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Dear Carolyn • Our son is 27, married and lives not far from us. Our daughter is 25 and lives a few hours away.

Daughter recently told me she witnessed her brother smoking a cigarette at a social event. Daughter begged me not to tell Son she “told on him,” or tell Dad that Son smokes. Dad is a physician and has long lectured our children, and anybody that will listen, about how smoking ravages the body.

I want to tell my husband so that together we can help Son quit. However, I promised Daughter I would not. — Smoking Mad

Answer • Then don’t.

Son knows, he knows, he knows, how smoking ravages bodies. Whether this was just one party cigarette or one of a pack a day, this is not your battle to fight.



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Are these people all children or all adults. Seems like an awful lot of tattling going on.

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I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.



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Oh FFS!

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ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 



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ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 

 What a bunch of freaking BUSYBODIES!!



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Yeah, I don't see why he owes anyone anything.

Adults can participate in legal activities.



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Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 

 His mother is now in a position where she has to either keep a big secret from her husband, or put that monkey on her son's back where it belongs.

 



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ed11563 wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 

 His mother is now in a position where she has to either keep a big secret from her husband, or put that monkey on her son's back where it belongs.

 

 Maybe.

But to issue an ultimatum? 

That's just ridiculous. 



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DS1 smokes. I've spoken to him about it before.

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lilyofcourse wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 

 His mother is now in a position where she has to either keep a big secret from her husband, or put that monkey on her son's back where it belongs.

 

 Maybe.

But to issue an ultimatum? 

That's just ridiculous. 

The son lives near by. If he were a regular smoker, the parents would know.

He probably bummed a smoke from a friend at the party. The sister saw him smoke ONE cigarette.

Good grief, people really need to mind their own business.

I know plenty of people who would never go out and buy a pack.

But, every once in a while, they will bum one. Usually while drinking at a party.

It's not a big deal.

He's 27. Not 7. Leave it alone. 



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Fort Worth Mom wrote:
lilyofcourse wrote:
ed11563 wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 

 His mother is now in a position where she has to either keep a big secret from her husband, or put that monkey on her son's back where it belongs.

 

 Maybe.

But to issue an ultimatum? 

That's just ridiculous. 

The son lives near by. If he were a regular smoker, the parents would know.

He probably bummed a smoke from a friend at the party. The sister saw him smoke ONE cigarette.

Good grief, people really need to mind their own business.

I know plenty of people who would never go out and buy a pack.

But, every once in a while, they will bum one. Usually while drinking at a party.

It's not a big deal.

He's 27. Not 7. Leave it alone. 

 Yeah, I am so tired of the anti smoking crowd, or should I say the judging crowd.  as if their opinion will sway anyone from doing anything they know is not good for them.



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I'm in the "mind your own business" camp.

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FNW wrote:

I'm in the "mind your own business" camp.

 Yep, that and the ffs camp.  I get it that parents love their kids and are concerned by what appears to be unhealthy behavior no matter the age of the child, but seriously?  



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ed11563 wrote:
Divine Geek wrote:
ed11563 wrote:

I'm about as serious an anti-tobacco person as there is.

 

I think this mother should tell her son that SOMEONE saw him smoking. Then tell him, "either you tell your father by this coming Sunday, or I will."

She has no reason to tell him WHO saw him smoking, or where.

 

Then she can buy him a month's supply of Nicorette gum.

 the son has no responsibility to tell his father anything. He is an adult, engaging in a legal activity. Unhealthy, but legal. I do plenty of things that I don't tell my parents about because I'm an adult and it's none of their business. 

 His mother is now in a position where she has to either keep a big secret from her husband, or put that monkey on her son's back where it belongs.

 

 There is no "monkey".  Unless you are into Drama and choose to pick one up.  



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What are you going to do? Take away his birthday? He's an adult. Mom and dad may not like it, but he can smoke if he wants to.

If he's smart (and he has been on this issue to date), he won't do it around them so they don't have a chance to constantly harp on him about it.

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Mom should not say a word. Right now, with them "not" knowing, it will make son smoke less by hiding it from them. Once they "know", he won't have to hide it, anymore.

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Oh good grief, grow up, leave it alone, butt out and FFS.

Still need that head banging emoticon. Sigh

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