's syndrome people are violent.
Most, not all, Down's syndrome people ARE violent on some level.
Really, you're going to tell them they don't have uncontrolled outbursts?
Using your logic, all mentally disabled people write well written letters.
Phbbt
Don't be absurd. Where did I say they ALL write well-written letters?
...and it's physically violent. I grew up with a physically violent Downs person who tried to kill my sister. Most are not physically violent.

How scary for both you and your sister. I always thought kids with down syndrome were sweet and gentle. I never heard of one being violent.

weltschmerz · Guru

Lindley wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
just Czech wrote:
weltschmerz wrote:
I grw up with a very violent Down's Syndrome person. Using your logic, all Down's syndrome people are violent.
Most, not all, Down's syndrome people ARE violent on some level.
Really, you're going to tell them they don't have uncontrolled outbursts?
Using your logic, all mentally disabled people write well written letters.
Phbbt
Don't be absurd. Where did I say they ALL write well-written letters?
...and it's physically violent. I grew up with a physically violent Downs person who tried to kill my sister. Most are not physically violent.
How scary for both you and your sister. I always thought kids with down syndrome were sweet and gentle. I never heard of one being violent.

Most are sweet and gentle.

Mellow Momma · Sniff...sniff, sniff. Yay! A Bum!

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.

I am betting the Dear Abbey people edited it for clarity.

Since it doesn't come out and state why the OP is in a group home, and the OP seems to be oblivious as to his/her differences and just how different they are from society...that is why I am saying they have cognitive differences.

aergia · Regular

Speaks of poor life choices, IMHO.

wonderful

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

aergia wrote:
Speaks of poor life choices, IMHO.

wonderful

Well, the mentally ill often make Poor life choices. Those two things often go hand in hand.

huskerbb · Guru

just Czech wrote:
"I live in a group home and wonder if he's ashamed of me. He has accomplished more job-wise than I have." - from the letter.

Speaks of poor life choices, IMHO.

Exactly. A mentally disabled person would never be expected to accomplish as much "job-wise" as a non-disabled sibling.

For a drug addict, though, it would be due to their choices.

Fort Worth Mom · Mod/Penguin lover/Princess!

Mellow Momma wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
I am betting the Dear Abbey people edited it for clarity.
Since it doesn't come out and state why the OP is in a group home, and the OP seems to be oblivious as to his/her differences and just how different they are from society...that is why I am saying they have cognitive differences.

Or, for space.

The bottom line for me is, there is no way to know, without more information.

I wouldn't even try to guess.

Not without more information.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.
I have no idea. I just don't see drug addict in the letter, I see mental disability.

And I didn't see mental disability at all. I see someone who has been an adult for quite some time, whose brother will have nothing to do with her - since she's not willing to admit even to herself the reason, that screams addict, because that is how addicts live and see the world - as no one understands and poor me.

Of course, I don't try to excuse all behavior and bad choices as mentally ill or disabled.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

OK, maybe she's an addict. So what? Yeah, maybe that is why Bro had disappeared. Who knows? I have never really heard of Sober living being called a "group home".

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
OK, maybe she's an addict. So what? Yeah, maybe that is why Bro had disappeared. Who knows? I have never really heard of Sober living being called a "group home".

Most of the group homes I know of are for people recently released from prison and needing adjustment to re-enter society.

huskerbb · Guru

Lady Gaga Snerd wrote:
OK, maybe she's an addict. So what? Yeah, maybe that is why Bro had disappeared. Who knows? I have never really heard of Sober living being called a "group home".

??? They are called group homes all the time when, you know, they ARE "group" homes.

There are many treatment programs that have them.

FNW · Guru

She probably obsessed over him. Her cousin told her she called him incessantly. She admits she is fixated on him. Creepy if you ask me.

Dona Worry Be Happy · Vette's SS!!

Lawyerlady wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.
I have no idea. I just don't see drug addict in the letter, I see mental disability.
And I didn't see mental disability at all. I see someone who has been an adult for quite some time, whose brother will have nothing to do with her - since she's not willing to admit even to herself the reason, that screams addict, because that is how addicts live and see the world - as no one understands and poor me.

Of course, I don't try to excuse all behavior and bad choices as mentally ill or disabled.

Just the childish way it is written. "I was never mean to him", "Why does he hate me?" "I really miss him."

And the group homes around here are all for people with some sort of mental disability, at least the those know of.

Of course, mental disability and addiction are not mutually exclusive. She might be in a group home for mental challenges, and her brother may be ashamed of her for being an addict.

just Czech · Give Me Grand's!

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.
I have no idea. I just don't see drug addict in the letter, I see mental disability.
And I didn't see mental disability at all. I see someone who has been an adult for quite some time, whose brother will have nothing to do with her - since she's not willing to admit even to herself the reason, that screams addict, because that is how addicts live and see the world - as no one understands and poor me.

Of course, I don't try to excuse all behavior and bad choices as mentally ill or disabled.
Just the childish way it is written. "I was never mean to him", "Why does he hate me?" "I really miss him."
And the group homes around here are all for people with some sort of mental disability, at least the those know of.
Of course, mental disability and addiction are not mutually exclusive. She might be in a group home for mental challenges, and her brother may be ashamed of her for being an addict.

There are numerous group homes for recovering drug addicts. I'm surprised so many are unaware of those homes.

I had two distant cousins who lived in group homes until they died of the side affects of their former drug use.

Lawyerlady · On the bright side...... Christmas is coming! (Mod)

Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
Lawyerlady wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
huskerbb wrote:
Dona Worry Be Happy wrote:
It sounds like a child wrote it, for sure. But, it is off. There are some very simple words and phrases mixed with slightly more complex ones.
I would believe a mentally challenged person wrote it, and a slightly more capable friend helped edit it a bit.
But I think if that is why she is in the group home--then why not state that? I think it's much more likely it's for a reason that is more embarrassing.
I have no idea. I just don't see drug addict in the letter, I see mental disability.
And I didn't see mental disability at all. I see someone who has been an adult for quite some time, whose brother will have nothing to do with her - since she's not willing to admit even to herself the reason, that screams addict, because that is how addicts live and see the world - as no one understands and poor me.

Of course, I don't try to excuse all behavior and bad choices as mentally ill or disabled.
Just the childish way it is written. "I was never mean to him", "Why does he hate me?" "I really miss him."
And the group homes around here are all for people with some sort of mental disability, at least the those know of.
Of course, mental disability and addiction are not mutually exclusive. She might be in a group home for mental challenges, and her brother may be ashamed of her for being an addict.

That's not actually how it was written. And her other sentences show a good command of the English language. I would not expect a mentally disabled person to use words like "incessantly" and "recall" instead of "remember". The language of the letter is not childish to me.

Mary Zombie · Guru

I am in the doesn't want to.start her calling incessantly again camp.
It's possible she is a bit slow because of drug abuse? I know an experience addict who I swear just fried his brain. He has no self awareness at all.

Lady Gaga Snerd · Guru

Well, calling him incessantly would be a problem obviously. But, that is no reason necessarily to never ever see her again. I mean, it isn't that hard to filter and screen your communications now. He could at least give her an email address and talk to her that way once in awhile.